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mgdartist -> RE: Vanilla dating vs. BDSM dating (1/15/2007 9:37:05 AM)
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While I understand the need for trust, patience and sincerity from the sub's posts I've read, from a male Dominants perspective, it's just a very frustrating waiting game. I finally posted the following in my offsite profile to sift out all but serious shoppers:
"Dont knock unless you're available~-A Dominants Profile~
and..
~Thanks for coming~
Many come here for the videos, which is fine, do enjoy.
Many have contacted me, because of my poetry and prose, and seek my friendship, and association or consortation.
While I like to meet all, I am finding they but dally for a time and go, not seeing my purpose with all this is to find true love,
of a deviant kind. With only one woman, who is my perfect match and soulmate.
If you contact me, I ask that your purpose be as seeking this currently also.
Thanks."
I'm always amused when women post comments like "don't waste my time," and "I dont have time for... " this or that type considerations, when during every association I've made here, my time has been deemed valueless, having little or nothing to do with her final decision one way or another. I have been thru nearly a full year now, and as I'd previously presumed that should be enough, am learning that many, both men and women have had to wait far longer. So be it, and I don't see myself as better than anyone, but it does seem as though making the transition from "vanilla dating" to the type relation we seek in this lifestyle is far more tricky and difficult than in the vanilla world, which I guess naively, I originally assumed would, and should be easier, since while we may have slightly different expectations, are all in fact, seeking very similar things. I do my best not to be so ultra picky, as simply having her submission in any form, is far preferable to being stuck in a vanilla relation again. I may be the only one on the site with such an idea, as everyone else seems bent on finding some perfect, exacting, parallel match. Perhaps I will also learn the need for this, being for all intents and purposes here, but a rookie seeker...lol.
Albeit not, and far from, a rookie Dominant.
MGD
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