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Are there any rare breed of Mistress’s / Dommes / Captors that want the absolute power and the arrangement that it provides.

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The sub/slave/captive is totally dependent on that person - for comfort, food, news, interaction, anything, everything, including survival. Anything can be taken away as punishment. Or is this something that would be considered fantasy or at best a play scene of a given duration.

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The thought of having a slave imprisoned for an indeterminable time is indeed chilling. Those who don't understand such a situation may wonder what's in it for the captor. It seems Mistress’s / Dommes / Captors becomes the servant, waiting on the captive hand and foot.

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I think that answer to that is the psychological satisfaction of having such extreme control.  

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In my opinion I am still talking about slavery. Only slavery completely on the Dominant's terms, with no regard at all for what the submissive wants.

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It isn't a partnership, or even really a relationship. I am talking about a situation where the slave is simply an object for the Dominant to do with as they please.

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Captivity has an appeal to me, but it also feels rather selfish: if I’m bound/locked up rather than being “of use” I feel that I’m getting what I want and someone would have to be looking after me and doing possibly everything for me, depending on the type of captivity

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I have to admit, a long time ago, for a brief moment I pondered the concept of getting sent to prison or self admitting to an asylum , but I’m way too scared and worried to actually go through with it.

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Honestly, I don't really want to break the law, (not seriously enough to be imprisoned) and I don't want to be an embarrassment to my family either. I’m far from convinced that it'd be sane or correct choice for me to make.

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Furthermore I don't really think captivity alone would be right for me; I feel I need to be of use in some way or fashion as well.

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ORIGINAL: enigmaslave

(Blushes), what is OP an acronym for?

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ORIGINAL: enigmaslave

(Redirecting to the forum)
Are we not here at the “Collar Me” message boards to share our ideas in a safe and confrontation free environment and to find other like minded persons? If so, then those that have taken the substantial leaps beyond the parameters of the non lifestyle people should not be limited or constrained to those who are not at the same level. The non lifestyle people that are projecting their limiting beliefs are actually hindering the purpose of this board

I must admit, I was bemused by one person who said it was not of interest to them because “Its sounds like too much work”. That reaction is so typical of our Nintendo generation personality. My interpretation of what was said would be, they desire to be in control and want it all now, yet not having any desire, interest or understanding of how to work for it. Such comments reminds me of the school “cliques”, where the most popular persons opinion became the homogeneous opinion. That type school bullying tended to stifle creative thought, and worse disallowed those with differing opinions to express them with out feeling like an outcast

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ORIGINAL: MsKatHouston

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The thought of having a slave imprisoned for an indeterminable time is indeed chilling. Those who don't understand such a situation may wonder what's in it for the captor. It seems Mistress’s / Dommes / Captors becomes the servant, waiting on the captive hand and foot.

I, personally, would not desire a submissive who needed continual management.  I prefer a slave who has skills and traits that will help please me.  If working within a tightly structured environment, the slave may be completely the captive and still serve me and my needs without turning the tables into more work for the Mistress.

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I think that answer to that is the psychological satisfaction of having such extreme control.  

As long as it is dealing with my needs, I am great with extreme control.  Keep in mind, though, that maybe what I need on a particular day is a rousing debate or to go dancing.  If the slave is capable of fulfilling those needs when I desire them, I am all for extreme control.

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In my opinion I am still talking about slavery. Only slavery completely on the Dominant's terms, with no regard at all for what the submissive wants.

I think what some may read is that this is not actually the case.  Many people who have approached me with this scenario, though, have indicated it is not actually on my terms.  They have a very specific fantasy in mind and want that.  So, if there is a time, for example, I want to cuddle on the couch that's what I want.  If that does not coincide with the slave's fantasy ideal, then the slave gets pissy.  So, as long as it truly is on my terms, how I define it, it's all good. 

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Captivity has an appeal to me, but it also feels rather selfish: if I’m bound/locked up rather than being “of use” I feel that I’m getting what I want and someone would have to be looking after me and doing possibly everything for me, depending on the type of captivity

Having a slave locked up and not in use 24/7 seems a bit unrealistic.  The slave must have some use for me.  That does not mean, though, that when not in use, he can't be locked up.  There are safety measures that can be added and rules for times when not in use or sleeping.  I guess it would depend on the severity and the situations as to whether or not it is truly selfish.  If there is zero use for the dominant then yes, I'd say that was pretty selfish and would get utterly boring for the dominant.  But if the dominant is getting what she wants and then when done, locks you up, it seems to be a win/win situation.

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Furthermore I don't really think captivity alone would be right for me; I feel I need to be of use in some way or fashion as well.

Then, I am sure you can find what it is you seek eventually.  For most dominants, they also want to get something out of it so being useful is a good trait to have.

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   must admit, I was bemused by one person who said it was not of interest to them because “Its sounds like too much work”. That reaction is so typical of our Nintendo generation personality. My interpretation of what was said would be, they desire to be in control and want it all now, yet not having any desire, interest or understanding of how to work for it. Such comments reminds me of the school “cliques”, where the most popular persons opinion became the homogeneous opinion. That type school bullying tended to stifle creative thought, and worse disallowed those with differing opinions to express them with out feeling like an outcast

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Is, yes, this would likely be a play scene for a given duration, as many Female Dommes seem to seek and need companionship as well, This “level” appears to be tiring and lacking in interaction. Furthermore the predominant opinion is that this would likely more pleasing for the submissive then the Dom/me. It seems that many Dommes here would not derive psychological satisfaction of having such extreme control. It seems it may be possible, however it would be very unlikely to find a Domme interested in that “level” or type of play for long durations.

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  I think you may have reacted, enigmaslave, to people giving you their thoughts and opinions in a very harsh fashion that frankly reads as you describe above. Not everyone is going to be interested in what you are, that's life. But to suggest that they are somehow less real about their kink or their own lives and interests reads very rude to my eyes.

I didn't see one single response to your original posting that said you are wrong or bad or sick or anything. People just responded with their own feelings and thoughts on the matter. If you wanted to limit it to only people who have the same desires as you or who have only done what you are looking for then I think you will have little luck with that on an open forum.

If you chose to read the comments of folks as bashing you, I think that is a choice you are free to make but I'm not sure you are opening yourself up to really understanding other people this way. Personally while your initial post made me think highly of your ability to write and caused me think a lot (thus my long first reply) your later posts have been a real turn-off as I read your words to basically be a slam on anyone who isn't supportive of your desires or who wants to discuss related issues.

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ORIGINAL: enigmaslave

It is not normally in my nature to do this, however I feel compelled to rebuttal the Eloquently written thoughts tammyjo

In post #8, you wrote “warning: this will be rambling”, and furthermore in post #18 you wrote “It triggered several rambling thoughts in my mind that I tried to share”

I’m glad you preamble your posts that way. With all the missing punctuation, grammar errors, sentence run on’s, and left out words, I have not had so much difficulty reading a few paragraphs since my daughter was in grade two. What is more disturbing about this situation is that I know MY writing skills are poor. (Did I read somewhere you’re an instructor?)

You made initial perceptions that sent you on a tangent, which left you incongruent with the string.

In the hopes of realigning the group, including you, I recall restating my questions.

It is rather odd that you still feel justified to continue “the old banter”

End of rebuttal, as any further comments made by her are still incongruent with the string.