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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/20/2007 9:27:34 PM

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Hummm it appears most of us don't prefer someone MUCH younger.

*wink* for me someone MUCH younger would be illegal

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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/20/2007 9:36:50 PM

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Generally, I prefer older, with the upper limit being 15 years. I don't know if that's because I'm an only child and was around adults all the time, thus skewing my perspective, but that's definitely the trend I noticed when I stopped thinking males had cooties.

I broke my rule 4 or so years ago and dated someone 5+ years younger than myself. Unmitigated disaster in many ways.

I broke my rule again two years ago and started corresponding with someone on here that was 2 years younger. As it turns out, he's only 4 months younger than me, and just hadn't bothered to update his profile. :D

If I were to become single again, it would take a pretty interesting person to get me to break the "no younger men" rule, but I wouldn't be opposed to it.

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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/21/2007 12:42:51 AM

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I am most comfortable with a 5years younger-10years older (35-50) difference, but that isn't a hard and fast rule as I have loved/dominated older (though not that much younger). The reason for me is that I hope to have a full relationship with mine, so a reasonable amount of compatibility is desired and preferred. If I were to find those things I seek in someone to whom I'm attracted older/younger than set parameters, parameters go out the window. M

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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/21/2007 8:32:39 AM

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I think Lotus spelled it out very well. If I could find a male in his late 20's, to early 30's who understands all the ramifications of long term relationships, they might be considered. However, I am not so old I do not remember how I was at those ages also...lol.

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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/21/2007 9:27:57 AM

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I have generally tended towards older men. I dated a 34 year old when I was 19. I have dated my age minimally and frequently found that it just didn't work well. At this point I am looking for 10 - 20 years older. Not so much because I want a Sugar Daddy, although their financial solvency is certainly attractive, but because I don't want a family and that age range (45 - 55) has likely already had a family if they want one. Men in their 30's sometimes say they don't want families but change their minds or figure that I'll change mine 'for the right guy'...
That having been said ~ there have been a rare few younger (23 - 30) than me that I would be very interested in seeing. So while I gravitate towards older men, I'm open to the possibility of someone younger.
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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/21/2007 7:12:56 PM

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I prefer my men to be at least 10 years younger then myself . Its not an age play thing either. I want strong backs and someone I am not liable to have to worry about takeing care of from old age processes. Its not that easy to find a young man interested in someone my age from what I have found so far.
I find plenty in common with younger men since the things I enjoy doing are not the same things most people my age engage in.

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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/21/2007 7:27:38 PM

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I prefer my men to be at least 10 years younger then myself . Its not an age play thing either. I want strong backs and someone I am not liable to have to worry about takeing care of from old age processes. Its not that easy to find a young man interested in someone my age from what I have found so far.
I find plenty in common with younger men since the things I enjoy doing are not the same things most people my age engage in.

While this is one way to look at it, there re no guarantees in life. Who might be an athletic Adonis one day might be a quadriplegic the next....

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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/21/2007 7:36:33 PM

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I prefer my men to be at least 10 years younger then myself . Its not an age play thing either. I want strong backs and someone I am not liable to have to worry about takeing care of from old age processes. Its not that easy to find a young man interested in someone my age from what I have found so far.
I find plenty in common with younger men since the things I enjoy doing are not the same things most people my age engage in.

While this is one way to look at it, there re no guarantees in life. Who might be an athletic Adonis one day might be a quadriplegic the next....

This is true and a risk I take and accept, however there are fewer things going bad in a younger body to start with . . .. . ..

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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/21/2007 8:44:15 PM

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Mz Mia Someone asked me to take a look at this question and give a response, so I will do so.I am a 57-year-old male submissive who is physically fit and very healthy. there are not too many Mistress's my age LOL. Also there are younger Mistress's that cannot keep up with me( that is a challenge).Maybe you should expand your age limit ( upwards ).I like mistress heather's answer,so much for that senior citizens comment lol.I do try to look for a mistress close to my age and hope that I will find one that I will have chemistry with. I do want to find a mistress for ltr that I will cherish and obey!!!!!! steve

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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/21/2007 8:48:31 PM

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I'm kinda partial to the 18-59 range.

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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/21/2007 8:54:38 PM

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I kind of have age limits...lol   there is always the odd exception...but I've tried to talk to some that are a little younger that what I seek and it's always the same thing....they talk a good game, then find and "excuse" to bail.....the last one I talked to on here wrote me off because of something on my profile, which as I told him could've been adjusted or not done at all....he didn't hear any or that, he was too bent on moving on to the next "wank" just pretty much shows he was not serious in the first place, I seem to get that with younger more than older ones.....life if to short to waste time....

I find that someone older would take the time to first really read the profile in the first place, and second, read the words that I wrote to them and honestly talk it out.

I've only really dated one guy in my life that was older, and I seem to have a lot in common with a little younger....I figure because I've never been married I'm kind of "stuck in time"   you know, never had to grow up...not family wise any way...lol

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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/21/2007 9:03:58 PM

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**Hello steve**
Congrats on your first post! You seem to be a very young and healthy 57 year old,
which makes you actually about 10 years younger. Many women between 35-50 would
be glad to have you, IF they can keep up with you!

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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/21/2007 9:06:02 PM

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Because I'd like to leave the door open to a long-term relationship and baby-having, I'm most interested in men who are plus or minus 5 years of my age.

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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/21/2007 9:09:07 PM

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I'm flexible... but I do tend to try to keep it within five or six years of my age.

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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/21/2007 9:12:40 PM

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Yes, I have age limits/preferences.

My preference would be to be 37, alas I'm 48.

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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/22/2007 8:15:41 PM

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I think age influences preferred lifestyle and perspectives, and people relatively closer in age will have more in common. However, all that that a close age implies can be had--perhaps not as commonly as by people of similar age--with people who have a significant age difference.

I think the amount of compatibility needed depends on the type of relationship sought. And I think compatibility rests on a number of factors that are gray and not black and white. For me, it is not so much that whether a person is in my desired age range or not, but how close is this person to my desired range. This factor provides a single point in the sum for compatibility. The further a person is from my desired age range, the greater the other points in the sum for compatibility must be to create significant interest.

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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/22/2007 9:05:19 PM

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I met my slave when he was 21 and I was 30...I married him when he was 24 and I was 33. But I fully admit he's the exception to all rules...he left school at 15 college at 17 and was running a fortune 100, IT department when I met him...and my boss...

My favorite play toy is 46...9 years my senior...but similar personality...confident, intelligent, take anywhere, fun to be with...Freakishly fit

So for me it's more of a type of guy than their age...

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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/22/2007 9:22:41 PM

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I think age influences preferred lifestyle and perspectives, and people relatively closer in age will have more in common. However, all that that a close age implies can be had--perhaps not as commonly as by people of similar age--with people who have a significant age difference.

I think the amount of compatibility needed depends on the type of relationship sought. And I think compatibility rests on a number of factors that are gray and not black and white. For me, it is not so much that whether a person is in my desired age range or not, but how close is this person to my desired range. This factor provides a single point in the sum for compatibility. The further a person is from my desired age range, the greater the other points in the sum for compatibility must be to create significant interest.

Cheers,

Sea

egads! You got a whole system going on there. lmaoo

Ya know, when I think about the whole age thing further, I think it's more of a hang-up than anything else. (for myself that is).

I prefer older (40s - 50s) stretching that maybe to someone as young as maybe 35 or so in a rare case. So I always rule out anyone under that age immediately

But then I think that if I started getting to know someone and they didn't tell me their age, but they seemed wise, mature, and smart enough to know how to get under my skin, I think they would meet my standards on that level, even if I then found out he was like 32. But if I knew he was 32 from the start, I would never give this person the time of day, which could be the wrong decision, possibly.

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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/22/2007 9:54:20 PM

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But then I think that if I started getting to know someone and they didn't tell me their age, but they seemed wise, mature, and smart enough to know how to get under my skin, I think they would meet my standards on that level, even if I then found out he was like 32. But if I knew he was 32 from the start, I would never give this person the time of day, which could be the wrong decision, possibly.

Marie,
My husband didn't tell me how old he was till FOUR yes count them FOUR months after we were sleeping together...I remember it very clearly...we were in bed drifting off to sleep and he whispered...You know my birthday next week? I'll be 22...(I was 31)

I almost FAINTED...he is YOUNGER than my younger brother...and yes had I known he was 21 I wouldn't have dated him...but that would have been the biggest mistake of my life. So to me the age isn't the difference...I know plenty of immature 30-50yr olds...hell they all seem to email me! I'd take a well rounded mature go it together smart 25yr old over a 45yr old bum any day...

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RE: Do you have age limits/preferences? - 1/23/2007 5:15:56 AM

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But then I think that if I started getting to know someone and they didn't tell me their age, but they seemed wise, mature, and smart enough to know how to get under my skin, I think they would meet my standards on that level, even if I then found out he was like 32. But if I knew he was 32 from the start, I would never give this person the time of day, which could be the wrong decision, possibly.

Marie,
My husband didn't tell me how old he was till FOUR yes count them FOUR months after we were sleeping together...I remember it very clearly...we were in bed drifting off to sleep and he whispered...You know my birthday next week? I'll be 22...(I was 31)

I almost FAINTED...he is YOUNGER than my younger brother...and yes had I known he was 21 I wouldn't have dated him...but that would have been the biggest mistake of my life. So to me the age isn't the difference...I know plenty of immature 30-50yr olds...hell they all seem to email me! I'd take a well rounded mature go it together smart 25yr old over a 45yr old bum any day...

Funny story...and meaningful too. Thanks for sharing that. :)

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