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What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 8:15:05 AM   
MissyRane


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to me...saying they're perfect and never admit that they make mistakes
..when dominants start acting like spoiled babies
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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 8:26:12 AM   
RedSavageSlave


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Status: offline 		Forgetting he is supposed to be in control of me in this relationship dynamic.

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 8:26:18 AM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		But I WAS a spoiled child.  Why should adulthood change that?


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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 8:34:57 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Relaxes for months about rules and then one day gets in a frenzy about how things suddenly all need to be perfect

Refuses to be emotionally available

Can't admit they are a slut up front and try and force a relationship to be "poly"

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 8:38:55 AM   
drawntothedark


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Status: offline 		Before I type this I would like to make it clear that I do not think all Dom's do this. I also know it's bad behavor on the Dominates part so please no.......OMG get away from him advice lol

When a Dom tries to push your hard limites. When how they are gonna get you to break those hard limites are all they can focus on.

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 8:42:51 AM   
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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 9:02:53 AM   
MissyRane


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ORIGINAL: mstrjx

But I WAS a spoiled child.  Why should adulthood change that?


heheh good point
but ye my meaning, there's a difference between being pampered & spoiled but knowing how to go about handling it and being pampered n spoiled but letting it have huge effects on your attitude & ego

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 9:30:02 AM   
Tikkiee


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GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
 


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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 9:37:08 AM   
toservez


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Forgets or does not understand how important discipline is.

Does not have to make all or most decisions, does not have to have guidelines for everything but must not forget or turn off that he is the leader and that requires proactive communication and accept that whether he decides or lets me decide somethings to some degree it will have to go through him and do not act burden by that.

Phrases everything that went wrong either in the past or presence as some sort of passive agressive way that the other person is always to blame but his noble dominant self blames himself (Yeah right!) because he should have seen or done something different.

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 10:31:55 AM   
Jeffshope


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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 10:32:57 AM   
BRNaughtyAngel


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Status: offline 		I'm sure mine will change as time goes by, but at this early stage of the relationship, it would be the mind fucks.  There's not enough trust yet, and I find myself thinking, "surely he wouldn't make me do THAT?..... would he?"  

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 11:17:09 AM   
sub4hire


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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 11:51:29 AM   
SlaveAkasha


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Status: offline 		When they consider me "weak" and "less than" because I am a slave.
 
When they feel I should just be grateful to be in their presence.
 
When they think I need their validation in who I am.
 
When they feel I cannot possibly know more about anything than they do.
 
When they think they know me sooooooo much better than I know myself.
 
I am sure there are more..but that's the ones that come to mind.
 
Kasha

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 12:28:37 PM   
slavemaia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RedSavageSlave

Forgetting he is supposed to be in control of me in this relationship dynamic.


Yup - you said it. i abhor complacency. i like to know my Master is paying attention to the commitment, not ALL the time because we're all human, but that He doesn't wander off and forget what the heck we're doing or just get lazy about everything and expect me to keep it all in place.

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 12:34:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		When dominants who aren't my dominant act like I am their submissive!

When they act like they are always right.

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 12:43:40 PM   
diamonddreamlove


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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 12:52:59 PM   
Archer


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Status: offline 		LOL I love something I read on the Butchmann's website years ago.
Paraphrased
A Master is not always right, but the slave does not submit to the Master's rightness, they submit to the Master.
Obedince is not contingent on the Master being right.


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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 1:29:18 PM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissyRane

that pisses you off the most

to me...saying they're perfect and never admit that they make mistakes
..when dominants start acting like spoiled babies


Hmm.. hard to say actually. Online, getting pissed off at a screenname and a few words written on a screen doesn't seem to be a very productive use of my time and, generally, no one has the power to piss me off over this medium.

Offline, someone who doesn't own me or have permission to touch me and does so anyway is going to find out how quickly I can go from sweet and gentle to menopausal sadist.

As far as whining or having a holier-than-thou attitude, it evokes my mothering instinct.. as in, children should be seen and not heard, so go stand in a corner while I ignore you. I adore my block button.

Celeste

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 1:31:54 PM   
MmakeMme


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Status: offline 		Takes too much pleasure in things he ~knows~ I hate.

~chuckle~

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 3:18:04 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Now I gotta try and remember to not act on my hug instinct if I ever get to meet Celeste in person??????????

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