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RE: Confused for the first time in my life. - 12/29/2006 12:07:06 PM

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It's only a judgment when one doesn't agree with what is said.

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RE: Confused for the first time in my life. - 12/29/2006 12:50:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: Leonidas
I'm confused about something. You have made over 5500 posts in just over 8 months????? Like, 20 posts a day??? Wholly smokes!! That has got to be some kind of record.

Aw cmon, I am sure I do far more than that.

And I will beat you one day...(cackles in an evil way)

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RE: Confused for the first time in my life. - 12/29/2006 12:57:27 PM

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I think LA is completely untouchable in this contest, but we'll see.

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RE: Confused for the first time in my life. - 12/29/2006 6:33:42 PM

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maybe if you ensure that when your spending time 'getting to know' each sub, you give them undivided attention so they feel special. then they don't have to wait for a response because it's taking longer. (here i'm assuming you mean on IM or something)

maybe if you don't speak of the other to the other, on a regular basis (but yes they do have to know eachother does in fact exist) but introduce them to one another in time as part of play or scene. make it fun, but don't make it a competition.

most women are territorial. i am such and very upfront and honest about it, even in my profile. i also reiterate it during phone calls.

it takes time to introduce another. it needs to be done slowly and after you have built a strong bond together then it's possible. Then again some sub/slaves have been poly before and understand your needs and it also fulfills theirs.

maybe you need to look at sub/slaves who may have references from previous poly owners. just a thought. good luck.

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ORIGINAL: LordIncantatore
but lately 1 or 2 of them have started to act like the jilted lover anytime I am chatting with more than one of them and my responses take longer than they should.

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RE: Confused for the first time in my life. - 12/29/2006 8:38:20 PM

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You're being honest and saying you have no intention of having an emotionally intimate relationship with them and they are being honest and telling you that without emotional intimacy they won't be able to trust you and become vulnerable.

Seems to me you ought to look for people who are poly, who are with partners with whom they have emotional intimacy but don't have play.

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