RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub?

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub?

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub?

Page: << < prev 1 2 3 [4]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? - 1/28/2007 7:16:22 PM

dawntreader

Posts: 3045
Joined: 11/23/2006
Status: offline

Like many others here, i had submissive/bondage type fantasies since around 10 but had no idea what it was all about. i was raised by a dominate mother and taught not to rely on men or to desire sex. It took many years, several failed relationships including my marriage, and 4 years of loneliness until i discovered what i was and what my needs were. At 43 yrs old, it was a metamorphic experience for me to say the least...

_____________________________

It is choice - not chance - that determines our destiny~
Jean Nidetch

There is a war going on for your mind...if you are thinking, you are winning~
Flobots

(in reply to KawtionsBrat)

Profile

Post #: 61

RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? - 1/28/2007 7:23:47 PM

afeathr

Posts: 248
Joined: 6/1/2006
From: Southern California
Status: offline

I was sexually active (masterbation only) when I was 8... always kind of a kinky little thing...

lost my virginity, by choice and in my own way, at 16

as far as "naming" what I am... only a year ago - at the tender age of 36.

_____________________________

afeathr

-Going where the wind blows me...

(in reply to thaimeeuppppp)

Profile

Post #: 62

RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? - 2/15/2007 2:58:41 PM

SATANMAN

Posts: 72
Joined: 2/8/2006
Status: offline

just last year as a dom when i had the oppurtunity to do it

(in reply to sadomasokisti)

Profile

Post #: 63

RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? - 2/15/2007 8:05:47 PM

curiouspet55

Posts: 133
Joined: 10/13/2006
From: Indiana
Status: offline

I was 13, 14 perhaps. I read erotica and romance novels and was always turned on by the ones with females tied up or with the man the one in control. I am always in control in day to day life, and at about 16 I realized that the attraction wasn't necesarily the bondage, but the surrender of control. After much exploration (and trust me, I'm still exploring), I learned that I am submissive, and while bondage arouses me, D/s power exchange completes me.

_____________________________

Question everything, try anything, do something.

(in reply to sadomasokisti)

Profile

Post #: 64

RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? - 2/15/2007 8:21:17 PM

Valyraen

Posts: 746
Joined: 2/14/2007
Status: offline

I was 21 - had always been sort of an alpha wolf mentality up to that point... I'd experimented in tying a girlfriend up... but meeting Aqua really opened my eyes to the fact that I was a dominant. Since then... well, I'm doing and thinking about things that my previous vanilla self would be a little disturbed by.

(in reply to curiouspet55)

Profile

Post #: 65

RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? - 2/15/2007 9:38:44 PM

insanityprevails

Posts: 7
Joined: 11/15/2006
Status: offline

Ah, I think I win here. I remember watching a Porky Pig cartoon when I was in Preschool (age 3) where Porky got pulled underwater by fish and stripped down to his underwear then spanked... I talked my teacher into letting me have the tape (I think she made a copy) and I just watched that part over and over. I didn't understad why I liked it, because I hated it when my mom spanked me... But I did... I didn't find a term for it until I was probably 11 (Ah, the internet age... Kids finding things younger) And I lost my virginity handcuffed to a bed when I was 15. The only vanilla relationships I ever had where those "He's my boyfriend now" relationships in elementry and middle school.

(in reply to Valyraen)

Profile

Post #: 66

RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? - 2/15/2007 11:21:23 PM

FukinTroll

Posts: 6277
Joined: 2/6/2007
From: Under a bridge
Status: offline

Hmmm.... I think it was the vocabulary that I discovered and not the dominance, that was already there.

_____________________________

I'm the guy your girl is thinking about when she is fucking you!

TrollTopia
Greedy Groupie!

The Mods have me on speed Spank!! Gotta luv'em.

(in reply to insanityprevails)

Profile

Post #: 67

RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? - 2/15/2007 11:26:21 PM

michaelOfGeorgia

Posts: 4253
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: thaimeeuppppp

if anyone cares to share how they discovered this. On their own? or thru sexual experience with another. I personally found that when I would read erotica of BDSM nature i would get unbearably excited whenaomeone was enslaved and objectified. Specially if it was against their will or there was blackmail of some kind involved. SO that at 1st the sub resisted but once taken there realized it was what he/she wanted.I was 15 when this started

i knew i was a sub the day i was born and the Doctor swatted my ass...LOL

_____________________________

Are we having fun, yet?

(in reply to thaimeeuppppp)

Profile

Post #: 68

RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? - 2/15/2007 11:30:44 PM

FukinTroll

Posts: 6277
Joined: 2/6/2007
From: Under a bridge
Status: offline

LMAO!!! good one michael. I need to dig up the funny things people say thread.

_____________________________

I'm the guy your girl is thinking about when she is fucking you!

TrollTopia
Greedy Groupie!

The Mods have me on speed Spank!! Gotta luv'em.

(in reply to michaelOfGeorgia)

Profile

Post #: 69

RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? - 2/15/2007 11:33:16 PM

rouge

Posts: 1
Joined: 1/30/2007
Status: offline

About 8 years ago ( age 26) when i was online and learned what BDSM meant. i read and talked to submissives and discovered that i wasn't sick and i wasn't alone.
i have been masochistic since i was a young teen around 13 and was a bottom in all my romantic/sexual relationships. i went through some very tough experiences with some relationships and thought that there must be something very wrong with me. It was so freeing to realise that there were others with similar needs.
I am still very much exploring what being a submissive means for me and hopefully will never stop learning.

_____________________________

wanting something is often preferrable to having it

(in reply to FukinTroll)

Profile

Post #: 70

RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? - 2/16/2007 12:10:38 AM

slavekara

Posts: 76
Joined: 12/13/2005
Status: offline

Greetings All,

This girl was 14 when she first heard about BDSM and she knew straight away she were different, but the roots of it started way before this girl reached her teenage years.

Please note: When this girl says that she doesn't mean that anything horrific happened to her when she was younger, for these roots to start planting themselfs into her brain. This girl would say that she has always been submissive.

slave kara (A)

(in reply to thaimeeuppppp)

Profile

Post #: 71

RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? - 2/16/2007 2:44:02 AM

MistressFeathers

Posts: 121
Joined: 2/4/2007
Status: offline

yesterday

(in reply to sadomasokisti)

Profile

Post #: 72

RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? - 2/16/2007 8:56:04 AM

MasterMataeo

Posts: 215
Joined: 1/24/2007
Status: offline

I was young still in my teens and didn't know much,, but the older i grew the more i grew into it,, and i have been very lucky to find those that i hve to help me explore and learn more about myself and the lifestyle , and in return those that i have learnd with and from have grown and learnd with me ,, for that i'm so very greatful,,

for with out the other Part(s)of us we are nothing
Mataeo

(in reply to sadomasokisti)

Profile

Post #: 73