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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 2:55:48 PM   
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In many animal cultures, for lack of a better word, standing over or " mounting " them is a sign of domination in fact, in training dogs, it is a sign of domination to stand over top of them. The point is, that in my mind it is tantamount to the same kind of thing, and I was just curious how other people felt about it. now that I over-anylized it I feel kinda dumb. Maybe I'm comparing apples and oranges


We are a lot like Bonobo chimps too:

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Sexual social behavior
Sexual intercourse plays a major role in Bonobo society, being used as a greeting, a means of conflict resolution and post-conflict reconciliation, and as favors traded by the females in exchange for food. Bonobos are the only non-human apes to have been observed engaging in all of the following sexual activities: face-to-face genital sex (most frequently female-female, then male-female and male-male), tongue kissing, and oral sex.[1] In scientific literature, the female-female sex is often referred to as GG rubbing or genital-genital rubbing, while male-male sex is sometimes referred to as penis fencing [citation needed].
Sexual activity happens within the immediate family as well as outside it, and often involves adults and children, even infants.[9] Bonobos do not form permanent relationships with individual partners. They also do not seem to discriminate in their sexual behavior by gender or age, with the possible exception of sexual intercourse between mothers and their adult sons; some observers believe these pairings are taboo. When Bonobos come upon a new food source or feeding ground, the increased excitement will usually lead to communal sexual activity, presumably decreasing tension and allowing for peaceful feeding.[10]
Bonobo males frequently engage in various forms of male-male genital sex (frot).[11] [2][3] One form has two males hang from a tree limb face-to-face while "penis fencing". Frot may also occur where two males rub their penises together while in missionary position. A special form of frot called "rump rubbing" occurs to express reconciliation between two males after a conflict, where they stand back-to-back and rub their scrotal sacks together.
Bonobo females also engage in female-female genital sex (tribadism) to socially bond with each other, thus forming a female nucleus of Bonobo society. The bonding between females allows them to dominate Bonobo society - although male Bonobos are individually stronger, they cannot stand alone against a united group of females. Adolescent females often leave their troop of birth to join another troop. Sexual bonding with other females establishes the new females as members of the group. This troop migration mixes the Bonobo gene pools. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bonobo


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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 3:02:26 PM   
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I for one would say as so many have said all ready it is personal choice as to what you like or dont, not Dom or sub. And there must be some "want" to try it from finger right up to monster strap on, each to his or her own and good luck and enjoy to use all.

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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 3:05:16 PM   
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I wouldn't disagree when it comes to standing over someone and taking them with a strap on. This is only one aspect of anal stimulation though.

Tell you what, have your girl get her little buzzing thing going on you while she's giving you a blow job. See how you get on.

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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 3:06:57 PM   
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In many animal cultures, for lack of a better word, standing over or " mounting " them is a sign of domination


I think in BDSM it makes no difference who is physically standing over the other, the one in charge, directing the play is the dominant, and the one obeying is the submissive.  JMHO

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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 3:08:00 PM   
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When I use my strap-on or dildo or anything else on a sub it is a dominant act.
When I take a cock in my anus it is still a dominant act.
I suppose if you have instructed a sub to give you anal stimulation in anyway it could be seen as a dominant act.
However we are probably just talking about kinky sex.
But then what's wrong with kinky sex lol.

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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 3:42:02 PM   
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Depends on the circumstances and what's coming in.  For example, a tongue is delightful.


I have to agree there. The only thing I have found has any apeal.

The one thing I have never quite worked out is just how much of the pleasure is coming from the sensation and how much is from the dynamic, most girls I have Owned have found rimming to be something that particularly draws their most submissive feelings (Something also particularly in play with having anal sex with your girl. Possibly linked in with the societal taboos of both acts)


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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 3:45:37 PM   
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What percentage of Doms like stuff in their ass? I was having a discussion about hard limits, and it's one of mine. oh HEEELLLL no... but I just assumed that most Doms were that way. and the sub I was talking to said I might be wrong. I want to hear from the community at large..... help me win/lose an argument people.


If I'm in the mood for it, I very much enjoy anal sex and plugs.

If I'm not, stay the hell away from there.

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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 3:51:33 PM   
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I love having something in my ass when I'm masturbating or when someone is going down on me.  Yumm!

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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 4:03:07 PM   
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you can put me down in the "You lose the argument category. Not something I do alot, but pleasurable none the less.

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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 4:25:53 PM   
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What percentage of Doms like stuff in their ass? I was having a discussion about hard limits, and it's one of mine. oh HEEELLLL no... but I just assumed that most Doms were that way. and the sub I was talking to said I might be wrong. I want to hear from the community at large..... help me win/lose an argument people.


Exactly 534,209.5 Doms like stuff in their asses.  The .5 is this one guy in South Dakota that can't quite make up his mind.

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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 4:35:49 PM   
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I know quite a few males, Dom/sub/switch and straight/bi/gay
who like anal stimulation of various kinds; be it a finger or
a diloe or a strap on or another penis.
 


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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 6:31:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Exalaskan

What percentage of Doms like stuff in their ass? I was having a discussion about hard limits, and it's one of mine. oh HEEELLLL no... but I just assumed that most Doms were that way. and the sub I was talking to said I might be wrong. I want to hear from the community at large..... help me win/lose an argument people.


Well, in terms of the raw physics underlying the question, in any given place you've either got stuff or you've got a vacuum, right?

So what's in your wallet?

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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 6:41:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TreSwank

quote:

ORIGINAL: Exalaskan

What percentage of Doms like stuff in their ass? I was having a discussion about hard limits, and it's one of mine. oh HEEELLLL no... but I just assumed that most Doms were that way. and the sub I was talking to said I might be wrong. I want to hear from the community at large..... help me win/lose an argument people.


Exactly 534,209.5 Doms like stuff in their asses.  The .5 is this one guy in South Dakota that can't quite make up his mind.


Am I the only one tempted to go.... awwwww.... kids say the damndest things.....

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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 7:00:53 PM   
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I think he wants to try it, but he's not sure so, he started this thread to get some feedback
from other doms..


Diane

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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 7:22:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Exalaskan

In many animal cultures, for lack of a better word, standing over or " mounting " them is a sign of domination in fact, in training dogs, it is a sign of domination to stand over top of them. The point is, that in my mind it is tantamount to the same kind of thing, and I was just curious how other people felt about it. now that I over-anylized it I feel kinda dumb. Maybe I'm comparing apples and oranges


If the position messes with your head (and I can understand that), then do it in another position. Works on your back or your side, just like it does for us females.

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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 7:25:04 PM   
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I've known several doms who had tasked their slaves with performing anal on them as it was something they enjoyed. I think it's less about dominants and submissives as much as personal preference and desire.

I've known many sub males that had it as a hard limit.

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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 7:40:32 PM   
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Don't get caught up with titles, pre-conceived ideas and posturing. 
  • As far as titles are concerned, don't let anyone's idea of what a DOM should and shouldn't do prevent you from experiencing things you have an interest in. 
  • As far as pre-conceived ideas are concerned, don't let your lack of experience prevent you from experienceing things you have an interest in
  • As far as posturing is concerned, although humans are part of the animal kingdom, we have the power of discernment which allows us to recognize certain dynamics regardless of the physical positions we have put ourselves in.

To thine ownself be true.  If you want to experience something, experience it.  There is nothing stopping you from enjoying all the finer things in life but yourself.

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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 9:17:56 PM   
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If I, as the Dom, insist my submissive stick her fingers, dildo, or tongue in my anus, and I spray
goo all over her, then...

...Which one of us is the submissive?

Sinergy

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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 9:18:19 PM   
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Exactly 534,209.5 Doms like stuff in their asses.  The .5 is this one guy in South Dakota that can't quite make up his mind.

 
LOL I'm still laughing about that. Thank you very much for the laugh.

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RE: A crude question but a true curiosity.... - 1/27/2007 9:21:33 PM   
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Exactly 534,209.5 Doms like stuff in their asses.  The .5 is this one guy in South Dakota that can't quite make up his mind.


I am not sure how Domly it is to be 1/2 of a person.

Just me, etc.

Sinergy

edited because it was one [ short.

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