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RedSavageSlave -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/25/2007 5:54:48 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

if you are going to be running around doing me favors having to deal with asses, I can think of a much better use of your time...


Im open to suggestions [8D]



MaryT -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/25/2007 5:54:59 AM)

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ORIGINAL: catize

P.S.  Do you give out prizes for good BDSM questions? 


If there was a prize, you would surely get it.  That was funny, catize.  [:)]



RedSavageSlave -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/25/2007 5:56:01 AM)

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ORIGINAL: angaothsi

RedSavageSlave scares me a lil, but I think I like it....SimplyMichael isnt annoing, I like him. Just my $.02


awww....dont be scairt little girl....want some candy?  [8|]



SimplyMichael -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/25/2007 6:09:43 AM)

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Im open to suggestions


I know...sometimes it is very good to be me!



kc692 -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/25/2007 12:15:37 PM)

Too funny!!!!!



MsKatHouston -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/25/2007 12:55:30 PM)

OP:  There's someone in the Mistress section who needs your advise.  See demon thread.  Perhaps you could help.



MasterGremlin -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/25/2007 5:26:36 PM)

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just my 2 cents.

Humbley,
minxy [:)]



kc692 -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/25/2007 6:24:19 PM)

[8|]Looking for the demon thread, it might have been interesting lol.



Celeste43 -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/25/2007 7:11:54 PM)

I'll say one thing for the op, to post this on a site that includes John Warren, requires audacity.



bludemonn -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/25/2007 7:32:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: kc692

[8|]Looking for the demon thread, it might have been interesting lol.


You mention the demon and i appear! (muhuhahahahah... sorry).

Those clever muppets at throttleme, sorry collarme decided to shove my thread into the 'polls and other random stupidity' in Casual banter... It's not that I take much offence to the 'mistake' I mean let's face it you have to forgive the poor dears for being so pig-ignorant of demonogists such as myself, bit like putting the 'situation in the east' file into 'casual banter for stupid random threats' - George Bush! *tuts!* Anyways peach-tree you are most welcome to jump in there and give me your take on Demons, Lust, posessions and Domination (involving demons!) oh yeah newbies will be LAUGHED at by myself and the other demons that live in my head![sm=banana.gif]  



AskAboutBDSM -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/25/2007 8:03:25 PM)

Well.  A day later and all I do have to say hilarious.  I thank you all for giving me a good chuckle.  
Now onto my reply, first to some of your many posts.

"it may be against TOS to post private emails"  That may be true, but My intention is not to post the emails but simply the question, and that I do not believe is against TOS as it is just a question taken and perhaps rephrased from an e-mail.  But I will look into this further before posting anything.

"with no varifiable track record trying to set himself up as somekind of D/s guru"
I was just discussing this with a member of this forum via Message, and It was suggested to post often here to build up some sort of track record.
I can understand and agree with that, and I planned to start, and I guess starting with my own thread will have to be good enough.  
As for the d/s guru?  I have not nor do I claim to be such.  I am here, to be here for those that might desire to have anonymous help or answers.
I do not claim to be better or more knowledgeable than anyone here, as I don't know anyone here.

About what I offer...
Well for that look back at all the postings and replies to my topic.
My profile nor my post were neither harmful, insulting, aggressive, rude, or anything other than simple honest and upfront about who I am and why I'm here.
I understood that my not being proven, or my complete and total masking of who I am would cause people to question me, not believe me or what I have to offer. But Complete and utter Mockery? I guess Maturity and respect are too much to hope for these days.  I'm only offering to help people.  Guess the only way people can get help is if they air their dirty laundry for all to see.


Believe it or not there ARE people out there who are shy and hesitant about who they are and about seeking help of answers to their problem or questions.  The fact of posting a topic to a forum with their profile attached might scare and worry them half to death.  Reading the replies to my simple and innocent post might scare them the rest of the way.
Now they will fear "what if my question is dumb or stupid?  I'll be mocked  and ridiculed"
Afterall perhaps my post was a little naive, but it was not worth what it recieved.

What if a sub has questions about his/her Dom?  or vice virsa?  Posting such in the forum tells EVERYONE that you are questioning them or your feelings, or whatever the problem is.
What if the Dom or sub sees the post?  Might be good might not be.  Depends on the nature of the problem/question.

Yes this forum might be good in helping to answer questions, it might be good solving problems.  But not all questions are always asked and not all problems are always aired.
Yes I'm a nobody as far as anyone knows.  Yes I'm an unknown.  Nobody knows if I can be trusted or not.  If enough trust me to prove I'm trustable perhaps more would trust as well at which point I will be trusted respected and established. Nobody knows if my advice is any good.  Same applies as with trust.  You don't know until you try.


I'm here, I'm offering help, like it or not, respect it or not, believe it or not.  :)

Good day all.



kc692 -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/25/2007 8:39:30 PM)

Noone is doubting you are offering help.  What we are doubting, is a one sentence "come to me with all your problems and I will help you" from an unknown quantity that doesn't even put any teeth in their profile, saying only they "have many years of experience"..  Why would they want to come to you?  Trust and hope you are good, versus going to a known person on the forums? You might be good, bad, dangerous, who knows........I think it's safe to say, that although I don't see anyone here that says unequivocally they know all the answers, I think most of the regular posters will vouch in a heartbeat that we have had emails on the other side, from exactly the ones you speak of, the ones that wish to remain anonymous.  They pick the person to email based on what they see in the forums, and who they think can help them best.    If you want to be respected and trusted, post in the forums, serious posts, then others will see what you are made of, and although they may not agree, as long as you are not a "know it all always right blowhard" when you post, you will find most respectfully agree to disagree.  It is also hard to believe your altruistic motives, when you are putting a website up, and quite possibly hoping to profit off of it some kind of way, giving another possible nonaltruistic bend to your motives.  Now, why don't you tell us what experience you have if you want any questions to answer? If not, prove yourself in the forums.  Being new, you have no way of knowing, "this is not our first rodeo" with those that claim to know all the answers....so, let's see what you are made of.  Welcome to the boards then, and let's hear your thoughts.  We shall see.



mnottertail -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/25/2007 8:49:29 PM)

Start out by sending some advice (nothing in too deep) to some young filly that cries out here (all unknowing like) FRESH MEAT--- maybe a link or two.  After they write you back and say that you are a fuckwad, too old for them (although you made it clear it was not a proposition) and they may be new, and u don't know a fucking thing, but certainly have nothing in common with you, gather up a few of those statistics, then post the amalgamation of that here, and I may ask you a fuckin question myself....other than that, I am full of advice as are anyone else here, you will stand out how?  I think it arrogant.  But I ain't pissed off about it.

Lemme know what you know when you know it, get back to me.

Ron



kc692 -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/25/2007 8:51:01 PM)

Sorry, I gave up at post 17.....



mnottertail -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/25/2007 8:55:43 PM)

Yep, he got demons runnin all thru him, he need to get himself to jesus and git him some healin.





kc692 -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/25/2007 9:22:47 PM)

I'll take your word for it, Ron, that was some silly shit I was reading.[:D]



proudsub -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/25/2007 9:36:32 PM)

I think it is commendable that you are offering to help others.  However, if i had a question i would prefer to post it on the forums in order to get more than one opinion.  I like to hear many views on a topic since in most cases there is no "right" answer but there are varying opinions.  I think most of us would love to have you participate in the forums, especially the more serious threads, then we can get to know you better and judge for ourselves if we agree with your views. As for those who want to remain anonymous they often will create a new screen name just to come in and ask their question. Welcome to CM. [:)]



bearincuffs -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/25/2007 9:51:51 PM)

I agree that replying and posting new threads is a good way to build a track record on these messages boards. It seems to me that maybe your OP could have been worded in such a way that your offer could be applicable without appearing arrogant. You also have to realize that each person here has their own unique personality which is evident in the way they respond to threads, and this does not reflect upon their maturity level.
 
We all were shy and very hesitant at one time or another about asking questions and /or need help with issues concerning aspects of our realtionship with our Doms or Masters. In the beginning stages of the realationship is where Doms get to know the sub and the sub gets to know their Dom, this is where honest communication has to take place between both people. And a Truthful Dom/sub should clearly understand that they can discuss any issue which may be bothering them with each other. The best advice I have read in the forums have been repeated by many members and that is to use what applies and leave the rest.
 
From what I have seen and from my limited experience, Doms are people too, they want their sub/slave to Grow and Learn. From my own relationship with my Master,  He is constantly asking me how I feel about some topic regarding what He wants and expects from me. Yet he will reassure me that as His property, I will be used for His wants and needs and I am cherished and am cared for.
 
Anything I have replied to is only based on my own life experiences and the guidance I have recieved from Master. I know some may think I don't know squat but that is their opinion and I do respect their right to their view. If someone agrees with me that is fine, and if they don't well there are others here who are more knowledgeable and more experienced.
 
<ok, I'm off my soapbox  rofl>



AskAboutBDSM -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/25/2007 10:33:40 PM)

::nods to all who posted recently::
I respect what you say bearincuffs, unfortunally not every relationship is like that.
As much as you, I or anyone with enough sence would like to say that every relationship has full communication between the Dom and sub, the fact is that this isn't the case unfortunally.

And to everyone:  I admit that perhaps it was a bit foolhardy to post the way I did without more of an introduction of sorts, withoutmuch information or establishment.
I am and will make an effort to establish myself over the coming weeks.
Untill then...  be well and thank you.



RavenMuse -> RE: Answering and advising Problems (1/26/2007 5:39:53 AM)

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And to everyone:  I admit that perhaps it was a bit foolhardy to post the way I did without more of an introduction of sorts, withoutmuch information or establishment.
I am and will make an effort to establish myself over the coming weeks.
Untill then...  be well and thank you.


Now THAT is the first actual possitive sign I've seen that you might be capable, eventualy of getting out of the hole you dug for yourself with your initial approach.

You made some basic errors with your assumptions. A big one is in how people seek advice in a place like this. There is no need for "Self apointed D/s gurus" because people here just go about their business, being themselves and those who need certain types of advice will work out for themselves who they trust to approach privatly with a question or two.

I am sure most of the people here with a track record of consistency, will have been approached many times by people looking for advice or information on many topics. I know I have, I know the likes of My old mate Ironbear has, John Warren undoubtably has many times over..... Heck, when I've wanted a specificaly sub perspective on something there are a number of young ladys here who's opinion I have asked for and recieved.

So whilst I won't speculate as to your motives, I will say that what you are mistakenly trying to set yourself up as (And keeping yourself anon isn't IMO going to reasure those who would be looking for advice anyhow) isn't needed.... because it is already being handled more effectivly that YOU are aware of. You didn't do your research and hence your approach drew derision.

Try just being yourself... without the mask... you may find it works far better.



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