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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/11/2006 8:32:30 AM

SusanofO

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Glad you appreciate the topic. I am hoping to hear more examples of things people have done (I haven't done much in this area). Not because I am a voyeur, I want to know how they handle it and such.

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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/11/2006 8:42:41 AM

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My answer would depend on the situation and extent of the "exhibit".

I am weird about manners and crass behaviour.

Overt displays of public affection make me just think "puuuuleeeezzzzzzz, what exactly are you trying to prove?" Example: many years ago, my brother and his girlfriend at a family christmas dinner. She sat on his lap almost the whole time. They were a bit much for the elders of the family. Same two were always trying to see how far they could stick their tongues down each others throats at the house, in front of much younger siblings. Not necessary.

I am cool with topless or whatever, I just think there are times that some things are just not appropriate or in the best of taste. All of that being said I think this country is WAYYYYYYY too uptight about sex and nakedness.

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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/11/2006 9:22:30 AM

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My former Master turned me on to exhibitionism to the point I really enjoy it. I liked the level that he played on. Pretty much even the thought a child being around would me no play of this nature and nothing graphic sexually in front of other people without their prior knowledge to respect them. Other then that lots of quick flashes and implied or letting other know that some sex things was happening but they could not see.

My former Master had a sailboat and he would often have me strip naked on it after we were far enough out on the lake. He also liked getting blow jobs in parking lots and if we were out socializing he would often tell a friend or two of his that we would be right back and tell them why. I enjoyed this very much.

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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/11/2006 9:29:28 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SusanofO

In theory, Exhibitionism is a huge turn in for me. When I think about it, or read about it being done in short stories, etc., I just know I'd love it. I am a fan of Pony Play, too (but have very, very little actual experience w/that, but have done extensive reading). I've only done Exhibitionistic stuff once, and it was very "low-level" stuff (it was a movie theater, and dark, and it was almost deserted in the theater, so I felt less "threatened"), but it was still thrilling.

I am wondering if some consider this 'kink" somewhat invasive of other people's (non-Bdsmers') privacy, (being as they are non-consensual participants) - and if so, how does one get around that? Only let one's submissive (or slave) "be exposed" to persons that are known to also be "into" Exhibitionism?

I am not trying to start a flame-war, or argument about what's "right" or "wrong" in practice, but am curious as to how people reconcile this possibility, and also I am just plain curious about Exhibitionsim. Because I think it's really Hot.

I am just wondering how others feel about this, and what they've done as far as scenes in which they've incorporated it into their other bdsm activity. Because I know I'd appreciate it - but am not sure how other people go about actively practicing it.

These are truly non-judgmental comments. I am just plain curious about Exhibitionsim, and how it's practiced.

- Susan

Local adult clubs seem to be the safest bet when it comes to exhibitionism and concern for consensual exposure. Events that are of an adult nature can be another outlet for this.

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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/11/2006 9:47:22 AM

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I undressed my slave on the bank of the river, while I remained almost fully dressed. He had to fondle and nibble me while scared to be discovered. I just loved it.

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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/11/2006 9:50:33 AM

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Oh, and I've had a lot of women flash me like secretarys who were sitting down and just happened to open their legs and give me a panty shot.
That's a little difficult to judge as "flashing" though because it could be totally innocent and I just didn't realize it.

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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/11/2006 10:28:17 AM

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Since I do not have to drive I pay attention to other cars on the road. I would notice if you were masterbaiting in the car yes. I also notice a lot of people are stupid idiotic careless unsafe drivers due to practices such as putting on makeup, twisting sideways to dig about behind them all the while trying unsucessfully to keep eyes on road, nor do some of these people even bother to properly seat tiny kids.

Anyway more people than you think might be checking out what others do in the car, however who realkly cares right?

On Vacation riding in the back of our dogde I would let my dress ride up and my ass hang in the sunshine, it was comfy and I liked that someone driving by might of been flashed my ass.

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One thing I've noticed, especially in cars, is NOBODY'S LOOKING AT YOU. Think of the last time you drove past a car and checked to see if some girl happened to be masturbating in it? Most people are so wrapped up in their own heads you could probably be hanging your body out the sunroof with relative safety...

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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/11/2006 4:55:46 PM

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Susan, you might enjoy exhibiting on a cam site, like www.jmeeting.com or www.anywebcam.com . I went through a period when i really enjoyed being on public cam, sometimes with my first master and sometimes by myself being directed by him.

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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/11/2006 5:12:29 PM

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I am flabergasted! HA HA HA Here I thought what an Exibitionist I was, just by wearing Mary Janes to work, and seeing the reactions, and then I read this post. I have to get some training. I am an Exhibitionist and would love to do some of these these. I always imagined being taken by a Mistress to a party, with just a Harness or something small on, for all to see....and LAUGH !

Now I have to get something to top my Leggins after work too.

Looking to the future, BalletBob

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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/11/2006 5:52:31 PM

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Thanks, proudsub, I appreciaite th information.

Ballet Bob: Looks like you're not the only one!

- Susan

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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/11/2006 6:37:02 PM

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my Master's somewhat into exhibitionism...i'm not really, although i enjoy being used and serving others in public, particularly in vanilla public, it's more because i appreciate being treated and viewed the same out in the vanilla world as i am "behind closed doors", so to speak. i can't stand having to hide/conceal the fact that i am a slave or that i live this lifestyle. so whenever i'm serving someone and those factors are ignored...i really appreciate it (think i said that already, lol).

as for things that i've done and that have been done to me, there are far too many to list, but things like being whipped and beaten at local playgrounds (for punishment, not "play")...that was more due to necessity, in the days before i lived with my Master and after driving 2 hrs to see me and having to always be back the same night, all we could really do was public stuff. if children were within sight he would move me to some more hidden spot, but otherwise we never thought about other people seeing. and since living together, with him having an unmentionable, sometimes he will drive me someplace semi-secluded but still public to give me a really intense beating.

then many times i have served other Dominants in vanilla public...once had my mouth and throat brutally f*cked by a Dominant down by the harbor in Georgetown. He had me around a little corner, but people were milling about, since it was nighttime there were a lot of couples hand in hand walking by the water and such. not sure if anyone saw us or not, but plenty of people saw me as we were leaving and i had to walk several blocks to the car with cum all over my face. but humiliation was sort of the point that particular night. then another time a Dominant took me to a local park and spent several hours training and using me in various ways...from drinking his piss to grooming him. at one point a couple walked by, right as i was spread eagled with my naked pussy directly in their line of view, and being bathed in more of his piss. as always in those situations, i simply pretended as if they were not there, and continued to serve as i was supposed to. He didn't acknowledge their presence either, just continued on as normal. again, there was no exhibitionist thrill for me, but i liked that he didn't allow vanilla perceptions to rule his natural behavior.

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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/11/2006 8:12:10 PM

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yes, you'd been even less thrilled if the couple walking by called the cops on you two.

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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/11/2006 9:10:24 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kalira

I go only as far as Master will allow me to go

Grins and echoes this. Although, I've never been comfortable subjecting others to stuff they don't want to be subjected to. But it's not my call, it's his. He will never do anything where little ones might be about.

To share some chuckles, once he had me pull over and masturbate in my car to an orgasm while we were on the phone. I picked an empty parking lot. I was into it, and loud, and I look up at one point and there's this man on his bike, staring into the car with his jaw hanging open. I think my eyes bugged out when I saw him and he was asking, "Are you alright????" Um, yeah. So I cracked the window and he started asking me what I was doing. Well my Master could hear this so he dictated in my ear what my responses would be:

Him: What are you...um...doing?
Me: I'm having an orgasm for my Master.
Him: Your Master?
Me: Yes.
Him: Wow...um...do you get paid for this?
Me: My Master does not pay me money to cum for him.
Him: Wow. Can I fuck you?
Me: (laughing) Fuck no! But if you're a good boy you can watch me cum some more.
Him: (laughing nervously) Okay
Me: If you pull your cock out and stroke yourself until you cum, I will put on a show for you.
Him: (he pulled it out and strated stroking himself....then stopped, saying he can't do this standing out there in a parking lot)
Me: Awwww okay, well I guess we're done then.
He left, begrudgingly.

Another time I had to pull over for the same reason. I was at the end of a one lane country road up in the foothills. It was night time. I was loud again and I guess someone heard. In the pitch black darkness, a spot light came on right at my car. I pulled my skirt down and then a flashlight shined right into my passenger side window while another person stood at the driver door - Cops! I opened the window. They kept asking if I was okay, and what was I doing. Panting, I told them, "Just gabbing on the phone." He grinned, shined the flashlight in the car a little more, asked if I was alone, and commented "Your windows are fogged." I said "Yep." He grinned some more and said "Well....ah....just be careful out here."

Master gets a thrill out of stuff like that.

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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/11/2006 9:26:43 PM

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I have been accused of being an exhibitionist on more than one occasion, but generally, keep it confined to the car. it's funny you should bring this up, because last Thursday other night, we were in the car, and the next thing ya know, we're doing it in the front seat, (in front of a church, no less, and across the street from the post office...gawd I am SICK!) and really, the only time it even crossed my mind that law enforcement would be an issue was when I put my pants back on and for a moment, my big ole white behind was facing right at the windshield.

the whole thing was entirely spontaneous, unplanned, and...a turn on.

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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/12/2006 1:20:54 AM

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Exhibitionism in settings with like minded people such as kink clubs or places where nudity is expected is fine and I’ve done it, but to do it to an unsuspecting public bothers me. I don’t want to force anyone to view my play. Most of you are saying that the excitement is because others don’t suspect to see what they see and that is my problem.

There are qualifiers to what some said. Some said they would tell those at a party that they were going out to do something and that is different and not the same degree as hitting a totally unsuspecting public with something. Also, accidentally having others view your kink is not an intentional thing to force the unsuspecting public to view something to shock them. That can happen to anyone, but can also be prevented generally by planning. The point is if you are doing something that know will probably be discovered, you will likely be forcing yourself on the public at large.

I’ve been involved in private club activities that would curl the toes of the Rotary Club types and never felt that I was imposing on the kink friendly individuals watching. I have, also, seen naked bodies engaged in things that require new math to figure out. So I would not be shocked morally or whatever to come across something in public, but it would make me think the people were inconsiderate. There are all types in the public and I’m not excited by shocking those who are morally opposed to such activity.

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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/12/2006 1:23:40 AM

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I appreciate your comments, ExSteel.

And everyone's.

Thanks for all of the replies, people!

- Susan

< Message edited by SusanofO -- 12/12/2006 2:10:54 AM >

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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/12/2006 8:23:37 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

yes, you'd been even less thrilled if the couple walking by called the cops on you two.

fortunately they didn't, but if they had, what could i have done to prevent them? my place is simply to serve, period. if i had covered myself or altered my behavior in any way because of a couple of vanillas walking by, my Master as well as the Man i served would have been VERY displeased with me.
i can understand the viewpoint of those who don't want to subject an "unsuspecting public" to certain aspects of their lifestyle, but sometimes a submissive or slave really has no choice in the matter...they are only doing what is demanded/expected of them by their Dominant or Master.

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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/12/2006 8:28:39 AM

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Good point, daddy'sprop.
I'd hope this is one of those areas that people would discuss as far as what might be potentially expected of them before they agreed to become a slave or submissive (in some kind of negotiatons, or is getting to know eachother in general). I am presuming that one has decided, somewhere along the line, what kind of Master they need or would be good for them.

But really, I couldn't care less what other people want to do (I only care what I do). I am just wondering how other people handle it (and maybe I've answered my own question w/my intial comment on this post).

I've decided that if any Exhibitionism I did in a Master's name did cause legal trouble for me, I know I'd expect my Master to financially pay for "settling it" (as I'd definitely consider that part of "looking out for my welfare").

As far as any criminal record goes, that's something that wouldn't just "go away", and I'd be hard-pressed to find a reason to expose myself to the probablity I'd end up with one by doing Exhibitionistic acts. Of course, if one engages in this stuff, I suppose the possibility is maybe always there.

If I'd agreed to take the risk of doing activity X_________,I'd want to know what it includes as far as ramifications that are reasonably forseeable, to be able to make an intelligent decision about engaging in it (but that's me. Otherwise, I find it hard to relax and enjoy myself, sometimes, regardless of who has claimed they are "looking out for me". But - that's based on a personal history of more than one person claiming they were doing just that, who may not have been "fully engaged" in doing that responsibly, (which is my problem and unique to my own personal history).

I am not judging anyone else by saying I'd need to consider the potential legal (and financial and criminal and emotional) ramifications first, just thinking out loud (truly). What everyone wants to do is up to them - it's not my relationship. But I am sorting it out in my own head (that's why I started this thread).

I'm okay with "little stuff" and still thrilled by the idea of the larger context stuff - but the more exposed I'd be I guess the more sort of 'semi-guarantee' I'd need to feel it wasn't going to blow up in my face. Being exposed is part of the thrill for me. Landing in jail or having a criminal record is not. I'd consider it my Master's "job" to gauge that risk intelligently and carefully, if I am meant to unquestioningly obey. I realize many scenarios one might be engaged in would only maybe classify as "misdemeanor" status, criminally speaking (but not always). I'd need to know before-hand (and would expect my Master to find out).

Thanks for the reply.

- Susan

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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/12/2006 8:53:40 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

yes, you'd been even less thrilled if the couple walking by called the cops on you two.

Aww I don't know..........everyone needs that one memory of the time they were caught with their pants down by the cops.

I'm not going to get into details, but my first Dom and I did some very naughty stuff once in a very public place. A week later another couple was arrested for doing almost the same thing. I was kinda of upset that we were not arrested. Those type of charges are not severe, and he could have well affored the fine. We could of had our pictures as mug shots together in a frame in the dungeon.

"Honey remember the time we got arrested for you givin me a blow job at the park.........good times!"

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RE: How Far Do You Go With Exhibitionism? - 12/12/2006 9:53:09 AM

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D/s in public looks to much like abuse and could trigger some ones memory's in a not so great way with out their consent, and if they did not have support to help them identify it and deal with it,, then it could become harmful....

So i am not a fan....

sex in public, thats different.

the only time i was humiliated in public was when i was wearing a tiny skirt, no panties and my owner lifted it up.....it was an awesome rush....but ultimately i requested we never do it again because i felt like any one watching might get damaged.

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