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RE: big argument over female dominants - 1/15/2007 6:00:03 PM

LTRsubNW

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ORIGINAL: bignipples2share

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ORIGINAL: LTRsubNW

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

Gentlemen. In case you haven't heard:

Women....don't.... have...to....pay...for...sexual....attentions. They....don't...have...to.

(If they want some but can't get any.... they knit.)

Okay....I just went and bought all kinds of knitting shit...I've spent the last 4 hours knitting...and I still haven't cum.

ahhhhh I'm laughing soooo hard here LOL

You think that's funny? I kept my receipts and I'm taking this shit back!

(Although someone's gonna get a killer sweater out of the deal).

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RE: big argument over female dominants - 1/16/2007 1:48:30 AM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

There are always other options. They are not providing a service just a quick oportunity for a lazy person.

I also don't see this as a person being lazy. Some people don't choose to pick some woman up from a bar and they really don't want any further contact with the person when the whole thing is done and over with. They want an attractive warm body and that's it. There are those that don't have the time to devote to a relationship and are focused on their careers.

As for other options, I'm sure the person with severe tourette's and hasn't had anyone in 5 years (if at all) with no propects in sight, or others with major problems and see no future person in their beds, would like to know what these are. I'm not asking in a mean spirited way. I'm just curious.

I don't see all Pros as crack ho's and druggies. There are some very fine people out there that are Pros and quite happy with what they do.

I think Vegas has the right idea with the houses that are legal there.

~Big

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RE: big argument over female dominants - 1/16/2007 4:44:34 PM

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As a serious lifestyle sub/slave, i had the pleasure of enjoying pro-Dommes in my early years and i was blessed enough to really be tutored in the depths of D/s-BDSM which i could never do with my more informal vanilla-turned Domme girlfriends--- so i think they are wonderful for learning, trying new edgy things where experience is required, for getting different perspectives on the depth-ier aspects as every Domme is particularly unique...Most of the ones i've known over the years were highly educated, many with graduate degrees, psychological sophisticates (the key is to avoid the quick buck amateurs and just in it for the money group and you can tell those with a 5 minute conversation so.....-- one has to have a sense for selecting right just as if you were choosing a doctor or therapist so use some care......)

Secondly, i think most 'customers' really just want the service without the relationship so if you want it all in a lifestyle sense, then you have to want and need all the things that go along with a full relationship with your Domme/Mistress.....kind of basic relationship stuff here. Its the old line of why do men pay for sex= they don't but are really paying for the woman to leave after getting it----

Also if you really are in touch with your sub-space a good pro-Domme senses that and will give you a truly out of your control experience despite the pecuniary aspects of the scene.

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RE: big argument over female dominants - 2/4/2007 10:25:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

fuck me, beat me (fill in the blank me),

Ok, I'll take a guess......

"make me write bad checks." ?

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RE: big argument over female dominants - 2/4/2007 11:09:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: MzMia
Hell I even made a do-me list for her to use!

Now THAT is really funny!

I think that was the most poignant point. Every angle has been covered here and elsewhere on other threads.

Cartesian method "Top Ten":
1. "Tribute" exists in the BDSM vocab. Get over it.
2. Leather suits, toys, equipped dungeons or rentals cost money. Get over it. (So do gym memberships!)
3. A Pro is a Pro, leave Her/Him alone. That is a source of income for them. Don't attack the bretheren.
4. Just cuz a non-pro asks for tribute who are you, puny sub/slave, to reply in defiance "no!"? They can hold your testicles in the palm of their hands and squeeze real hard, why not your wallet? Stingy, selfish subbie!!
5. As long as there is a market for them, they will continue to exist. Certain men have self-esteem issues too. Newsflash!
6. Since another thread suggests homes over apartments for Dom/mes, there are always bills to pay or that nice new pair of shoes She might like. A sub should 'want' Her to be able to buy them, don't you think?
7. She is sacrificing her time, you can sacrifice a little money. Maybe tribute is only on the first meeting because She feels her time is valuable and She has had her time wasted before. If you fork it over, She at least gets something out of the deal if it goes south.
8. Tribute can have nothing to do with money. It can be simply a symbol of utter submission, the biggest hurdle. It goes right for the throat of the matter. It removes the power of this 'male dominated' society in symbolic form for $50 bucks. It levels the playing field in the sub's eyes.
9. Many vanilla relationships have the exact same unspoken dynamic anyway. She likes the bling-bling and I give it to her but she's MY ho! It stops you from spending your paycheck on booze at the bar where you're not having any fun anyway!
10. There actually might be some other dynamic to it, like the sub had to work in HS and turn the paycheck over to his single mother, and he has no problem doing it "if you're going to live in my house."

But I still like MzMias the best. Men want free sex and want you to throw yourselves at them, do them just as they like to be done, and then go to work the next day and have all the bragging rights in the world. The money tribute is a cold fact of reality that seperates the emotional attachment according to what that particular Domme desires. Women in general use more of their right side brain and the flash of cash might turn that side off for a half hour, so she can focus on the subs 'profitability' to her in other ways without crossing into too much sympathy if he is a miserable SOB or has a unbecoming whimper in her eyes some other way.

It is like "Night at the Roxbury" when Will Ferrel is asked by the rent-a-priest if he wanted to marry Emily, he replies:

"My Dad already paid the caterer."