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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 4:23:58 PM

justinasamerk

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Wow, am i reading this right?? You were at a party, didnt know anyone, and you are upset because your Master left you and now want a release??

Well i dont know what the circumstance of what caused you to say...
"On top of that something went on that I really didnt aprove of and the entire thing really made me see Master in a way I didnt really care for" But look at it from his stand point rather then looking only at your own.
1-He invited you to a party of his friends feeling comfortable that you his girl can come, socialize be with him, and be a reflection of him
2-While he was socializing and talking instead of being at his side, and tending to his needs you said "He kept leaving me alone and I spent most of the night searching him down." that was his choice your job was to remain a good slave, and you did so by choosing to clean, but even in all the "cleaning" you did for the house which is a sign of a good slave, Have you checked up on him to see if he needed a beverage or food, getting to know the people he was talking to or just getting out of your shell and meeting people

Ok, i know this sounds harsh, and i may noth ave the popular vote here. I wonder have you discussed all this with your Master, before crying your eyes out and turning to others?? Also flat out ask his opinion,,,see if he saw this as abandoning you and being cold to you, or did he see it as an opportunity to meet and catch up with friends that he never gets to see and maybe negleted to give his total attention to his slave for one evening. And when he tried to find his slave she was too busy picking up empty beer bottles and cleaning the floor and he sits back with a smile and says Good Girl!......

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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 4:28:12 PM

BDSM05478

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ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

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ORIGINAL: BDSM05478

as someone that is a follower of Jesus, I would appreiciate it if you did not paint us all with that same brush........ We are not all like that tyvm.

he sighns all of his replies that way!!!

Its really only a joke... I think.

Magik's slave

That wasn't for the dude with the quote it was for devilslilsister flame on ALL the followers of Jesus. Whenever anyone say Always, Never, All....... or any other word that can be seen as a closed mined indefinate.......I feel the need to either correct them or speak.... if my car stereo was stolen by a chinese man can I then go areound saying all chinese male are car stereo thiefs?? I think not. say all people that follow Jesus are crazy is like saying all hispanics are illegals, all blacks like watermelon, all white guys have small peters ect.... it's just another form of predgigst (fuck the spelling)

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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 4:39:05 PM

MagiksSlave

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Erm.. hold on just a secent NO where did I ever say I wanted release!!!!!!!

I did get him drinks I even tasted the food befor Master ate because Master has food alergies and i taste new foods and make sure they are ok for him befor he eats..(bad cookie insadent at the last party he went to) I didnt not preform my slavely dueties and i was at his side as much as possable but he kept dissapearing like seriously Id turn for a secent and hed be gone. I dont know my way around his friends house so Id get confused and go back to the liveing room and wait for him to return. new people and places make me nervouse and I wasnt about to get myself lost and confused in a house I had never been in befor. And I would have checked up on him if I had any idea where he was.. Im sorry but my Master lo jack was out of service that night.. Ans I never said I didnt see Masters point of view on it and i had no problem he wanted to be with his friends I just didnt like beeing pushed away.

Magik's slave

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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 4:46:15 PM

justinasamerk

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Your right, in all this whining and blabbering about me me me, you mentioned that you knew you can ask for a release and you did not want to...Sorry i admit i read that wrong, But wow...i am wondering did you send this entire scroll to your Master to see??? Geeze...
between talking about your nervous problem, medication problems, tears, profile problems, your he is not talking to me boo hoo Its time to know when to quit and discuss this with your master. Wear his collar, wear it proud girl, lift yourself up and get get out of this rut, its a new year, a new beginning, you had one bad night, and crying about it on and on to the point where even i g ave up reading after the 3rd page.....yikes.....*shrugs*
Good Luck to you.

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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 4:51:52 PM

MagiksSlave

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Hmm I dont recall saying or bringing up that there was a problem with my Masters profile there ISNT and yeah you should probubly have read more because you would see what your saying makes little sence at all. This thread was about MY feelings and there for yes I spoke in I statements Im sorry you have a problem with that. Nope never mind not sorry because i dont really care.

Magik's slave

< Message edited by MagiksSlave -- 1/2/2007 4:54:59 PM >

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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 5:00:43 PM

cjenny

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What I don't get is someone intensely disliking a thread yet reading it and posting on it..twice.

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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 5:06:27 PM

Devilslilsister

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Caffiene? What does caffiene do to people?

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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

How much alcohol and caffeine have you had to drink during the holidays?

In my experience these two things can have huge impacts on mental/emotional states.

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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 5:10:01 PM

BDSM05478

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quote:

ORIGINAL: cjenny

What I don't get is someone intensely disliking a thread yet reading it and posting on it..twice.

Those are the reasons to keep posting sometimes lol some people get so ticked at what is being said they can not pry themselves away from the discussion.... and some will even get so upset and say "This is my last post here" but they still keep coming back for more, I love it!

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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 5:14:41 PM

MagiksSlave

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HEHE I love when they say "Its my last post here" and yet they make a post to everyones posts after that its funny and makes them look stupid!!

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If you’re going through hell keep on moving
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if you’re scared dont show it
you might get out
before the devil even knows your there.

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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 5:18:26 PM

Devilslilsister

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

quote:

ORIGINAL: BDSM05478

as someone that is a follower of Jesus, I would appreiciate it if you did not paint us all with that same brush........ We are not all like that tyvm.

he signs all of his replies that way!!!

Its really only a joke... I think.

Magik's slave

Aye and its funny....... PLUS who says you shouldnt be painted with the same brush. I could walk up to any religious crazy person and they would say the saaammmmeeeee thing. I think we should stick ya on a witch hunt trial (which would be like a cross) and ask you a series of questions determining the twue answer! Dont worry - if you're found guilty, we promise to whip ya before we set you on fire - )

always aiming to please!

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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 5:22:47 PM

CreativeDominant

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ORIGINAL: RedSavageSlave

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"The above ends the statement of my own opinion. Please note that no one was flamed during this statement."

<looks down at popcorn tub> dammit..and here I thought this movie was going to be entertaining...

Sooooooooooooooooo....what you're saying is that I am not entertaining? ~sighs deeply and bites lip~

< Message edited by CreativeDominant -- 1/2/2007 5:29:38 PM >

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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 5:24:13 PM

Devilslilsister

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quote:

That wasn't for the dude with the quote it was for devilslilsister flame on ALL the followers of Jesus. Whenever anyone say Always, Never, All....... or any other word that can be seen as a closed mined indefinate.......I feel the need to either correct them or speak.... if my car stereo was stolen by a chinese man can I then go areound saying all chinese male are car stereo thiefs?? I think not. say all people that follow Jesus are crazy is like saying all hispanics are illegals, all blacks like watermelon, all white guys have small peters ect.... it's just another form of predgigst (fuck the spelling)

hehehehehehe i wassss like mostly joking with some truth thrown in there and acting like an ass. LOL <curtsies> Thank you for taking the bait Sir

<giggles>

P.S. The witch trial.. whipping.. setting you on fire was ALSO me being being silly and acting like an ass. Unless of course you want to......

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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 5:36:22 PM

FelinePersuasion

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I'll take a whipping please, not noburning at a stake.

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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 6:56:46 PM

MagiksSlave

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AH but that wasnt a choice Feline...

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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 7:06:23 PM

MagiksSlave

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

***DISCLAIMER: In case it was not made clear, the following is MO and MOO.***

I can understand and appreciate a submissive's / slave's being upset that their behavior has disappointed their dominant/master/mistress. I think it is a worthwhile attitude to have, especially when the behavior that disappointed the dominant/master/mistress was uncalled for. However, being a submissive or being a slave does not mean the loss of one's brain and even while a submissive/slave may experience these feelings of upset over disappinting their owner, they should still ask themselves whether or not the cause of their behavior was right in its motivation. If your behavior came about simply because you were thrust into a social situation you were uncomfortable with and you sulked and sighed and reacted in an exaggerated fashion to the mysterious "something later" that you noted, then no...your motivation wasn't proper and neither were your actions. If your motivation comes about from a definitive psychological fear of strangers and/or crowds of people and the distancing of your "anchor" (deliberate = an attempt to help you/ non-deliberate = casual ignoring or real unawareness of your pathologies) during this maelstrom around you, then even if your behavior was wrong, the motivation...help me, Master cuz I really, really do need you physically and emotionally by me...was not and therefore, while it is laudable that you are upset over disappointment of him, it is an instance where it could not be helped. Again, communication is called for and not just a communication that starts out "You're wrong...I was 100% right...end of story".

"The above ends the statement of my own opinion. Please note that no one was flamed during this statement."

Sir we where very much both at foult here looking at it with a clearer head and feeling much better now haveing talked to Master I can see there was a loss of comunication that night it happens. It doesnt make eather of us bad or wrong just human he didnt realise a few things and i was over emotional and over sensative do to the lack of my normal balance and meds both things where not a good combo at this point I think we can chalk it up to us both beeing human. Master and I are both ready to have a clean slate for the new year and after talking all of this out for the most part I think we can do that without it comeing back and biteing us in the but at a later date. I think we both learned something and can take away a posative from it. I really want to thank everyone for your prospectives they helped me come to conclutions and realise things I may not have done on my own. A lot of you had very good points which is the reason that I came here. I knew I was to close to this to see it clearly and even though I may not have given to much info on what happend you all really managed to help me out and I was able to say "Ah yes that makes sence yeah that is really what was happening there"

Magik's slave

< Message edited by MagiksSlave -- 1/2/2007 7:09:14 PM >

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If you’re going through hell keep on moving
don't slow down
if you’re scared dont show it
you might get out
before the devil even knows your there.

-Rodney Atkins-

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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 7:17:54 PM

BDSM05478

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Devilslilsister

quote:

That wasn't for the dude with the quote it was for devilslilsister flame on ALL the followers of Jesus. Whenever anyone say Always, Never, All....... or any other word that can be seen as a closed mined indefinate.......I feel the need to either correct them or speak.... if my car stereo was stolen by a chinese man can I then go areound saying all chinese male are car stereo thiefs?? I think not. say all people that follow Jesus are crazy is like saying all hispanics are illegals, all blacks like watermelon, all white guys have small peters ect.... it's just another form of predgigst (fuck the spelling)

hehehehehehe i wassss like mostly joking with some truth thrown in there and acting like an ass. LOL <curtsies> Thank you for taking the bait Sir

<giggles>

P.S. The witch trial.. whipping.. setting you on fire was ALSO me being being silly and acting like an ass. Unless of course you want to......

Ahh so you think you are cute......that makes the picture alot clearer. God so loves the fool but then again ignorance is truely bliss as you have so aptly proved. I will take your discription of yourself as being an ass to mean you are sorry for being ignorant and disrespectful. I can take a joke as well as anyone, I simple do not find you funny is all.

p.s. I'm not a Sir

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"Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present." - Marcus Aurelius

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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 8:06:45 PM

domiguy

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To the Op..."What we have here is simply a failure to communicate." End of story...wish you well.

BDSMO5478 wrote in response to devilslilsister:
Ahh so you think you are cute......that makes the picture alot clearer. God so loves the fool but then again ignorance is truely bliss as you have so aptly proved. I will take your discription of yourself as being an ass to mean you are sorry for being ignorant and disrespectful. I can take a joke as well as anyone, I simple do not find you funny is all.

p.s. I'm not a Sir

To BDSMO5478:

Just a little curious...not trying to hijack the post but it always seems when someone states loudly their love of Christ there always seems to be that all to familiar stench of hypocrisy on their breath. I have read the Bible (I believe in it's entirety) an amazing book and Jesus an equally amazing man...but please acquaint me with the chapter or verse that condones or glorifies begging,fisting,polyamory,objectification,watersports,enemas and god forbid coffee shops all which are listed as "Lives for" and "Loves" in your profile....Waiting for your response....because if you can offer a sound explanation ...then.... I just might be the greatest "Christian" of all time.

out.

D.G.

p.s. Jesus please protect me from your followers

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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 8:22:47 PM

BDSM05478

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

To BDSMO5478:

Just a little curious...not trying to hijack the post but it always seems when someone states loudly their love of Christ there always seems to be that all to familiar stench of hypocrisy on their breath. I have read the Bible (I believe in it's entirety) an amazing book and Jesus an equally amazing man...but please acquaint me with the chapter or verse that condones or glorifies begging,fisting,polyamory,objectification,watersports,enemas and god forbid coffee shops all which are listed as "Lives for" and "Loves" in your profile....Waiting for your response....because if you can offer a sound explanation ...then.... I just might be the greatest "Christian" of all time.

out.

D.G.

p.s. Jesus please protect me from your followers

How do you think that my choices are in conflict with my faith? that is just plain rediculus, I said I am a Christan, not a Saint! But if you have a real question in there I will be more than happy to explain to you in email how it all works. The Bible address how we are to treat each other in our daily lives and no where does it say that any of those things I do love are not to be included.... if it did tell you how to make love to someone the joy of sex would never have had to be written....... Wanna know the kicker about all those things and my faith, even though I do what I do I am still holy, it's about beattaitude not hypocrisy.

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"Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present." - Marcus Aurelius

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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 8:24:59 PM

juliaoceania

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This thread seems to be a very good example of why some people feel the need to make up profiles to ask advice about situations they may face to get input.

MS, having just read through this thread tonight I am glad that you have seemingly worked through your issues with your master. Remember that sometimes jumping to the worst conclusion is not necessarily good for you. Also, you can only do the best that you can, you can do no better than that. Be good to yourself, have faith in yourself, treat yourself kindly and then the way others treat you will have a little less sting (even if they are your master).

I have always thought you a sweetie from what I read on this board, and instead of trying to answer for what another has or has not written in their profile, just keep on taking responsibility for yourself and your actions. Take what you need from here and leave the rest.

Happy New Year!

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RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes - 1/2/2007 9:45:36 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Devilslilsister

Caffiene? What does caffiene do to people?

quote:

ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

How much alcohol and caffeine have you had to drink during the holidays?

In my experience these two things can have huge impacts on mental/emotional states.

Here is one link for you to look at and many others can be found:

http://www.garynull.com/Documents/CaffeineEffects.htm

Caffeine stimulates the Central Nervous System and many of the effects of large doses of caffeine mimic symptoms of anxiety. When I suffered from depression and anxiety I found it very beneficial to severely limit the amount of caffeine I consumed. Even now if I have too much during the day I start having anxiety symptoms, even though I am not anxious.

Knight's kyra

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"Passion... it lies in all of us. Sleeping, waiting, and though unbidden, it will stir, open its jaws, and howl. It speaks to us, guides us... passion rules us all. And we obey..." ~Angelus

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