GabrielleSalome
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ORIGINAL: GabrielleSalome
See, to me, this is a very interesting point~cause I have been aware of my submissiveness since age 9 when I started having active fantasies of being carried off and tied up on a daily basis~I've NEVER not been submissive at core. And, believe me, if I could have found a 9 year old Dom, I would have been ALL OVER IT.
I would say that I have been in the "lifestyle" ummm forever~I mean, I have never NOT been in the lifestyle~so I don't think Yael uses that term inappropriately at all. Do you have another term to describe someone who has been aware of their sexual preferences since they were a child? Are children aware of their attraction to the same sex anything other than in the gay "lifestyle"? Not being argumentative~just wondering what the concern is about that term. To say that someone shouldn't be proud of who they are at any age does seem judgemental.
The number of years that someone claims to be in the lifestyle is looked at by others as the number of years of experience they have. My earliest memories of fantasies of being tied up were at about the age of 3 or 4. So, like you, I do believe that I have always been submissive since the moment of my birth. I do not however, claim 44 years of lifestyle experience as that would be extremely misleading to those who wish to get an accurate representation of my experience level. Most people start counting those years at the time when they become active in real time lifestyle experiences....not at the point they start fantasizing about it...not at the point they became aware of it...not even at the point that they first started playing slap and tickle...but when they became actively involved in it. Generally people don't become actively involved in pre-pubescence, so it is difficult not to be skeptical when someone claims such.
Very interesting concept of experience. I totally understand what you are trying to say~however, myself, I would be far more interested in someone who had an understanding of their dominance at age, um, 3, than someone who said~"at age 25, I learned I was dominant and now at 50, I have 25 years of experience" I'm looking for someone I connect with on an emotional, physical and intellectual level. If I were looking for, oh, say, someone to fix my fence or, umm, garden my backyard~then the actual years of fixing fences or gardening might be more important.
I tell you this because my world has been spun by nice gentle(appearing) men who were just experiencing their very first pervert relationship ~and have been frankly bored to tears by guys with 20 years experience with their square knots and "beg me to cum, slut" drivel.
My "experience" as a submissive(what does that mean exactly?) began, really, about 7years ago~that is when I decided that I was only interested in a power exchange relationship. But, please, LOL I challenge you to tell me that means I have been submissive for just 7 years LOL Trust me, it ain't so.
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Your frustrations are certainly understandable. When people begin to transition between private and public, real and cyber, often there is a need to define themselves is easy snapshots of who they are. Unfortunately, this push to propel one's "resume" as it were, tends to add to the natural state of frenzies many new submissives feel. 
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