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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/26/2006 9:24:17 PM

LadyHugs

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Dear mymasterssub69, Ladies and Gentlemen;

Age will happen--no stopping it. Sorry!

That said, I know a gentleman at the sweet age of 69 who ran circles around younger, more fit and more muscled slaves. Amazing man. I did enjoy his submission as well as his brother slave at the lovely age of early 50s. I bought the slave brother at a charity auction in 2005 and had a most delightful time.

Growing old is only one concern individuals need to concern themselves with. One needs to ask the other, what happens should I (in the context of a general question/conversation) become crippled due to injury, disease, loose a limb, loose sight and or hearing and a variety of 'what ifs.' Age is just another thing to add to the negotiations and make provisions in dealing with something that may come out of the blue to upset the current normal. I would also add, what if you (in a general sense) called to go home and attend to a sick parent or one that is not capable of caring for themselves long term and no future of any short resolutions.

When I have had older slaves in my collar, instead of sleeping on the floor like a young lad/lass would be able to manage; they sleep on a bed. It really is just adjustments as to accomidate the slave's ability rather than making them jump hoops when they're not able to--to make them do beyond their abilities is cruel, in my mind's eyes.

Being that I am 52 years shy of 1,000,000 years old-- 40 is just another milestone to a wonderful life! Wait till you get to 9,999,947 years old like me! [Grins]

Respectfully submitted with a bit of wit,
Lady Hugs

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/26/2006 9:32:51 PM

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I know I must be aging because I had porridge the other day and actually enjoyed it.

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/26/2006 9:43:34 PM

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Okay someone forgot to put me out to pasture...I'm 40! ack!

Okay just kidding. I think the key here is this. As you get older you gain life experiences. How old you are when it comes to everything else has to do with physical fitness, and attitude. Sure you may develope debilitating things that get in the way of play. But that is a part of aging, and a truely loving dominant will find a way to work with that.

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/27/2006 1:50:44 AM

Quivver

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Old is a frame of mind .. As 50 creeps up on me the number itself is a mind phuck if I let it.
Then I realize that in alot of ways I am not nearing 50 at all. It's just a number on my drivers licence that takes math to get. ....... I'm sure that somewhere I'm not what I used to be, but honestly I've not noticed it enough to dwell on it. Take what you've got and use it, use it to the best of your ability, use it often, have fun. Life's to short to worry about growing old!

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/27/2006 3:23:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: mymasterssub69

i know this is something i should talk with Daddy and i shall since i have committed myself to Him for life.

this slave would wholeheartedly agree with you as it sounds like a very smart thing to do, and would encourage others to have this sort of conversation before committing oneself to another for life. it might not make for sexy pillow-talk, but it helped this slave to understand Master's take and be able to express her own regarding the subject of growing old before making that lifelong commitment.

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However i'm gradually approaching that magical age of 40...

this slave is revelling in the magic, just turned 40 last month...it really is fabulous and this slave highly recommends it to everyone.

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...though i don't look a day over 30.

the only time this slave has cared how old she looked is when she successfully convinced the bouncer that yes-indeedy that was her correct birthyear on that valid ID.

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i merely wanted to hear some thoughts from older submissives/slaves (as well as Doms and Dommes) about growing as a submissive.

thoughts about growing old, not "as a", but "by a" submissive:

we are all hurtling towards the grave at our own personal rate...for some, 40 is almost the end, for others, they are not even half-way there!

this slave's philosophy is to make the most of today, right here, right now--let go of the past--don't get caught up in the future, embrace growing....not UP, or OLD, just a little different...as this slave hurtles towards her inevitable end.

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/27/2006 6:16:30 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

this slave's philosophy is to make the most of today, right here, right now--let go of the past--don't get caught up in the future, embrace growing....not UP, or OLD, just a little different...as this slave hurtles towards her inevitable end.

my philosophy as well :-) As my spiritual healer put it " do not expend today's energy on worries of tomorrow...today is all that exists"

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/27/2006 7:00:48 AM

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I'm on the backside of 40 now, and aside from the obvious aches and all - and the fact that if we're going out for the evening on a Saturday night, I need a nap that afternoon, and can pretty much write off most of Sunday - that while it can be interesting, porn just isn't as much fun as it used to be for me to watch.

These days, (and I kid you not) the most likely thought running through my head at what I've seen recently is "Oh! You are SO grounded!!!"

THAT'S when I knew I was getting old (er).

juliet

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/27/2006 9:52:39 AM

LordVelvet

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I am a old 31. A few car accidents and a misspent youth has done in My knees and back. I take each day as it come. Some are good some aren't. Such is life. Life is what you make of it regardless of age. My grandmother is about to turn 96 and refuses to give up. Makes Me proud

Lord Velvet

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/27/2006 10:10:38 AM

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The older I get (at least so far) the more secure I am in who and what I am. The aging process, in my experience, has been nothing but positive. There are new wonders and new discoveries, and all sorts of little thrills I would not have noticed in my younger years. Embrace 40. It's been terrific for me so far!

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/27/2006 11:08:48 AM

seeksfemslave

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Growing old has very little to recommend it whatever you do, submissive, dominant, vanilla etc etc etc

That said it appears that many can live an active life certainly into the late 70's early 80's and many more cannot, but sooner or later our body, which afterall is a biological machine begins to wear out. Cheery soul arent I. Its true tho'

To the O/poster approaching 40, with only average luck you should have 25/30 years of healthy life in front of you, so I shouldn't worry........YET lol

< Message edited by seeksfemslave -- 12/27/2006 11:14:21 AM >

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/27/2006 11:18:28 AM

Mercnbeth

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Growing old is the next to worst thing that can happen to a person. The worst thing is the alternative not growing old.

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/27/2006 2:19:09 PM

agirl

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The only worries I have about getting *old* have nothing to do with being a slave. I can't think of a single reason why being a slave would affect my feelings on it.

The older I've become, the happier I've become in lots of ways, with myself......but I don't like the physical aspects of it at all. I don't want to ache as much when I've been running.... I won't embrace even minor bothers with grace.

agirl

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/27/2006 5:56:20 PM

mymasterssub69

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thank you everyone for the replies.

we discussed it this morning and are thinking about possible living wills for medical decisions.

well, i'm off to enjoy life with Daddy now.

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/27/2006 6:50:23 PM

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My life literally changed completely the day I turned 40. That was when I left an unhappy life and moved in with my Dom. It has been an incredible 9 months with a man who has truly become the love of my life and my Master. I'm enrolled in college and just finished my first quarter with a 4.0 GPA. I feel that my life has just begun. My Sir is much older than I am and we don't take one single day for granted. We live, love, and play it to its fullest!

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/27/2006 8:09:00 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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tomorrow is not promised to either of us

No one is promised tomorrow. Where did you get the idea that anyone is?

(I was promised tomorrow...and I'm fucking gonna collect).

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/28/2006 6:11:03 AM

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This has to be some of the dumbest advice I have ever seen: Age gracefully, you are not going to stop it? Who knew 40 was old? LMAO. Is this the best you can do? Same with the rest of the "advice". Why waste anyone's time writing this dribble if this is the finest your years of experience can produce. You obviously don't have a clue.

Face this: death stalks you. Time is not a companion to be cherished on the journey; it is to be feared as it passes beneath you. Eventually, it will reach you and take from you everything you love. THAT, is reality. There may be, and probably is, another reality beyond this one, but it is *not* this one, obviously. All that you have built, all that anyone has built - from the mightiest king to the richest man - will be, eventually, washed away under the sands of history.

All you can do, pardon the stealing of a phrase, is to fight against the dying of the light. There is no grace is growing old. There is no dignity is becoming infirm.

So simply put, grab as much as you can now. As you age, and your grip gets tighter, you will be able to hold less and less. All I can say is that make sure as you can, that what you have in your hand at the end is what you treasure most. It will be very little so it should be very important. Remember that and you will have done the best you could. Disregard the advice of these idiots and their platitudes and you will do better still.

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/28/2006 6:32:06 AM

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This has to be some of the dumbest advice I have ever seen: Age gracefully, you are not going to stop it? Who knew 40 was old? LMAO. Is this the best you can do? Same with the rest of the "advice". Why waste anyone's time writing this dribble if this is the finest your years of experience can produce. You obviously don't have a clue.

Yikes I think that is a wee bit harsh. I am over 40 and I wouldn't repeat my younger years for anything! Sure my body doesn't do nearly as much as my mind would like, but my mind is stronger and happier than it has ever been. I am past the age of frantically rushing to find someone, now I take the pleasure in getting to know them first.
Yes I am aging, we all are. All that means, is that we have made it through things and have managed to continue our journey. That is all life really is... surviving until the end. It is up to YOU to decide how to survive, and with what attitude.
I have chosen to smile and laugh. Yes I also cry on those days where my body announces in firm tones that it isn't young or healthy, but for the most part I smile and laugh because life is good if you decide it to be.
It isn't growing old gracefully, it is more that I accept it as a part of the natural state of things. I love nature and I embrace my life.
I know I probably will not find a Dom because of my health issues but I have friends/loved ones and every single day I smile. No matter what. Growing up has taught me too many things for me to consider aging a total negative.
"Act as if, and it becomes a part of you".

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/28/2006 8:30:52 AM

subsa

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i'm 47; does that sound old to you? i consider myself older not old. every hour, every minute, every second i am older (and sometimes wiser). but i hope i never grow old. i've met people in their 20's who are old. old is a mindset not a number. everyday i try to grow and learn about life. old is when you are static; when each moment is the same as the last. when life holds no surprises (or when you refuse to see the surprises) then you are old. so just choose not to let it happen to you....

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/28/2006 1:46:19 PM

notsurebutsweet

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well being that i am 41 and have just entered the lifestyle this year i hope that i am not old yet. and yes Master is 10 years younger then me, but prefers older women.

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/28/2006 2:04:45 PM

krista

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Greetings.....

Being a tuly vintage girl.......that meaning i will be 55 in feb.....i have no problem with aging......i am a submissive who knows her value...has personal peace....and is no where near being ready for the dirt nap.....color me ALIVE and HAPPY to be so....trust me....there IS life after 50......and a pretty good one at that.....!

krista-The Vintage Girl
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