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ORIGINAL: quietkitten

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. But I think you are worth something and deserve to be treated respectfully, BDSM lifestyle be damned.

I've never met a sub or slave, in a healthy, BDSM lifestyle relationship that were not treated respectfully as a person, and worth quite a lot to his or her dom.

The way my Master puts it, if you weren't worth much to me, why would I want you to begin with? This has to do with ones own self worth also.

Being treated respectfully as a person, doesn't have a lot to do with play, or things that happen in a scene. To me, and please I'd love anyone's input, it has to do with your dom, or anyone including yourself, respecting that you are an intelligent human being. Who has feelings, and a right to live in a happy, meanful way. Whatever the definition of that is...for that person.

Blou, you sound like a very nice person, and indeed you absolutely do not deserve to be treated in this way. But even as a sub, you have the right to stick up for yourself,. Especially, in my opinion, when your dom is not adhering to the boundaries of your relationship. Hang in there. I think we all just want you to come through this ok, and healthier for it.

Ok, I feel like I'm starting to ramble, and losing focus, so I'm stopping...smiles



Tempest's pet

(in reply to quietkitten)

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ORIGINAL: Tempestspet


I've never met a sub or slave, in a healthy, BDSM lifestyle relationship that were not treated respectfully as a person, and worth quite a lot to his or her dom.

The way my Master puts it, if you weren't worth much to me, why would I want you to begin with? This has to do with ones own self worth also.

Being treated respectfully as a person, doesn't have a lot to do with play, or things that happen in a scene. To me, and please I'd love anyone's input, it has to do with your dom, or anyone including yourself, respecting that you are an intelligent human being. Who has feelings, and a right to live in a happy, meanful way. Whatever the definition of that is...for that person.

Blou, you sound like a very nice person, and indeed you absolutely do not deserve to be treated in this way. But even as a sub, you have the right to stick up for yourself,. Especially, in my opinion, when your dom is not adhering to the boundaries of your relationship. Hang in there. I think we all just want you to come through this ok, and healthier for it.

Ok, I feel like I'm starting to ramble, and losing focus, so I'm stopping...smiles



Tempest's pet