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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/29/2006 3:07:34 AM

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Recently worked a trade show with a male co-worker who is 23. He had slipped a disk in his back and couldn't lift anything. i ended up lifting, moving and erecting all the exhibit materials and thought to myself, "it must be awful to be in one's 20s.... it seems so debilitating!"

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/29/2006 7:13:53 PM

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OUCH!

41, here and actually feeling for the first time that i'm not clueless as to my wants and needs!

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/29/2006 10:01:28 PM

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I am 60 and Hubby is 64 and we are still exploring and trying new things in our relationship. Our joint problems are the only limiting factors and we just work around them.

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/30/2006 12:19:03 PM

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Welp, first word.. "Whatever you do, don't break a hip!"

Aging sucks. Having to discuss where you want to be buried sucks. Finding out you're running late on retirement planning sucks. Knowing that a Sat night out could be a 3 day investment, because of the Friday extra nap, and the Sunday recovery, hey, that sucks. (but dancing is still worth it!)

Hearing the guys at work discuss hot chicks in front of you sucks, because you can remember when you had to overhear them talking about you through the walls.. but on balance, knowing that even if she's hot, she probably has many years of heartache and stupid confusion and self-discovery to catch up to where you're at now, that helps.

And, thank the gods, dick does NOT wrinkle more as it ages, so at least our toys will still be like new!

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/30/2006 1:15:17 PM

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First, if you're alive you're getting older. There's no getting around that whether you are 4 days old or 40 *years* old.

Second, no one gets out of life alive. So, IMO, you might as well enjoy your life as it is. If you don't like it, change either your life or how you view it, because that's all you've got.

In 5 days I'll be 52 years old. I have aches and pains. I've had surgeries. I take a handful of pills each day to help me maintain my body. When someone plays with me they have to make adjustments due to my physical limitations, but since when did a challenge become a negative thing to a Dominant????

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/30/2006 4:16:56 PM

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My Mom always told me "Life begins at 40". Boy, was she right! I didn't even know what BDSM was until I was almost 41.

I do wish I didn't have some of these physical ailments that limit some activites.....but, hey, I'm grateful for the activities i CAN do.

The first man I called "Dom" was 17 yrs older than me. He broke every stereotype of age I ever had. My One and Forever Master is about a year younger than me. And He would never be interested in someone less than 30- so there goes the theory that all the good ones want young chicks. Even when He was in that age group He went after what He considered a "ripe" woman- one old enough to know herself and not play immature games.

In my 40s, I have discovered who I really am, why I have always had these longings, that I can be successful and raise 3 kids on my own, that I am sexy, desirable and "hot" and that I am sooo much stronger than I ever thought I was.

Life is good.

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/30/2006 7:02:54 PM

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Though life has no guarentees, my fingers are crossed that i am the one who cares for Master the rest of His days. With any luck, in decades to come, when He can no longer feed Himself, it will never be humiliating to Him, because i have been feeding Him for years already. Bathing Him is an honor, and offering any other service He desires should not change.

Being in this relationship has helped me feel the grace that is possible with aging. i turned 40 several years ago, and was alone. It was hard for me to accept everything that was changing about myself. Master's acceptance has helped me tremendously.

Most people who know me would be surprised to learn that i struggled in turning 40, but it really did hit me hard. i have not shared this with anyone... for the most part i act very young, my kids keep me far too informed of current music, and sayings... and i manage young people in my line of work who also help keep me thinking young.... but i do feel the difference.

Thank you for this thread! i am going to ask Master how He would have me serve Him, if i were younger... and see what i might learn from His perspective....

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/31/2006 2:29:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

How do I feel about growing older as a submissive woman a couple months shy of 39? Well, as a woman I have days I cannot believe how fast it has went so far, other days I feel old, other days I feel pretty damn good about aging gracefully. I came to the conclusion wearing makeup makes me look older, I needed to quit smoking and exercise more. I have started on a low carb lifestyle regime to regulate my blood sugar and give me more natural energy....

I do not feel badly about getting older, I just want to keep my parts healthy and happy for as long as possible. I have been told more than a few times I look good with no age qualifier like "you look good - for your age"...lol, and the first time I hear the "age" word attached to that statement I will probably be offended

So, how do I feel about getting older as a submissive? I have read more than once a submissive person feeling low about aging, stating that every dom wanted a younger sub, even when they were on their 50s. I have read submissives that make this blanket statement about men in their age group, and I always think to myself How come when I have read profiles of men my age and older I see a good many men wanting women their own age and stating that they specifically do not want a very young submissive? The more I thought about my perception contrasted against other people's perceptions I just figured it was the glass half empty or the glass half full paradigm. I see the glass as being half full. I did not waste energy on profiles of men seeking what I am not, instead I focused on men that were looking for someone like me.

I feel as though I grow as a human being as I approach 40, at this point I am hopeful that I have found what I am looking for in a mate. I am looking for someone to grow old with and enjoy my life with. My submissiveness is just another aspect of who I am, his dominance is something we view the same way... We both were searching for this when we found each other. I tend to be attracted to men that have had similar experiences to myself, and it makes me feel connected when the men I have been interested in feel the same way.

raven says: julia, i think your post is wonderful! so much of what i also want to say. i turned 40 along with Sir and we both joke about getting older. if age is a state of mind, let's see, i've grown up to be about 28 by now ;) i'm so grateful for the lessons learned and the scars earned over the years. i'm hopeful to be able to share some of that with those younger than me, the way i looked to the wisdom of my "elders" when i was young. eek, but i hate the word "elder" *lol*

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/31/2006 2:34:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Wow, 40 is old? Who knew?

According to latest stats fourties are the new thirty somethings..

As people live to be older the baby boomers are not content to do shuffle board....as one might see in advertising geared toward that age group.

Fourty is not old...begining of a new awareness.

Now 70 is old. ;)

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RE: Growing old as a submissive - 12/31/2006 2:37:16 AM

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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

Help. I've fallen and I can't get up.

edited to add...do you mean physically? Mentally?

Physically as We get older things may be a little more difficult....submissive's reaction to whipping and beatings take longer for the body to recover....holdng positions in severe bondage needs to be taken into account..kneeling for periods of time.

Mentally the mind is as sharp as an 18 year old..njust mor refined like a fine wine. ;)

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