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ORIGINAL: MistressNoName
"like your profile very much" That was the entire email...and this sub's profile had nothing in it to read...NOTHING! So, when I respond back with one-liners like, "thank you, I like it, too." I get no response back. When I try to engage the person in deeper conversation, I hear nothing but silence... When I try pointing out to them that I have certain rules of engagment which they need to follow, again, nada...

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ORIGINAL: MistressNoName

To My "Fellow" Mistresses/Dommes/Dominas/Tops:

wow, am I ever tired of one-line emails, subs
Can anyone relate to this, or am I wasting my energy with this? I would sure appreciate some insight and support. Thanks.

MNN

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ORIGINAL: MistressNoName

To My "Fellow" Mistresses/Dommes/Dominas/Tops:

Although I'm quite sure this has been discussed ad nauseum all around these message boards, I just have to bring it up again. It's the new year, and I am hoping to gain new insight. Here goes:

I'm just really frustrated beyond belief with this search for the right sub/slave. I know that perhaps my frustration may be in and of itself self-defeating, but, wow, am I ever tired of one-line emails, subs who only want to meet via web-cam or yahoo messenger, argumentative and anxiety-ridden subs, you name `em, they've contacted me.

I'm at a loss. I do not want to make one more journal entry or tweak my profile anymore. I think I've been pretty honest and straightforward and clear in my profile without being exhaustively wordy...My main gripe, is that despite all that, the subs contacting me, not all, but most, still seem not to take the time to read my profile carefully, are often much-more self-centered than I care to deal with and don't seem to have an iota of understanding about D/s apart from "play."

Can anyone relate to this, or am I wasting my energy with this? I would sure appreciate some insight and support. Thanks.

MNN

P.S. Before anyone notes that I have been a member only since October 2006, let me correct you. I have actually been a member since Sept 2005. I changed my profile under a new name in October b/c my previous profile no longer suited my needs. It was a sub profile that evolved into a switch profile and I wanted a new profile to reflect my current status.

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ORIGINAL: MistressNoName

To My "Fellow" Mistresses/Dommes/Dominas/Tops:

Although I'm quite sure this has been discussed ad nauseum all around these message boards, I just have to bring it up again. It's the new year, and I am hoping to gain new insight. Here goes:

I'm just really frustrated beyond belief with this search for the right sub/slave. I know that perhaps my frustration may be in and of itself self-defeating, but, wow, am I ever tired of one-line emails, subs who only want to meet via web-cam or yahoo messenger, argumentative and anxiety-ridden subs, you name `em, they've contacted me.

I'm at a loss. I do not want to make one more journal entry or tweak my profile anymore. I think I've been pretty honest and straightforward and clear in my profile without being exhaustively wordy...My main gripe, is that despite all that, the subs contacting me, not all, but most, still seem not to take the time to read my profile carefully, are often much-more self-centered than I care to deal with and don't seem to have an iota of understanding about D/s apart from "play."

Can anyone relate to this, or am I wasting my energy with this? I would sure appreciate some insight and support. Thanks.

MNN

P.S. Before anyone notes that I have been a member only since October 2006, let me correct you. I have actually been a member since Sept 2005. I changed my profile under a new name in October b/c my previous profile no longer suited my needs. It was a sub profile that evolved into a switch profile and I wanted a new profile to reflect my current status.

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ORIGINAL: MistressNoName
I'm just really frustrated beyond belief with this search for the right sub/slave. I know that perhaps my frustration may be in and of itself self-defeating, but, wow, am I ever tired of one-line emails, subs who only want to meet via web-cam or yahoo messenger, argumentative and anxiety-ridden subs, you name `em, they've contacted me.
I'm at a loss. I do not want to make one more journal entry or tweak my profile anymore. I think I've been pretty honest and straightforward and clear in my profile without being exhaustively wordy...My main gripe, is that despite all that, the subs contacting me, not all, but most, still seem not to take the time to read my profile carefully, are often much-more self-centered than I care to deal with and don't seem to have an iota of understanding about D/s apart from "play."

I'm going to try and put this as delicately as I know how.  I've read your profile and having done so can tell you it is not one that I personally would be attracted to, compatibility and details aside.  The primary thing that immediately strikes me when reading your profile is all of the negative energy it sends to the reader about what you do not want and what you dislike.  This reads like an angry and frustated woman that few worthy subs would like to be involved with or would want to serve.

If you want to attract the right fish, I suggest you use the right bait.   Remove all the negative statements about how angry you are at all of the men who have ignored your directions.  The men that you seek will naturally read all of your profile and still want to know more.   You won't have to tell them to read about you as they'll want to do that and will still ask you to tell them much more once you reply!  Ignore all the ones that don't listen to you.  I strongly suggest you act like a duck and just let it roll off your back. 

My suggestion to you is that you do what ever you can to make your profile as positive as you can, focusing on what it is that you want, and omitting all the negative stuff about what you don't want.  Do what you can to turn those criteria and complaints into positives.  In that way, you won't turn off the men you'd probably like to attract.  I personally always choose to decide against approaching women with profiles written similar to yours.  I just don't get turned on by a woman with a negative attitude.  If a profile comes across as being angry at all men, while it might otherwise be intriquing, I still lose any interest I might have otherwise had as I have no desire to suffer as the whipping post (assuming I even receive a polite response) for what other men might have done and for which I personally am innocent!

My apologies if I have offended you, but as you seemed to be genuinely looking for support and advice on how to find what you are seeking, this is the most honest and helpful advice I know how to give you that might be of use. 

I hope the other ladies who read this post will also take heed to what I have written.  The men who most likely have angered you do not read the angry journal entries or other disparaging and negative comments written in profiles; ignoring them instead.  They are only viewed by the submissives who are genuinely seeking a Dominant Woman to serve.  That having been said, is that the kind of message you really want to send to us about yourself?  Is that what you think will attract us to you?  Even more, will that kind of attitude, inspire us to write you at all, or if we do, will we put the energy into writing the kind of introductory message that you'd really like to have, knowing it's likely to be binned by an angry woman fed up with men?  If you still believe as much, I strongly suggest that you pause and think about the man (or woman) you'd like to attract and what kind of "bait" you think would be most appropriate to get them interested in you!