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RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 4:30:35 PM

SupremeFemBitch

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I would sugest that u make ur proffy shorter and put some zing into it - like fishing - dangle bait in water and wait wait wait - and then find no bites - why - bait has fallen off hook!!! Bait ur hook with colourful exciting words - get a re-action - cut out the meandering and shorten your proffy - prospective slaves dont want to spend all day reading one proffy - short, exciting proffies get the attention!!!! lay it out like a shop window - designed to GET attention.

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RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 4:31:38 PM

Quivver

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quote:

ORIGINAL: toservez

My .02 opinion on your profile is that there is no real information about yourself. It is mostly what you are all about in the M/s aspect of the relationship, which you do very well, but very little in who you are as a person when not playing. I did not get any sense of who I would be eating dinner with or what we would be about in the regular world that still makes up most of the time.

I agree with toservez. although well written (and I didnt even notice the typo's) it tells me nothing about you personally, nothing that would peak my interest to contact you. It's possible that I want too much when Dom shopping, the way I see it is although we call this a lifestyle, we still have to function in the normal and nilla world out there so I need to know if your other life has similaritys to mine.
............ on the other hand, my Troll Alarm would be blinking too at the required Web Cam, yet no photo on the flip side. It's kind of a I'll prove I'm me if you prove your you..........

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RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 4:45:01 PM

mstrjx

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So the OP gets profile hints, and the guy with the shoe gets spanked around by the subbies. What's up with that?

Tough crowd.

Jeff

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RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 7:41:47 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mstrjx

So the OP gets profile hints, and the guy with the shoe gets spanked around by the subbies. What's up with that?

Tough crowd.

Jeff

And your objections are exactly what?..

...Tempting

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RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 7:56:48 PM

BRNaughtyAngel

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mstrjx

So the OP gets profile hints, and the guy with the shoe gets spanked around by the subbies. What's up with that?

Tough crowd.

Jeff

Were we s'posed to be helping you too? I musta missed it. Okay, my best advice would be, to find a more comfortable shoe. That one makes my feet hurt just looking at it.

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RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 9:03:48 PM

Slavetrainer2007

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I think your profile is good. You state what you are looking for and what your willing to provide. But, as someone stated, you need to have some of your "vanilla" interest. See your looking for a "relationship"and while having the same interest or desires on the Dom/sub side is great, you cant leave out the vanilla aspect.

For instance, i love traveling to new places. Sometimes, ill get up on a saturday morning and just drive in one direction for no reason. IF i were hunting for a relationship that is something i would put in my profile, because i would want a girl that likes to travel and see new places as opposed to one that doesnt like "road trips".

Their is something else, i learned through experience. That is no matter where you go Via Inet, the subs( even those that are in relationship and plainly state it) get "pawwed" over alot by Doms or wanna be Doms. I ve read many subby profiles on here that in their journal they say "Please stop sending me so much email, i cannot keep up." The subs are so busy trying to get rid of unwanted emails/Pms/ messages, they dont have time to do anything else. OR they just turn everything off so they can get some peace and stick to the public areas like these boards.
My advice is to wait and be active on the boards. Let the subs on here( obviously only a portion of members read here) get to know you through your post. If you wait they will come; if you chase, those that are coming will never catch up to you. Im sure not all would agree and chasing can find you that one girl thats right for you, but you can also annoy ( and thus might as well elimate them right off) alot of potentionals by chasing.

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RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 9:28:15 PM

Celeste43

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The thing that made me raise an eyebrow was an insistence that she do all the housework and also work fulltime to be financially self supporting. Eight hours work, 2 hours commuting, 2-3 hours nightly housework, 8 hours sleeping, an hour for personal health care. That's 22 out of 24 with no time to eat or relax or play. Highly unrealistic.

Additionally if she's financially stable, then how is she to move and remain that way with no job waiting for her at her present salary?

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RE: Profile Offending - 12/5/2006 9:41:04 PM

Lordandmaster

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Well, I'll be honest; I stopped reading at this line:

quote:

Welcome to the realm of sensual Domination, divine bondage, discipline and fetishes.

It sounds like you're a tout for some kind of bearded-lady freak show or something. Also, "welcome to" says that you assume your reader is going to be some kind of novice or innocent lamb, and I'm pretty sure that will turn off some women who might otherwise be attracted to you.

Generally, I think you try a little too hard in that profile to attract attention. Just be yourself. It's a profile, not a commercial.

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ORIGINAL: Sirseeksslave

What about my profile seems to turn all the subs or slaves away? How should you approach a sub or slave when trying to learn more about them without offendiing them?

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RE: Profile Offending - 12/6/2006 6:01:09 AM

dawntreader

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While i did read the whole profile because of this thread ( i am already in a relationship), i agree with Lordandmaster with the quote below...it sounds like an advertisement. i am curious about what "divine bondage" is though :-)
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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Well, I'll be honest; I stopped reading at this line:

quote:

Welcome to the realm of sensual Domination, divine bondage, discipline and fetishes.

It sounds like you're a tout for some kind of bearded-lady freak show or something. Also, "welcome to" says that you assume your reader is going to be some kind of novice or innocent lamb, and I'm pretty sure that will turn off some women who might otherwise be attracted to you.

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RE: Profile Offending - 12/6/2006 12:17:49 PM

littleone35

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I like your profilr you are very clear on what you are looking for. The only thing i can see that might make a difference is your 4 children two of whom are living with you. Other then that you just have not found your match yet. don't give up.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Profile Offending - 12/7/2006 9:17:45 PM

erebus

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quote:

ORIGINAL: toservez

My .02 opinion on your profile is that there is no real information about yourself. It is mostly what you are all about in the M/s aspect of the relationship, which you do very well, but very little in who you are as a person when not playing. I did not get any sense of who I would be eating dinner with or what we would be about in the regular world that still makes up most of the time.

This thread prompted me to check my own profile. I had nothing about me on the profile, just what I was looking for.

That oversight has been corrected. I'm glad this thread prompted me to review my profile.

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RE: Profile Offending - 12/8/2006 2:23:13 AM

patina

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"Some of my activitity like have subs and slave classing me as sadistic but I fail to see it as I do not like pain for pain sake." quoted from his profile

This is the only thing in your actual profile I had problems with. What activities? I would of contacted you if I was not under consideration. My Master and I will be meeting in Jan. and will decide on a collar then. I feel he is my Master now though, and so give him the title. The only other thing would be you need to clarify the role of the slave/sub with your sons. It will create a unusual dynamic for a sub to be under I feel. Then maybe I am wrong.

I have raised 2 sons one 22 other 24 by myself. I say it this way because of their ages. They are on their own pretty much now. You might also add what kind of physical qualities you do or do not want your sub to be in. And please add a photo. If you have a web cam you can do so w/ no problem. I hope this helps.

Patina

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RE: Profile Offending - 12/8/2006 10:06:46 AM

mellian

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For me personally, I would be like "ewww, a guy! *ignore*"

-mellian

< Message edited by mellian -- 12/8/2006 10:07:00 AM >

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http://www.collarme.com/bdsm/v/50276/details.htm

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