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Grlwithboy -> RE: I have a submission issue. PLEASE HELP!!! (12/26/2006 12:23:20 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Arastella
I know it is my destiny to be a slave and I know it is what I want. But sometimes I have problems when I become moody or aggrivated and it is difficult for me to remain down, respectful and submissive. I wish to be everything my Mistress desires of me, but at times it becomes difficult when I get moody or upset or aggrivated. Please help!!
Did you turn in your "human" card when you learned about slavery? Everything that makes you yourself, your moods, frustrations, job, and life outside? Probably not.
A lot of us learn about slavery in fiction and in small scene doses in which nobody's dealing with bills, class, work, or children screaming in the background. This doesn't prep you for taking it into your likely very contemporary, busy, complex life.
It's going to be difficult to remain respectful, appropriate and pleasing. Yes. That's also what makes it really sweet for me, as an Owner, when my slave is centered, present, and getting it right - I am cognizant that there are a million reasons that this isn't his first inclination or response (nor often mine, believe me, vegging out in front of South Park is often a lot more attractive than working on the intricaies of an M/s relationship for the M.)
How do you do it? Managing your responses when you feel the stress climbing. Talking with instead of blowing up. Enlisting some therapy if you never learned appropriate and respectful communication styles or good listening skills in emotionally charged situations (whether M or s)
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