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adaddysgirl -> RE: Ignorance (12/3/2006 9:07:46 PM)

In light of your last post, i am responding to your OP.
 
quote:

ORIGINAL: servussemper

I then preceded to ignore him, and he replied once more to inform me that he was going to block me which was no skin off my tush. I guess the reason I came here is to ask, does anyone else have this problem. Is there something wrong with my profile that may have stated or called upon this person to completely break down my barriers?
 
i read your profile.  i think you state your preferences rather clearly.
 
Is there anyway that I can reformat my profile to better state what I am in need of or looking for so it doesn't make people like this assume that I am a whore? Or am I completely off my rocker?
 
To me, your profile does not make you sound like a whore.  You have an arrangement with your Master and you seem to explain that quite well.



Now with that being said, perhaps you can see that the problem those here were addressing was not your profile, but the way you handled that particular exchange.  Most here were saying they would just brush the dumbass off, or block him, or tell him to take a hike, etc.  That is probably what most would do if they received such an email, and that is what they were advising you. 
 
But then GG came in and gave you kudos for your 'mature' way of handling the situation.  In a sense, he missed the point.  If he is your friend/mentor/guardian, whatever, he should have actually advised you to not bother with such trolls in the future....regardless of how 'mature' your responses to him were.
 
Think of it this way:  if a dom truly reads your profile and is serious about getting involved with you, he would not have responded as that dumbass did.  He probably would have expressed an interest and asked what he had to do to get your Master's approval.  But because he had no respect for neither you nor your Master by coming off as he did, you really owe him no respect back.  Now if you did not want to be rude, a simple polite note telling him that he could write back when he understood what it was he needed to do if he were interested (or something along those lines), should have been sufficient.  His initial email was upsetting, but you furthered communication by the way you handled it.
 
Yes, perhaps you used poor judgment (we all do at times) but that is what GG should have told you.  He should not have commended your maturity.  If he is your mentor (or whatever), he should have presented a better way for you to handle such situations in the future.
 
So tell me.....what have you learned from all of this?  The next time some dickstick writes with some obnoxious question or command, how will you respond?  Afterall, what you learned from all of this is really what matters most.  And if you so choose to perpetrate a conversation with such a moron because that appears 'mature', then i'm afraid you will be continuing to have the same problems over and over again.
 
Best wishes to all of you.
 
DG
 
 



KeirasSecret -> RE: Ignorance (12/3/2006 9:09:07 PM)

To the OP: I personally can not remember receiving any emails as disrespectful as that. When I do get ones that are disrespectful; I usually like to play a little cat and mouse by asking them questions on what they or their profiles say.

In your situation, I might have asked if they talk to all women that way, if not, what about me made them pick me specially to do that with. Depending on the response I might ask how that was working for them or inform them they may want to try a different approach because it did nothing for me. When I was satisfied I would then hit block (not delete though cause Sir reads all emails). This way not only have I resolved the problem of having to deal with them again but, I have also given myself some closure which I don’t find just hitting block can accomplish.

k

i make plans...God just laughs



servussemper -> RE: Ignorance (12/3/2006 9:13:33 PM)

Thanks everyone again for the answers. Yes I did learn my lesson there are very dumb people out there and the block feature is put their for a reason and now that my Master has shown me where on the screen it is since I can't see it I will use it quite often I believe.



mistoferin -> RE: Ignorance (12/3/2006 9:36:44 PM)

fast reply........

There have been several on this thread who have stated that they enjoy playing games with men like the OP was referring to. I'm trying to understand why. The Op stated that this man's opening line was to ask if she were "playing with her hot, wet cunt". I can't understand why anyone would wish to respond to someone who was such a pig. Is it because this is the internet? Surely, if a man came up to you on the street and asked if you enjoyed playing with your hot, wet cunt....no one would try to be respectful, have further conversation or play games with him would they? So what makes it different here? Pigs are pigs....online or off.



SamKeithsslave -> RE: Ignorance (12/3/2006 9:50:57 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji
He's obviously not being taken seriously.  So, he creates a new profile, pretends to be a girl (About the same intelligence) and post the OP, then agrees with himself, and debates.

Unlikely, but think on it.


Hmmm.............. now I have a headache! LOL



SamKeithsslave -> RE: Ignorance (12/3/2006 10:03:57 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

fast reply........

There have been several on this thread who have stated that they enjoy playing games with men like the OP was referring to. I'm trying to understand why. The Op stated that this man's opening line was to ask if she were "playing with her hot, wet cunt". I can't understand why anyone would wish to respond to someone who was such a pig. Is it because this is the internet? Surely, if a man came up to you on the street and asked if you enjoyed playing with your hot, wet cunt....no one would try to be respectful, have further conversation or play games with him would they? So what makes it different here? Pigs are pigs....online or off.


True, I wouldnt engage myself in conversation if I were to meet someone on the street who walked up and said this to me. But yes the interenet is different and I dont know, sometimes if I have half hour to spare while waiting for the washing to dry I just cant help myself. The difference is simple, I can go back and forth online with an ignorant idiot pig in between getting on with my life and what I need to be doing, in the street I dont have time to interact etc and even if I did theres no way in knowing if the said ignorance nutty pig is armed or not.
Please though, dont think I spend all my spare time doing this, lol, for the most part I would delete and ignore.



KeirasSecret -> RE: Ignorance (12/3/2006 10:20:44 PM)

If I chose to “play” with such a person as I stated in my response to the op, it would be because:

Inquiring minds want to know (What on Gods green Earth would give someone the idea that such an email would be received in a good light?)
    As I said in my post…it gives me closure. (If my first response is mouth drops open in pure disbelief, I’m going to want closure) Kind of like the response “I’m not going to argue with a sub” got.
      That’s just rude, so if I have the opportunity to possibly get them to see that, even in the smallest way, I have done mankind a huge favor.
        I have found from the emails I do get that not everyone will say something for the same reasons. Perhaps the person was misinformed on how to address others on such a site or maybe they recently hit their head and are suffering from some sort of head injury.
          The last reason I can think of at this time would be: Doing so in a calm, respectful, inquisitive, manner tends to diffuse the situation, causing them to simply stop messaging me, and who knows, may even lead to less whining about “fakes” in profiles.

            k

            i make plans....God just laughs

            edited to fix format: don't know what happened there, sorry.



            SamKeithsslave -> RE: Ignorance (12/3/2006 10:24:43 PM)

            quote:

            ORIGINAL: KeirasSecret

            If I chose to “play” with such a person as I stated in my response to the op, it would be because:
            <big snipperoony>


            You left out the bit where it can be fun [:D]



            leakylee -> RE: Ignorance (12/3/2006 10:27:44 PM)

            And sometimes it is just a hell of a good way to relieve stress or other general pent up frustrations..



            KeirasSecret -> RE: Ignorance (12/3/2006 10:30:22 PM)

            lol...your right...leaves a smile on my face almost every time. [:D]



            DiurnalVampire -> RE: Ignorance (12/3/2006 10:34:25 PM)

            I'll admit I have played with those who have sent me nasty messages.  I like getting the last word in, so I'l usually reply and then block. I remind them how to speak to a Lady.
            Sometimes, the banter can be funny, especailly when they get very insulted that they are nasty and you can be the same in return. However, I take these responses witha  grain of salt and only other with them if I have nothing more interesting to do.  Not as a matter of course.

            If you take anything they say personally, then its just safer to tune them out. Dont reply if they might get under your skin.

            DV



            Kalira -> RE: Ignorance (12/4/2006 2:26:33 AM)

            It makes for a good laugh actually. I never block them though, I enjoy seeing how far they are willing to let their own stupidity go. Usually what happens is they get so pissed off at me that THEY block me in the end lol.

            AS to if I was to do such a thing with someone on the street if they came up and said that to me...not sure, but I have bantered back and forth before with someone that I have just met, so possibly. Or possibily I would just deck him [8D]



            Celeste43 -> RE: Ignorance (12/4/2006 5:53:42 AM)

            I have begun responding to people like that by asking them how they would feel if their mother told them somebody talked to them in that way. Then I suggest they call their mother up and ask her that same question. And then I bludgeon in the point of their rudeness by saying I feel the same way in response to their rudeness as their mother would feel.

            I never, ever, have heard from them again. Try it, they will crawl back into the hole they crawled out of.



            littleone35 -> RE: Ignorance (12/4/2006 10:25:13 AM)

            Shakes her head wondering why a simple question about rude e mail dragged on for 5 pages.

            Matt's littleone



            MagiksSlave -> RE: Ignorance (12/4/2006 11:00:52 AM)

            quote:

            ORIGINAL: GoreanGuy

            erin I am not going to sit here and argue with a sub about anything


            because how stupid youll feel when your shown up by a girl!!!!!

            never mind im staying out of this I dont ingage in battles of the wits with un armed men

            Magik's slave



            catize -> RE: Ignorance (12/4/2006 5:32:48 PM)

            quote:

            ORIGINAL: GoreanGuy

            erin I am not going to sit here and argue with a sub about anything


            Does this imply that you believe the word 'sub' is an acronym for Stupid Utter Brainlessness? 



            beltainefaerie -> RE: Ignorance (12/4/2006 11:50:16 PM)

            Some of us have an intense need to remind others not to be rude.  What if they really think it is ok to send such messages to people and have never been socialized any better?  I really don't think you are crazy for not ignoring them from the get-go.  It's probably the teacher in me.  One polite email declining whatever crazy thing they said or offered and maybe suggesting a different approach, should suffice.  If they still bug you, block the jerks!



            blinkingababy -> RE: Ignorance (1/13/2007 1:30:53 PM)

            I hate it when people send me rude emails, where do they think they got the right to tell me what to do



            TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Ignorance (1/13/2007 2:48:36 PM)

            quote:

            ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

            In light of your last post, i am responding to your OP.
             
            quote:

            ORIGINAL: servussemper

            I then preceded to ignore him, and he replied once more to inform me that he was going to block me which was no skin off my tush. I guess the reason I came here is to ask, does anyone else have this problem. Is there something wrong with my profile that may have stated or called upon this person to completely break down my barriers?
             
            i read your profile.  i think you state your preferences rather clearly.
             
            Is there anyway that I can reformat my profile to better state what I am in need of or looking for so it doesn't make people like this assume that I am a whore? Or am I completely off my rocker?
             
            To me, your profile does not make you sound like a whore.  You have an arrangement with your Master and you seem to explain that quite well.



            Now with that being said, perhaps you can see that the problem those here were addressing was not your profile, but the way you handled that particular exchange.  Most here were saying they would just brush the dumbass off, or block him, or tell him to take a hike, etc.  That is probably what most would do if they received such an email, and that is what they were advising you. 
             
            But then GG came in and gave you kudos for your 'mature' way of handling the situation.  In a sense, he missed the point.  If he is your friend/mentor/guardian, whatever, he should have actually advised you to not bother with such trolls in the future....regardless of how 'mature' your responses to him were.
             
            Think of it this way:  if a dom truly reads your profile and is serious about getting involved with you, he would not have responded as that dumbass did.  He probably would have expressed an interest and asked what he had to do to get your Master's approval.  But because he had no respect for neither you nor your Master by coming off as he did, you really owe him no respect back.  Now if you did not want to be rude, a simple polite note telling him that he could write back when he understood what it was he needed to do if he were interested (or something along those lines), should have been sufficient.  His initial email was upsetting, but you furthered communication by the way you handled it.
             
            Yes, perhaps you used poor judgment (we all do at times) but that is what GG should have told you.  He should not have commended your maturity.  If he is your mentor (or whatever), he should have presented a better way for you to handle such situations in the future.
             
            So tell me.....what have you learned from all of this?  The next time some dickstick writes with some obnoxious question or command, how will you respond?  Afterall, what you learned from all of this is really what matters most.  And if you so choose to perpetrate a conversation with such a moron because that appears 'mature', then i'm afraid you will be continuing to have the same problems over and over again.
             
            Best wishes to all of you.
             
            DG
             
             
            [sm=applause.gif]....Exactly!...good post DG....Tempting



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