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julietsierra -> RE: Is this disrespect? (12/26/2006 7:53:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MaryT quote: ORIGINAL: badlilthang If he is taking the opinions of online strangers so seriously, I would question his judgment in general. Unless what you are talking about is a cyber-only relationship (which isn't a relationship at all) ... in which case: You can do waaay better than that. [:)] Again this.....if it is a cyber-only relationship it isn't a real one. i don't know, but statements like that always makes me think "us rt SM'ers are so much better than the rest of you". Well, I don't know about better as a person, but certainly more grounded in reality where this stuff is concerned. I respect people who are well-grounded in reality. I grant you "isn't a relationship at all" was not correct, but I would venture that it resembles real time no more than cyber sex resembles flesh-on-flesh sex. MaryT I just think of all this as if we all are pen-pals - with keyboards, and leave it at that. Some pen-pals never meet; some pen-pals meet and find they have nothing in common; some pen-pals meet, marry and stay that way for 50 years. This stuff has been going on for as long as people have been writing each other letters. It's not exactly new, and arguing over which is better seems a whole lot like spitting into the wind...it never goes anywhere and just makes a mess. juliet

angelic -> RE: Is this disrespect? (12/26/2006 7:56:46 AM)
i did not read all the replies, but it gave me pause that he would care one whit about what 'cyber' doms and submissives think. What does it matter what others think as long as the two of you are happy?

MaryT -> RE: Is this disrespect? (12/26/2006 8:01:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: julietsierra I just think of all this as if we all are pen-pals - with keyboards, and leave it at that. I hope we all can do way better than have merely penpals in our lives, and I don't think there is anything wrong with saying so. MaryT

julietsierra -> RE: Is this disrespect? (12/26/2006 8:18:41 AM)
I don't either, but those who care deeply for their pen-pals might see things a bit differently - as is their right. And who are we to decide that whatever we have is so much better than what they have - or vice versa? juliet

MaryT -> RE: Is this disrespect? (12/26/2006 9:47:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: julietsierra I don't either, but those who care deeply for their pen-pals might see things a bit differently - as is their right. And who are we to decide that whatever we have is so much better than what they have - or vice versa? juliet I understand what you are saying, Juliet. Please understand that what I have at the moment is a desire for the real thing, and that's all. Perhaps I shouldn't hope for others as I hope for myself. Or I could pull a Pema and make an aspiration that we all abandon both hope and fear, but I think that's going to take a few more years meditation. lol. MaryT

Firsttime -> RE: Is this disrespect? (12/31/2006 2:15:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: twistedwillow Sorry, i don't think you do understand. I'm not here to defend what i did, if you re-read my original post it was simply asking for weather people thought what i had written was disrespectful or not. To my mind he over reacted to it in a big way, and i don't understand why. All i am doing now, is defending myself against attacks, i don't want to be attacked, i don't want personal comments about myself or my Sir, all i want is for people to let me know if in their opinion what i wrote was disrespectful ... or not! Edited to add, that for the record he told me to ask others opinions on this, i am not doing this to * air it * or fold it or even put it away! twistedwillow I did not think that what you originally posted was disrespectful at all but I do think the way you are acting now is not only disrespectful but childish as well. You asked for opinions and you are recieving them.. Just because you do not like them is no ones problem but your own. You had a right to your feelings about what you said your Dom did and he has the right to His feelings and deserves to express them the same as you did. I can only guess that he wished you to ask this question so you would see that He was not the only one who felt you were disrespectful. I didn't at first but your continuing comments have shown you to be so.

Firsttime -> RE: Is this disrespect? (12/31/2006 2:27:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: twistedwillow I didn't create a new profile "just to say it". The whys and where to fors are unimportant. You don't need to know why it was written, or anything else. All you need to know to for your opinion on this is, that it wasn't written with intent to to disrespect him, harm him, or cause him anger, distress, outrage or any number of other feelings. I'm also not asking for people to try and change my mind, i still don't feel i did anything wrong. ALL i am asking for is if in your opinion it is disrespectful, i dont need to know if i was your sub\slave\garden gnome, you would have me strung up n beaten to a pulp, or put on the kerb for some one else, or anything of the sort. Please stick to answering the question asked, Do you find what i wrote to be disrespectful. twistedwillow The more you write the more disrespectful you become. You wanted opinions your getting them. Please stop being so childish and throwing temper tantrums because people aren't giving you the opinions that you wanted. Honestly, you had to have known people would give their own personal opinions because that is what you asked for. In answer to your question...yes you were and still are disrespectful in your words, tone and actions regarding this matter. There that's my opinion and remember you did ask for my opinion!!!

Firsttime -> RE: Is this disrespect? (12/31/2006 2:40:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Well, I will keep a great deal of my thoughts on this subject matter to myself, save this: If I were to hunt me up a girl, and found out that if it didn't work out, my fault, her fault, nobodies fault that a X-files type of ephameral profile and subsequent (oh, by my guess, this is the stuff of a 9 pager) posting would appear with every attendant psycobabbler in a tour de force of inestimable logic would weigh in (I include myself, for those already taking umbrage and sending me nasty replies privately and publicly).....well, I will give you this, you will be left alone and have plenty of time to heal, and by any right I am aware of, would be given a wide berth when you come into heat again. Dr. Seuss ROFLMAO

crouchingtigress -> RE: Is this disrespect? (12/31/2006 3:24:59 AM)
when you are in a LDR relationship you almost have to create drama to keep the juicy feelings going....you created yours and he is creating his...and then you posted this to create some more of yours... i think this sort of thing is inevitable unless you research healthier ways get your juice needs met.

nephandi -> RE: Is this disrespect? (12/31/2006 3:44:59 AM)
i am sorry, i have not read all the replies to this post. But here is my two cents. The profile to me sounds a little angry, it have a bit of a we had a fight and i won air aboute it. No i dont think you did anything wrong, not unless your Sir think so, however i can understand how some Dominants would think it ofensive. If you and your Sir is fine whit the profile, by all means keep it, the profile police is not going to come and arest you, but just be preperared that the reactions might continue. Also, if your Sir dont like the profile, depending on the nature of your relationship to him, i would recomend changing it.

crouchingtigress -> RE: Is this disrespect? (12/31/2006 5:00:21 AM)
quote: Also, if your Sir dont like the profile, depending on the nature of your relationship to him, i would recomend changing it. sometimes life is so simple...eh?[;)]

nephandi -> RE: Is this disrespect? (12/31/2006 6:22:43 AM)
Inded, somtimes it is. Happy New Year.

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