LadyEllen
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The difference between serving a TS mistress and a natural female mistress, and what is the draw?
First off, TS women are like hens' teeth. Whereas from what I read, crossdressing occurs in up to 25% of the male population, the incidence of male to female (m2f) transsexuality is less than 1%. Also, the most successful TS women live in what is known as stealth - their status unknown to the outside world. We do not go round telling everyone or even anyone, for that matter, and do our level best to merge into the crowd. We dont want to be transsexual, we want to be who/what we are. In most places and instances, it would be a disaster for others to know anything about our condition - dismissal from work, eviction from home, harassment, abuse and violence up to and including murder are common consequences of exposure. So, unless she advertises it loudly and proudly (and foolishly in my opinion) you are not likely to even know her chromosomal make up once all the procedures are completed, as long as she looks/acts within the bounds laid down for acceptable femininity.
Also unlike the CD, the TS woman is not acting, adopting a persona or pretending. She is who she is, 24/7. Sure, in the first days of her transition, she will often go a little over the top because of the release to be herself after a lifetime of being someone else - the TS woman was acting, adopting a persona and pretending prior to transition, to be acceptable as a male. But most often, after a short spell of uber femininity, she will find herself and then, usually, you wont be able to tell much difference between her and any other woman, once she has her look worked out (a process all natural women go through too incidentally, during their teens).
Of course though, there is no real way to measure how female someone is. Even with natural women, this is impossible. What is female and feminine is impossible enough to determine in itself, and even where some attempt at this has been made (Google Sandra Bems and the Bems SRI), the results have suggested that women and men alike share many characteristics which were previously distinguished as male or female for psychological gender testing purposes. Yet, they remain distinguishable as male or female to the naked eye, in their beings and doings, characters and interactions. What this means is, that the difference between male and female lies in appearance, interactions with others and most importantly personal identity. It is not so much that men and women are opposites, but more about nuances, flavours and emphases, which arise from their inner beings and ideas about who they are and their place in the world. Men and women both value compassion, (adjudged a female trait in the Bems SRI), but value it and demonstrate it differently, for example.
So, for the m2f TS woman, she will score in the centre ground on such a gender test alike with natural males and females, but tend to value and demonstrate the qualities on which the test is assessed, in a way more akin to that of the natural females, because her inner being and how she sees herself in the world is in common with natural females. A crossdresser meanwhile, will also score in the centre ground, but more than likely value and demonstrate those qualities expressed in the test in a male way, for in his inner being and in how he relates to the world, he is male.
From that, as far as the outside world is concerned, the m2f TS woman will conform by and large to the bounds of what a woman is in our world, and will be regarded and treated as female, as her inner being tells her she is. So, as long as her appearance falls within those same bounds, then there is little chance she will be regarded as anything but a woman; which after all is the whole idea!
Sexually, there is no way to know whether the TS woman is identical in terms of arousal, response and so on with a natural woman. Obviously there are physical differences, even after surgical alterations, which so far no process of transition can deal with. A TS woman will have been born and raised as male and will in most cases have experienced male puberty with all that entails, and her physical make up will never be the same as a natural woman. This however is not to say that psychologically she does not fall within the bounds of natural female sexuality, (het, bi or lesbian), and it should also be noted that in my experience at least, a lot of our sexuality as human beings derives from our hormonal make up; alter the hormonal levels and its possible to alter sexual drive, arousal cues and responses, even orientations. In my experience at least, from what I've picked up along the way, I'm not that different to a natural woman in all of those aspects.
Overall then, I would guess that serving a TS woman would not be so much different to serving a natural woman - in fact you might never know her status if she chose not to disclose it and her appearance was sufficiently female for it to give no clues.
Now, what is the draw? I confess that if someone wanted me because of what I was, it would turn me off immediately and irretrievably. If someone wanted me because I have/had a penis, if someone wanted me to use my penis or if they wanted to use it, that would be awful. I dont know how other TS women feel about it - I never said I was in the wrong body like the stereotype says, (I like my body, which is handy as its the only one I have!), but what I detest is what I see as a birth defect, an embarassment. For someone to desire you on the basis of a birth defect, is not comfortable; and there are plenty of men out there who do go after the likes of me for that reason, just like there are men out there who go for amputees and so on. Thats fine, no objection to it, but not for me thanks.
At the same time, I grew up male. Aside from being bullied throughout school for being gay (which I knew I wasnt), most of my associations were with boys, most of my upbringing was with male culture. This maybe gives me some advantages, in that I know more about men than most women ever will - how they really are, what they get up to, how they think, what they want and so on. Whether that provides a draw I dont know, and in any case its not something I advertise so how would any man know that about me, aside from on CM?
Hope that explains something anyway!
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