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RE: Do Mistresses prefer a challenge? - 1/28/2007 1:37:52 PM   
MiladyElaine


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Status: offline 		I prefer one who is ready and willing to serve.  He can still have a personality and mind of his own without being a wimp.  Obedience is always sought after first with Me.

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RE: Do Mistresses prefer a challenge? - 1/28/2007 1:50:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		I like intelligence, compassion, wit, perception and a willingess to obey.  I don't like wimpy, cold-bowl-of-oatmeal, passive men.  I don't like submissives who need or want to be "broken," though I know dommes who enjoy that.

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RE: Do Mistresses prefer a challenge? - 1/29/2007 10:31:40 AM   
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How exactly are you searching?


I'm not searching atall it is a general consensus question for Mistresses/Masters and the only thing I can really draw from the responses is perhaps there is a very real distinction from a BDSM dom/domme lifestyle to an everyday dominant character in that the BDSM dominant prefers to play 'in session' thus not having to deal with overcoming her/his sub/slave whereas a dominant character in everyday life enjoys the chase and the defeat before their satisfaction is gained. 

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RE: Do Mistresses prefer a challenge? - 1/29/2007 5:39:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: bludemonn

quote:

ORIGINAL: cloudboy


How exactly are you searching?


I'm not searching atall it is a general consensus question for Mistresses/Masters and the only thing I can really draw from the responses is perhaps there is a very real distinction from a BDSM dom/domme lifestyle to an everyday dominant character in that the BDSM dominant prefers to play 'in session' thus not having to deal with overcoming her/his sub/slave whereas a dominant character in everyday life enjoys the chase and the defeat before their satisfaction is gained. 



Once my side stopped splitting, the one thing in that statement I for sure could agree with is calling the mythical person a dominant "character".  Frankly, IMO, you will find, more times than not, that people are paying to play out being forced into submission rather than the other way around.  I think I understand the type of dominant you are alluding to, whom you believe are the  REAL dominants.     

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RE: Do Mistresses prefer a challenge? - 1/29/2007 6:35:02 PM   
MistressArri


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Status: offline 		A challange  hmmmm  well that depends on what the challange is  . .. ..  I want someone that can  'challange'  my  thoughts and abilities ................  but  someone I have to  'beat' into submission?  NO !  Someone I have to constantly punish/discipline to keep them inline?   NO !  Someone I have to physically work at to restrain?  NO!     Neither do I want a doormat or someone whose only reply to a question is " if it pleases you".  I want a boy with intelligence and the capacity to use it. 
  I  desire someone that is obediant  that seeks to please me because to dissappoint me would crush them more then any beating could.   

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RE: Do Mistresses prefer a challenge? - 1/30/2007 12:32:19 PM   
bludemonn


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Status: offline 		No i think if you have to beat someone into submission then...errr. 'therapy' springs to mind! I understand what you meant about obedience, I like to work hard and try to be the type who dosen't need shouting at although some Dommes enjoy meting out punishment regardless and can find ways in order to do so but this can have a dulling effect and sometimes a little bit of resistance can bring out a more adventurous experience for both parties involved.    

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RE: Do Mistresses prefer a challenge? - 3/17/2007 4:22:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: bludemonn

OK serious question, i'd like to know whether the general consensus amongst the female dominants of this group is to either opt for a submissive at the start who is already obedient or whether they enjoy actually 'dominating' a difficult but willing 'slave'? Would you prefer him 'whipped' already or to put up a little resistance?


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RE: Do Mistresses prefer a challenge? - 3/17/2007 4:40:14 PM   
Unrepentant1


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Status: offline 		I guess most domme's would view me as a challenge, because I am thoughtful and weigh everything up, never commit straight away, but to me the right Domme would find me easy. I hope that makes sense, lol. I think we are all easy with the right Domme.

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RE: Do Mistresses prefer a challenge? - 3/18/2007 5:31:25 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Challenge?  By that term I am wonder if you meant they lack or are unwilling to be obedient?  If that is the way you were asking about preference, then I would have to say no.  Even from the very beginning, there has to be a certain understanding and willingness that any sub I would consider would be expected to obey.  I have certain expectations that they have to meet regarding respect and proper manners.  I don't want to spend all of My time doing nothing but punishing for bad behavior.  That routine gets old quickly.

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RE: Do Mistresses prefer a challenge? - 3/18/2007 5:41:47 AM   
Vendaval


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Status: offline 		I am trying to understand what you are getting at here, blu.
 
Are you differentiating between having a Scene where there
is resistence and take down play and a relationship dynamic?

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ORIGINAL: bludemonn
I'm not searching atall it is a general consensus question for Mistresses/Masters and the only thing I can really draw from the responses is perhaps there is a very real distinction from a BDSM dom/domme lifestyle to an everyday dominant character in that the BDSM dominant prefers to play 'in session' thus not having to deal with overcoming her/his sub/slave whereas a dominant character in everyday life enjoys the chase and the defeat before their satisfaction is gained. 


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RE: Do Mistresses prefer a challenge? - 3/18/2007 5:53:18 AM   
canupleaseme


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Status: offline 		I like my boy to be good. I cant stand playing up to provoke a reaction.  Fortunatly I play with him enough for him not to feel the need to be challenging.
Cheeky on occasion I dont mind though, and he knows just when to do that


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RE: Do Mistresses prefer a challenge? - 3/18/2007 6:01:37 AM   
Unrepentant1


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Status: offline 		I speak of challenge from a different point of view I think. I mean I will not submit easily, because I can only do so for someone who controls my mind and has won my heart, then I submit freely. I am not someone who seeks punishment. I seek someone I feel I can trust totally and therefore I am very careful. I offer respect and good manners, and a willing attitude, but once I feel I can trust you totally I give completely. I have made the mistake of trusting too easily and paid the price, so I guess you can call me wary. 

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RE: Do Mistresses prefer a challenge? - 3/18/2007 7:20:23 AM   
lateralist1


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Status: offline 		It seems that dominant women are more alike than I thought.
If it's too hard in the end I don't want to know.
If a sub/slave expects too much of me then I don't want to know.
I spend a lot of time and energy on trying to get to know someone. I expect the same from anyone I talk to.
I get totally frustrated with most people's inability to put anything into forming a relationship with anyone.
I've spent 14 years at the sharp end of social services trying to get people to understand how they can make their lives better but they won't listen.
I'm quite prepared to physically discipline a sub/slave because I enjoy it.
But before I do that I have to know that the relationship is secure enough  to withstand that kind of discipline.
And trust someone enough to know that they are going to stick to my decisions when we are apart.
I can give instructions until I am blue in the face it doesn't mean that anyone has to follow them.
Most of the people I have come across so far in the lifestyle can't make relationships.
Or it seems can't even be honest about what they want.
Or even tell me when they have decided that they do not want to continue to talk to me.
If I like someone enough I am quite prepared to put my needs on the back burner for a while and try to help them. That doesn't make me submissive it just makes me a nice person.
The amount of men who think that getting a meal for someone is a submissive act is laughable.
Neither is behaving like a traditional gentleman.
I'm a dominant woman but I still open doors for people. Give up my seat for anyone I think requires it more than I do and get a meal for anyone who needs me to.
I treat people with respect.
I can't make someone want to engage with me.
They either want to or they don't.
And if one more man tells me they want sex when what they really want is for me to withhold sex from them I shall scream. lol.
Oh and if a submissive man doesn't want me as their vanilla partner as well as their BDSM partner then again I don't want to know.
This is my sexuality and I don't have casual sex.
If I only wanted vanilla sex on a casual basis I would not be here.





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