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SusanofO -> A Minor Revelation (12/20/2006 10:01:46 AM)
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For some reason I've been thinking a lot about why people's sexual practices (anyone's, just generally speaking) should be considered odd - at all (I am speaking of things not involving murder, and the usual "no no"s, of course. Some things I think are illegal because they are hurtful and I understand that part). But - I am talking of wiiwd - the rest of it. All of it.
I've taken for granted mostly, I suppose, that what other people want to do sexually is just really not anyone's business except theirs -and I've felt this way almost my entire life (at least as long as I've been thinking about sexual relationships).
I'm not trying to be or sound "liberal", or "tolerant". I honestly don't think bdsm (anymore) is really very "exotic", "strange", or even care that it's not practiced by more people (supposedly about 10% of the population - or whatever, give or take a few percentage points).
I suppose I did for a few months, when I first learned of it. It had some "intrigue", and still does because there are so many things I can be excited about (and am) that I've not yet tried as far as activity. I also do think this way promotes more intimacy and trust (which is probably the main attraction for me - implements used, aside).
But - it just is what it is - it's what some people want to do.
Why is this considered alternately by some to be: "Evil","exotic " and-or "strange"? It even seems to be considered this way by some in the bdsm world ("Exotic". Some practices, anyway). I am not trying to sound like Margaret Mead or anything - but am curious as to why ths would be so.
Maybe it's me - maybe I am the weirdo. But I just don't think there's much out there that really is all that strange (and I never really have, honestly - even as a kid. Of course as a kid I am not talking about learning about sexual things, but other things perhaps considered "freaky" or "odd" by some people, (or almost everyone it seemed).
It wasn't like I was being "tolerant" . My attitude (really) was pretty much: "Okay, whatever they are or want to do- that's fine. Next".
Of course there are things that are not to my taste. But - I don't give two hoots who else want to do them.
**I am wondering why this bdsm stuff, as a whole, is even a big deal to some in the sense that it's considered "apart" from instead of "part of" some spectrum of sexuality that is altogether normal. It's not freaky to me - it's part of being a human being. It's what makes some people feel good.
Why would that be considered odd, or bad - if it isn't hurting any non-consensual people? Why is it even considered exotic? People think not many others practice it apparently - well - how do they know? And who really cares anyway?
If I want to have sex with a monkey at the top of a palm tree at midnight, for example - why would anyone else ever even care? I am confused.
I've had a judgmental moment here and there, I suppose. But honestly not very many. I just think it's odd the other people (in general, non-bdsm oriented or bdsm affiliates) give a darn what other people do with their sexual lives.
Any comments on this thread topic?
- Susan
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