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ORIGINAL: iwillserveu

OK if you want to play semantics, MadameBette, you are right. One can not make another person feel anything.

The dominant should provide an enviroment where the sub can feel owned.

Yes, if two days journey with sleeping on a bus results in playing scrabble and if ten seconds to tie my hands and leave the room is too much to ask, then I am a do - me sub. Funny thing is I bet I have a lot of company.

And, yes, we communicated before hand. These board are littered with it as well as private correspondance.

Let me ask you something as a reader. I write stories. Would you say you ever read a story where the highlight was a four year old taking a band aid off a hairy knee?

In that correspondance I don't recall if we ever discussed bondage. I did not think she needed me to explain what the "B" was for in BDSM.