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mgdartist -> RE: Morals without external influence (12/8/2006 4:01:34 AM)
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"Actually, I love kids...but only if theyre barbequed just right" W.C. Fields
Sigh, a parenting thread... I guess we should take our role as parents seriously. (not that I am one) It just always seems that when we do so, we often then take ourselves so very seriously. I DO grow ever so weary of watching so many (as in damn near all) parents have such rigid opinions and expertise borne of many years of experience times how ever many kids they raise. The person they once were vanishes and is replaced by this unbearably opinionated and most judgemental of all humans -- known as a "parent" (spoken in hushed and reverend tones) Few Have much idea what they are doing, and by the time their overindulged child/impending trainwreck reaches it's teens, they are little more than chauffuers, washwomen, cooks and lackeys, awaiting the next whim of their domineering offspring, wallet fulla cash at the ready, and credit cards tucked a little deeper, in case they suddenly need therapy or psychoanalysis, or have yet another sports injury. One wonders where all the money such therapies, and doctor visits recommended here comes from...oh thats right, do spare the rod, but spare them no expense.
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"unchecked my behavior got worse and worse"
There the OP hit the proverbial nail on the head in a major way. The young (full grown man, goin on 9) 27 yr. old brat being discussed here, no doubt began his development as such over 20 years back, growing to the tune of yet another Mom who knew she could raise him, despite having little resources, time (always at work) and just too much resposibility it would have taken to do what task lay in front of her back then, as she lovingly thought not to become intolerant, or up the level of strictness on such a cute little boy, as since the divorce, she had so much less to offer him.....and godforfuckingbid he should ever need CP whatsoever...OMG!...do I advocate using violence on little children?? Goddamn right. ^This^, Vunder-parental units can easily happen if you don't. Of course nowadays, if you dont spare the rod, you'll often be visited by busybody social workers and police too busy to catch real criminals. It's simply a battle of wills, ad yours has to be ever alpha, and backed up with iron, if you're to raise good kids.
An old friend had a little girl as cute as could be, and by five was at that age where she doted on daddy and he doted back, and mommy was just..well, no longer welcome in their "clique". He took her everywhere, lest she pitch a hissy-fit, which meant anytime he came to visit, he'd be accompanied by a midget terrorist, whom, once in my home, became my responsibility...or somebodies, as it was an obvious chance for him to not have to keep an eye on "it" every second.
As we sat on the couch and tried to discuss important adult stuff, munchkin seemed quiet for a bit amazingly, totally captivated by my large aquarium with 3 very large Oscars swimming inside, who were yet eyeing her with apprehension. Chattering in unintelligible profundities, her enrapturement led to action, as any stupid adult could even see someone needed to, using outstretched arms, begin to slap that silly fishtank, hard enough to rock it on it's stand, and utterly scare the puddin' out of the fish, who reacted violently, and water splashed out on the floor. My friend, didnt even seem to notice, and waited till her 2nd whack, seeing I was perturbed, give the Poison-Princess a half hearted "No, baby, don't do that now"
As we continued our discussion, he may as well have said "Kewl baby, whack that dumb tank more!" as thats precisely what she did. again....and again...and..., OK, fast forward till the end, after I'd counted 14 frickin' NO's!!
He would now resignedly attend to his daddyful duties, and drag her away from the tank and hold her saying, how she'd now have to be punished, to her enraged protests, had to hold her quite firmly as he gave her a very light, single caress-like swat on the back of her upper thigh. Despite his almost missing, she launched into the most anguished of shrieks and outraged sobs, and carried on pathetically bawling till ..well, I was beginning to become ..you'd have to know me in person to know how I get. By the time she began to quiet down, my ex-gf had stopped by, and took her off in another room to keep her occupied. As my friend began to take up where he left off, I guess he knew by the look on my face I wasn't listening anymore, although I knew he didn't take kindly to any kibitzing on his "expert" parenting.
"What's th matter with you now?" to which I quietly replied;
"Dude...14 fucking no's...I counted"
"OOOh, I guess you would have dealt with her differently....do tell, I can't wait to hear this one." he said sarcastically.
"Put it this way..." said I..."thirty minutes...all I'd need."
"30 minutes for what?" he retorted.
"30 minutes alone with that ...child" I said confidently, "and you nor any adult would never, EVER need to say no to her more than once ever again."
"...No, I wouldn't lay a hand on her either" I quickly lied.
Anyway, a heated discussion ensued, which ended about 5 minutes later with me saying;
"Get your little hellspawn, and split, and don't you EVER bring her to my home again."
Sadly, we are no longer friends.
What I point at here is the lazy, over indulgent, over-tolerant parenting style prevalent now, and the seemingly blind parents who refuse to see what self-important little criminals their precious children are growing into thru their teens, till it's far too late.
Nonetheless, you're likely correctly thinking I'd yet visit worse than the OP did on this lardass punk who dared to punk out his mom..and are even wondering if I'd, were I given the option to punish him, incarcerate him or even bullwhip him in the barn.
...but you misjudge me, I'd never do anything like that to the kid... Were it up to me;
I'd have him shot at sunrise.
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