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RE: When did you realise that you were dominant - 7/21/2009 6:58:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

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When I realized that "The Story of O" was badly written and should be redone as the "The Story of Y".

I loved "The Story of O" for the politeness and the style, there was nothing crude about it, no screaming and screetching.... But I was wondering why there wasn't something like that for men, the idea that women were slaves and submitted to all that seemed odd. I caught myself thinking a few times "I wonder how he'd sleep tied up...."

There is a story ( validated) about a Domina who travelled between Calgary and San Fran who treated Her boys as in the Story of O, they slept each night shackled, etc etc, She entertained some very prominent people at Her dungeon and sadly died far too young from booze and cancer.

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RE: When did you realise that you were dominant - 7/21/2009 9:15:44 AM

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These are all quite interesting.

I was shy as a young child and an older boy in the area would "boss" me on my way home from school. Making me do very painful tasks, often in freezing weather. Once in hi-school things changed for me and I became a very independent woman, but still could not dominate a man sexually; no matter how much I desired to. College brought the sexual curiosity and I found I loved the masculine roll over a woman, and joy of joys, I could dominate a woman. I never got my kicks off being with a woman - just dominating, and seeing her pleasure. After I went back to men I happily became able to switch. I was mentored by a lovely master and now am quite happy and continue to learn as I grow.

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RE: When did you realise that you were dominant - 7/23/2009 8:23:10 PM

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Well having an older brother ......I would have to say around about the time grade school started. Playing army with my brother and his friends out in the woods things got rough and alot of rope was used (not on myself). They learn to not push me around...lol

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RE: When did you realise that you were dominant - 7/24/2009 3:12:20 PM

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You have such an amazing way for writing. I have read a couple of your posts and when I start reading them I am completely drawn in by your level of detail and thoughfulness.

Reading what you write is a pure joy for me.
Thank you!

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I was interested in tying up boys as soon as I was old enough to date. I did lots of harmless, totally non sexual tie up games as a kid, loved cartoons with male heroes in peril and in bondage, and was glued to the Adam West version of "Batman" on TV daily when I was 8 or 9.

When I hit puberty and took an interest in boys, my ideas about them were more about tying them up. My first kisses included hair pulling. I liked to do things to make boys squirm or pretend they were kidnapped or beg me for things. Harmless trips to the ice cream parlor included me taking his spoon away and feeding him myself. Well before my first orgasm, my first sexual intercourse, my first heavy petting, I was dabbling with blindfolds and gags (using scarves, purse straps, magic-shop handcuffs). My fascination was in seeing men helpless for me; vulnerable, scared (in a good way), squirmy, breathing hard. It was more of a draw for me than anything else sexual.

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RE: When did you realise that you were dominant - 7/24/2009 7:13:10 PM

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That was a fascinating story. I was glued. Thank you for sharing, Ms S.

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RE: When did you realise that you were dominant - 7/25/2009 12:30:30 AM

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It's hard to say, in that the sort of dominance I naturally own and gravitate to is a much more maternal, subtle style. In my family Grandma ran things, but with a very velvet glove. There were enough cues that there was an iron hand inside that most no one ever pushed. And in my nuclear family Mom ran things. So of course as I grew up, I just expected that one told other people what to do if you were the one who was leader or saw how to do it. I was always the person who cut through the general "I dunno....what do YOU wanna do?" round with, "I want to go to get something to eat, I'm hungry. Taco Bell work for everyone? Yes, No? Ok, let's go." Because, damn it, clearly someone HAD to decide. And then I got my own household and the younger generation and all, and rather honed gentle dominance in that field of battle. So when I found BDSM, I could say when I attended my first munch or play party. But when I was first dominant? I couldn't say. But I do know that it is right, and where I'm supposed to be and what I'm supposed to be doing. And a lot of times it turns me on and makes me hot. Which is a bonus.

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RE: When did you realise that you were dominant - 7/28/2009 3:33:10 AM

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I first realized it with my first relationship ,but was unaware of the lifestyle for many years thereafter.

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RE: When did you realise that you were dominant - 7/28/2009 5:56:48 AM

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I've always been what I refer to as a 'dominant personality', but I didn't discover that I like to be Dominant in the BDSM meanings of the word before last fall. Ironically, I discovered it because my then Domina 'encouraged'/pushed me to top her. I am still getting used to being in that role and still generally feel more comfortable being the smaller partner in the equvation - but I do enjoy letting my Dominant side out to play every so often.

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