Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

Profile Offending


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> Profile Offending Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 8:16:07 AM   
Sirseeksslave


Posts: 5
Joined: 11/1/2006
Status: offline 		What about my profile seems to turn all the subs or slaves away? How should you approach a sub or slave when trying to learn more about them without offendiing them?
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 8:20:09 AM   
MissyRane


Posts: 1032
Joined: 5/11/2005
Status: offline 		Personally I can't help but liking your profile so I can't really see how it's supposed to turn somebody away.

(in reply to Sirseeksslave)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 8:23:23 AM   
hisannabelle


Posts: 1992
Joined: 12/3/2006
From: Tallahassee, FL, USA
Status: offline 		besides the fact that i am already collared, the only thing that's ever really turned me off from talking to another dominant (because i'm always open to messages) is those types of messages that are all, "you are my slut, kneel NOW and beg to please me!" - messages where the first time someone is talking to me, they assume that just because i am a submissive, i am THEIR submissive.

but overall i like your profile :) it seems like you are very worried about finding a submissive...from your posts, which have all kind of went in that direction. it's sort of like dating. it happens when it happens...there's no need to rush it. *hugs* good luck. my message box is always open if you want to chat :)

(in reply to MissyRane)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 8:23:56 AM   
mstrjx


Posts: 2045
Joined: 11/27/2005
Status: offline 		Your profile seems pretty good except for the usual spelling and grammer errors.  That's not a slight; most people do the same.

Your question probably isn't giving enough information.  Do you not get responses to your profile (which is one thing), or do you lose others interest with your first or second emails (another thing)?

Jeff

_____________________________

Know thyself. It's the best gift you can ever give yourself.

(in reply to Sirseeksslave)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 8:27:21 AM   
Aileen68


Posts: 6091
Joined: 8/2/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: mstrjx

Your profile seems pretty good except for the usual spelling and grammer errors.  That's not a slight; most people do the same.

Jeff

grammar 
Couldn't resist. 

(in reply to mstrjx)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 8:29:35 AM   
mstrjx


Posts: 2045
Joined: 11/27/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68

quote:

ORIGINAL: mstrjx

Your profile seems pretty good except for the usual spelling and grammer errors.  That's not a slight; most people do the same.

Jeff

grammar 
Couldn't resist. 


Color me ashamed.

Want a cookie?

Jeff

_____________________________

Know thyself. It's the best gift you can ever give yourself.

(in reply to Aileen68)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 8:33:17 AM   
Aileen68


Posts: 6091
Joined: 8/2/2005
Status: offline 		That made me chuckle.
Nothing offensive at all about cookies.

(in reply to mstrjx)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 8:50:04 AM   
SlaveAkasha


Posts: 726
Joined: 9/30/2006
From: Indiana
Status: offline 		I don't see anything wrong with it.  You state what you are looking for and what you expect.  Perhaps those you write to read that, and don't feel it's for them.  If that is the case, it's better you didn't hear from them. 
 
It's hard to tell anything for sure because I don't know what your first email is like, or your personality. 
 
Time and patience, that is all I can say.  You seem to know what you want and that is always worth waiting for.

Kasha 

_____________________________

Look, if you want to torture me, spank me, lick me, do it. But if this poetry shit continues just shoot me now please.
~ Tank Girl

www.peta.org
www.goveg.com

(in reply to Sirseeksslave)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 9:03:33 AM   
riekanagaki


Posts: 12
Joined: 9/19/2006
Status: offline 		It boils down to statistics. Statistically speaking, females with pictures get the most responses, while males get considerably less responses than females. That's just the way the world works, sadly

(in reply to SlaveAkasha)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 9:11:28 AM   
Kalira


Posts: 954
Joined: 10/9/2006
From: Fort Wayne Indiana
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Sirseeksslave

What about my profile seems to turn all the subs or slaves away? How should you approach a sub or slave when trying to learn more about them without offendiing them?

Your profile looks fine to me.

As for the approach, well, everyone is different. Some like to be approached as you would a vanilla date, some don't.

/shrug

_____________________________

Facilius Per Partes In Cognitionem Totius Adducimur
We are more easily led part by part to an understanding of the whole.
Seneca

Damnant Quod Non Intellegunt

(in reply to Sirseeksslave)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 9:16:05 AM   
damia


Posts: 190
Joined: 10/26/2006
Status: offline 		Only think i can see that would help, because i like Your profile too, is to add a picture. The difference between a profile with a picture and a profile without a picture can be HUGE, and some people won't even look at profiles unless they have a picture.

Looking...looking...maybe Your location is turning certain types of subs away? Not everyone wants to be in the country (i'd love it, personally, but that's because i was raised in the country).

That's all i can see that's possibly affecting replies and such...perhaps You could write a sample message and maybe that would help people help You? A good message should be respectful, considerate, and amiable. It should be at least a few sentences long (most people delete one-word and sometimes one-line messages), and should summarize who You are, and why You were attracted to her profile (this will show that You read her profile). And asking a question or two at the end seems to up the number of replies You will get, as some people are compelled to answer questions (like myself :P)

Hope that helps,
damia

(in reply to riekanagaki)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 9:18:11 AM   
toservez


Posts: 1733
Joined: 9/7/2006
From: All over now in Minnesota
Status: offline 		My .02 opinion on your profile is that there is no real information about yourself. It is mostly what you are all about in the M/s aspect of the relationship, which you do very well, but very little in who you are as a person when not playing. I did not get any sense of who I would be eating dinner with or what we would be about in the regular world that still makes up most of the time.

_____________________________

I am sorry I do not fit Webster's defintion of a slave but thankfully my Master is not Webster.

"Anything that contradicts experience and logic should be abandoned." - H.H. The 14th Dalai Lama

(in reply to Kalira)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 9:19:29 AM   
BitaTruble


Posts: 9779
Joined: 1/12/2006
From: Texas
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Sirseeksslave

What about my profile seems to turn all the subs or slaves away? How should you approach a sub or slave when trying to learn more about them without offendiing them?


You can't please everyone. That profile will appeal to some and not appeal to others.  It's such a subjective question with beauty being in the eye of the beholder. Personally, for me, it's a turn off for a variety of reasons, but it's not as bad as a lot of others I've read and there have been enough people who've responded to you already telling you they quite enjoyed your profile, so that's something.

The thing is if it's not working, you might want me to expand on why "I" think it's not working as it doesn't work for me for some pretty obvious and glaring reasons, but be prepared for brutal honesty. I won't go there, however, without your permission. Hmm.. maybe it's better if you don't give permission. I've noticed lately the dominants around here have been a little sensitive. I think it's the full moon or somethin'.



Be well,

Celeste

_____________________________

"Oh, so it's just like
Rock, paper, scissors."

He laughed. "You are the wisest woman I know."


(in reply to Sirseeksslave)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 9:30:38 AM   
gemy


Posts: 107
Joined: 4/6/2006
Status: offline 		this one agrees with pretty much everyone here -- Your profile is well written *excepting the typos,,, grinz* although could use a lil more about Yourself physically ,,,, and if You do not wish to post a pic, which many do not, perhaps a picture in Your first email?  in addition, many girls do not wish to relocate so that may hamper Your search/responses also

now, not knowing what You write to start, this one can tell You, if she receives an email that says "nice profile" and that's it, my response is "thanks" and the email is deleted

good luck in Your seach,
gemmie

(in reply to Sirseeksslave)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 10:20:06 AM   
MasterFireMaam


Posts: 5587
Joined: 3/1/2006
From: Charleston, WV
Status: offline 		Your profile is very specific, which I think is a wonderful thing. In fact, it's a weeding tool. Why are you lamenting that subs/slaves aren't choosing you? This is simply the process that tells you they're not a match; it saves you time. I have a very specific profile, too. I get, perhaps, 1 -2 serious inquiries a month. Most of my mail is generated by people speaking privately about stuff on the boards. The only suggestions I have for you is to check your punctuation and add a picture.

Master Fire


_____________________________

The power of who we are can be intoxicating. The power of who we could be is humbling.
-----
Ms Relationship Books
-----
BDSM How-To Books

(in reply to Sirseeksslave)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 12:23:16 PM   
AquaticSub


Posts: 14867
Joined: 12/27/2005
Status: offline 		~Fast Reply~

I like your profile except for these things:

1. You require webcams and pictures but don't have a picture and it doesn't say you are willing to provide that same. That sets off my troll alert.
2. The required work period sets of my troll alarm as well. I want a dominant who is as interested in a commited relationship as I am.
3. The relocation thing will also narrow down your search, but that is very understandable. Not all submissives/slaves are in situations where they can pack up in leave. However, you say with time so I assume you will be understanding about such things.

Providing a picture for your profile would help. Otherwise, I thought it was a good profile.

_____________________________

Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val

It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

Member:Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair

(in reply to MasterFireMaam)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 1:27:37 PM   
sweetnurseBBW


Posts: 2464
Joined: 1/26/2006
From: North Carolina
Status: offline 		I do not think your profile is offensive. It is very upfront and non judgemental. You do not come off as arrogant or presumptious.

_____________________________

Sir Pain's pain slut

(in reply to Sirseeksslave)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 1:51:14 PM   
poplolly


Posts: 159
Joined: 10/7/2006
From: Edmonton
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68

quote:

ORIGINAL: mstrjx

Your profile seems pretty good except for the usual spelling and grammer errors.  That's not a slight; most people do the same.

Jeff

grammar 
Couldn't resist. 


"grammatical errors".  Sorry, neither could I!

_____________________________

"I am selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control, and at times hard to handle, but if you can't ACCEPT me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best!"
~~ Marilyn Monroe.

(in reply to Aileen68)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 3:46:09 PM   
juliaoceania


Posts: 21383
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline 		For me the words "firm" and using pain to punish rather than reward would turn me off. I am a masochist, I enjoy pain, so someone that wanted to punish me physically for infractions of rules would not be someone I would want to get to know on an intimate level. If I was not a masochist I would wonder why you were fixated on physically punishing me instead of striving for a dynamic where punishment was unnecessary. I do not find your profile offensive though.

_____________________________

Once you label me, you negate me ~ Soren Kierkegaard

Reality has a well known Liberal Bias ~ Stephen Colbert

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

(in reply to Sirseeksslave)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 4:09:45 PM   
bandit25


Posts: 3029
Joined: 6/18/2005
Status: offline 		Mstrjx...grammar.  That's one of the most common misspelled words I see here on the boards.

(in reply to mstrjx)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> Profile Offending Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.098