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RE: Do You Think You Were "Born This Way" ? - 12/28/2006 8:21:08 PM   
Nosathro


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I understand there is a body of research that concludes we are who were are by the age of 7 years.
 
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ORIGINAL: TypeAsub1

No..

However, I do believe that certain characteristics that I was born with - contributed to who I am today.  Human behaviour, sexuality, etc. are far too complex to be explained away so easily.

 

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RE: Do You Think You Were "Born This Way" ? - 12/28/2006 9:03:57 PM   
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***question: So anyway, do you think you were born like this, or just somehow fell into learning about it, and just "adapted" to it, and like doing it and relating this way - but it isn't a "core" part of you that you were born with?



Frankly... I don't care if it was born to me or it came out of a cracker jack box.

What is important is becoming aware of who I am.  Accepting of what I become Aware of and finally Actualizing what I am to the best of my ability.  It's a life long journey with no known destination.

< Message edited by KnightofMists -- 12/28/2006 9:06:06 PM >

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RE: Do You Think You Were "Born This Way" ? - 12/29/2006 9:59:18 AM   
blindwithscience


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Status: offline 		I would say so. I mean hell, when I played with dolls, Barbie spanked Skipper, Ken spanked Barbie. It's hard-wired

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RE: Do You Think You Were "Born This Way" ? - 12/29/2006 12:50:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		No, I wasn't born this way.  Life happened and directed me to this role.
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RE: Do You Think You Were "Born This Way" ? - 12/29/2006 2:30:04 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SusanofO
***question: So anyway, do you think you were born like this, or just somehow fell into learning about it, and just "adapted" to it, and like doing it and relating this way - but it isn't a "core" part of you that you were born with?

Thanks for any replies.

- Susan


I remember my mother reading me fairytales inwhich, for example, a child was locked in a cage, and feeling fascinated and strangely attracted to the idea of me being the person being punished, captured or humillated. I thought the best part of Cinderella was when she was serving her stepsisters, not the part where she goes to the dance. I had fantasies of being abducted and held prisoner at the age of five. One particularly pleasing fantasy I used to lull myself to sleep with from age four on involved public humiliation, bondage and degredation.
Ive never had a rewarding or fulfilling 'vanilla' romantic relationship...I never was happy in them for more than the first few months. I would say in hindsight that I was silently begging them to love me the way I needed to be loved. In a power exchange relationship I have found the freedom to be my true self. Embracing my submission has been amazingly fruitful in terms of spiritual and personal growth.
Whether I was "born this way" or this path simply appealed to me from a very young age is not particularly relevent to me, but seeing as many of my earliest fantasies revolve around submissive themes, I do tend to lean in the direction of believing that it is something "hard wired".

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RE: Do You Think You Were "Born This Way" ? - 12/29/2006 3:37:29 PM   
Tikkiee


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Status: offline 		Do I think I was born this way?
 
Hell fucking no; what's more, I am still trying figure out what 'way' I am

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RE: Do You Think You Were "Born This Way" ? - 12/29/2006 8:28:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes i feel i waqs born this way. I remeber my early childhood fantasys, Batman and Robin with then both tied up, and i used to tie myself to my bad and spank my own bottom, i was about 7 years old, its followed me ever since, not complaining though

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RE: Do You Think You Were "Born This Way" ? - 12/29/2006 8:42:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SusanofO
***question: So anyway, do you think you were born like this, or just somehow fell into learning about it, and just "adapted" to it, and like doing it and relating this way - but it isn't a "core" part of you that you were born with?

Thanks for any replies.

- Susan


Susan,
I honestly believe I was born this way.  My mother likes to complain that I was a pain in the ass from day one because I was breach.  I just like to say that from day one I told everyone to kiss my ass. 
I did try (for quite a while) to have a "traditional" June Cleaver-like relationship.  Clean the house, make the meals, let him make the decisions.....it really suprises me that we all came out of that mistake sane.
I LIKE being a domme, just hearing the words from my sub "Its my pleasure to serve You" and know that he means it does more for me than anything vanilla or "traditional"  Heck, its even better than winning the lottery...well, okay, lets not get too carried away.  If I won the lottery, I could have a proper dungeon.....
Damn Vampyre

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RE: Do You Think You Were "Born This Way" ? - 12/30/2006 2:33:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you for all of the replies, people!

justheather and PsyVamp: Thanks for the detailed answers and personal examples of early memories. I remember fantasizing about this kind of thing in the form of being "rescued" from a burning building (damsel in distress stuff), and being tied up with rope also, from about the age if 9 or 10. I never had any "Domme" fantasies (but am pretty sure my sister did, considering how her Barbie and Ken dolls used to 'play' together sometimes, hehe).

- Susan

< Message edited by SusanofO -- 12/30/2006 2:39:03 AM >

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