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subdelicious -> Is He bi? (11/26/2006 12:03:49 PM)

i've been getting to know a Dom online and recently on the phone since summer.  This afternoon he called and said that while he was in the shower this morning, he wondered what i would think if a man performed oral sex on him.  He added that given the opportunity, he wouldn't mind it.  He would want me to watch.  This isn't the first time he's mentioned that sort of thing.  He believes that everyone could be bi and act on it if in the right circumstance.
i'm wondering if he isn't really bi.....

Does anyone have an opinion?

i've been thinking since i talked to him today, that maybe he should act on this....just to be sure one way or the other.  (He claims he is not bi.)
Any suggestions?  i don't want to just ignore this and get more involved....just for him to find out later he's not really into women!  [sm=confused.gif]




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Is He bi? (11/26/2006 12:06:43 PM)

Um if he's bi, that means he's into women and men.

It sounds like he's bi-curious at least.  And yes, it would make sense for him to start exploring based on his feelings and fantasies- as should we all.



subdelicious -> RE: Is He bi? (11/26/2006 12:09:47 PM)

LuckyAlbatross....sorry, i didn't make myself clear.  I do know what bi means....i do not think he's gay.  But for me, i would not want to be in a relationship with a bi man.  That's why i'm questioning his desires.
Thank you for your response.



KatyLied -> RE: Is He bi? (11/26/2006 12:15:39 PM)

It's obvious he has bi-willing desires from what he has shared with you.



amativedame -> RE: Is He bi? (11/26/2006 12:18:33 PM)

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He believes that everyone could be bi


If he's said that... then he believes that he could be bi, meaning at the very least he's bi-curious.  Odds are pretty good that if its not the first time he's brought something like that up he really is bi.



Missokyst -> RE: Is He bi? (11/26/2006 12:19:01 PM)

I agree with Katy.  The man has brought it up to you, it isn't as though he is hiding that curiousity.  If you don't want to be involved with a bi male, it is best to drop out now. 
Kyst
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

It's obvious he has bi-willing desires from what he has shared with you.



Level -> RE: Is He bi? (11/26/2006 12:23:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

It's obvious he has bi-willing desires from what he has shared with you.


Yup. If he wants to see another male swishing his semen around in his mouth like a judge at a wine-tasting contest, he is bi.



crouchingtigress -> RE: Is He bi? (11/26/2006 12:32:41 PM)

lol level...i was thinking that too...just not in such graphic imagerery...[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m17.gif[/image]



clodivs -> RE: Is He bi? (11/26/2006 12:32:55 PM)

I wouldn't worry about it, if his interest in you doesn't seem to be waning.  He could just want to be sadistic towards a guy, and sexual humiliation is just one of the more primal methods.



Level -> RE: Is He bi? (11/26/2006 12:36:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

lol level...i was thinking that too...just not in such graphic imagerery...[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m17.gif[/image]


Hi Amy [;)]. If he feels that way, then he does, nothing wrong with it, but the OP shouldn't fool herself, either he has a nutty sense of humor, or he is bi/bi-curious.
 
I shouldn't post right after waking up from a nap lol.....



MisPandora -> RE: Is He bi? (11/26/2006 12:40:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: subdelicious

LuckyAlbatross....sorry, i didn't make myself clear.  I do know what bi means....i do not think he's gay.  But for me, i would not want to be in a relationship with a bi man.  That's why i'm questioning his desires.
Thank you for your response.

You'd have more knowledge about it than we would, since you know him. If you don't want to be involved with a guy who has those desires (whether acted on or not, they are bisexual thoughts), you have your answer already.....it seems you already know what he is and feel that. 



crouchingtigress -> RE: Is He bi? (11/26/2006 12:45:06 PM)

lol nothing wrong with it...i know i know...buuuuuuuuuut the whole 'semen swishing thing' ....well lets just say gay or straight that is so NOT my thing.[;)]
 
but then again some folks might feel that way about some of the things that are my thing...so there ya go...
 
now as to the nutty sence of humor....i dont know too many straight guys who joke about semen swishing...sure they make homo phobic jokes and all but not of such an intimate nature...so if it is his obtuse sense of humor...my she she is in for a bumby ride...(i personally have a very whacky sence of humor so i would not mind, but it can drive many a folk away....
 
speaking of naps...boy that sounds good....see you in 20 mins....[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m20.gif[/image]...*smooch*



Level -> RE: Is He bi? (11/26/2006 12:47:17 PM)

Agreed on the humor thing, few straight guys would do it, and even if he's one of them, she might not be able to handle it.
 
Sleep well *smooch back*



SamKeithsslave -> RE: Is He bi? (11/26/2006 1:07:22 PM)

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ORIGINAL: subdelicious
i've been getting to know a Dom online and recently on the phone since summer.  This afternoon he called and said that while he was in the shower this morning, he wondered what i would think if a man performed oral sex on him. 

I'm curious, what was your response when he asked? Did you tell him that you were not interested in being with a bi man?

He added that given the opportunity, he wouldn't mind it.  He would want me to watch.  This isn't the first time he's mentioned that sort of thing.  He believes that everyone could be bi and act on it if in the right circumstance.
i'm wondering if he isn't really bi.....

As others have said, he seems to at least be bi-curious. I dont think this means he is gay.

Does anyone have an opinion?

i've been thinking since i talked to him today, that maybe he should act on this....just to be sure one way or the other.  (He claims he is not bi.)

I was in a relationship once where the guy was straight, yet at a party allowed another man to give him oral. I tried to tell him that at that moment he was bi-curious, but he denied it - silly really to deny the obvious. Your Dom is claiming he isnt bi, he may be right.

Any suggestions?  i don't want to just ignore this and get more involved....just for him to find out later he's not really into women!  [sm=confused.gif]

I dont think he isnt into women. I tend to think the way the question was posed it may even be a case that he was asking you if it is something you would enjoy watching, and if so he would do it for you?





Focus50 -> RE: Is He bi? (11/26/2006 1:08:18 PM)

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ORIGINAL: subdelicious
He believes that everyone could be bi and act on it if in the right circumstance.

This is the clincher for me - I'd doubt very few straight blokes believe this.  Now, substitute 'murderer' for 'bi' and you'd get many more affirmative responses.
 
He's tossing out feelers to gauge your reaction and I think you should ask him outright because A), it obviously irks you and B), he knows a lot more than the subtle clues he's been dropping - I simply don't believe straight men have gay fantasies.  And I think you're in for misery (given your own position on a bisexual partner) if he back pedals and claims he's really straight.
 
Focus.



NINASHARP -> RE: Is He bi? (11/26/2006 1:53:56 PM)

I agree with Focus50, you would be better to find out now point blank, and 1. either deal with him exloring his bi fantasies or 2. decide its not for you and find someone who is hetro.

Better to be sorry now then to be a few more months or years into it and be really miserable. 



whisperedsighs -> RE: Is He bi? (11/26/2006 2:00:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: subdelicious

LuckyAlbatross....sorry, i didn't make myself clear.  I do know what bi means....i do not think he's gay.  But for me, i would not want to be in a relationship with a bi man.  That's why i'm questioning his desires.
Thank you for your response.


You need to bring this out into the open.  If you do not want to date a bisexual man, and he has expressed these fantasies, then you need to address them with him open and honestly.  From what you are sharing my guess is he is at least bi-curious, and there is a good chance he is bisexual. 



sunnydays -> RE: Is He bi? (11/26/2006 2:10:34 PM)

i agree with everyone here.. but also concider this.. it is the fact he wants to experiment with guys,or the fact he has asked you to watch..???

if it is the watchign thing your not so happy about ( as i feel there is more to the story about you being worried he might decide he isnt into woman) then maybe concider enabling him to experimant without your knowledge ond/or presence.

sunny



Missokyst -> RE: Is He bi? (11/26/2006 2:15:09 PM)

[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m25.gif[/image]I don't know why this keeps running through my head but..
If it walks like a duck...



bitchboi2 -> RE: Is He bi? (11/26/2006 2:21:27 PM)

personaly, i think he just wants to humiliate a guy and have you watch



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