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He then goes on to say when not in play the slave is to use the Master's given name as an emotional safeword. It's for when in conversation with the Master hits an emotional land mine and he will cease his conversation. As soon as possible he will discuss what just happened in the subs heart or mind..
I think that's cool.
That works for most places. But sometimes a name is necessary- mostly I use a name when we're among vanilla friends and it would make him uncomfortable to not use his name, when we're in a loud and crowded place so he can be sure I mean him, or when we're in a room full of "sirs." Nothing like a girl saying "Sir" and having a dozen people looking around.
I'd pick something else.
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Another thing I've read so far is He will not point out a slaves errors in public that it's an embarrassment for both in his eyes, but also the slave is to respond always in public in a way where that makes the Masters orders look right. She will never give the appearance the that she thinks what he suggests or says is not right.
This is no different than vanilla manners that everyone should know- correcting someone in public is rude and makes everyone uncomfortable.
However, always making the master look right is just vapid and ego stroking. Don't we all say that masters aren't always right and best? While that doesn't mean you go out of your way to prove just how human they are- enforcing some illusion or making it a bad thing to admit reality when it occurs just ends up making everyone look like a dork IMO.
Shit happens, admit it, laugh about it, and move on. No one cares really and by making it into a big deal to think about, it becomes one that doesn't need to exist.
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He says if it involves potential or eminent peril to life, health or safety of any individual she's required to act immediately and without regard to protocol.
Again, this is how vanillas do it also. Most manners don't apply in emergency situations like that.
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He also says this with his next rule of a Master may not force a slave to do an illegal or patently unsafe thing.
Not a bad rule if laws are reasonable. There are many laws against things I thoroughly enjoy, so I'd be fine with a master who wanted to do illegal things as well.
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I've heard of the term calling Council before. hats when the slave requests a meeting where the power exchange shifts even and both talk on level ground without the D/s connotations required. In that the sub/slave does not have permission to yell and be rude any more than other times, but she is allowed to step out of her submission and speak as a free woman for the time of this council.
It's only to be used in dire extreme necessity, and not to be wielded lightly.
Other than this sort of safe word for non scene playing time I've never even heard of this concept before.
Do you in M/s relationships use a regular day to day safeword?
A lot of people do this. I don't see a reason for it. I don't need to stop being a slave in order to communicate my problems.
However, a lot of people make rules for themselves which make it impossible to communicate openly within the relationship. So they either suffer from lack of communication, or they break out of the relationship and the rules they created for it.
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Taking your slave to the edge of life and back is about being a good steward of your property when you use it sadistically, not perverting it and ruining it.
Any thoughts?
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