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ORIGINAL: demistress

I have nothing but respect for Amy, and also for you Pixel, but to be honest, Denny really hit the spirit of the post more on the head.  While I do not by any means condone the language he used, his outrage at those who waste my (and other domme's) time is actually appreciated.  I am not looking for someone seeking to explore submission unless they're going to pay for the time I spend training them.  I come to the forums to ask for and to give advice, I sometimes direct those with questions, or just starting out over to this side of the site.

And FYI, I don't just hit "block" immediately.  I very tersely tell them to read my profile, and sometimes I am gracious enough to link them to an example first session with me, but if they don't read my profile, aren't willing to take the time to read the session description, there is no way I'm going to personally and descriptively answer such a broad question.  I have no problem being direct and answering direct questions, but that question is a sure sign of a lazy, self-centered person, which for me, is something a GOOD sub cannot be.

demistress,
If you read my reply to your OP again I think you'll find that I wasn't suggesting in any manner that you respond to "do me questions" with anything specific.  If you wanted a "rant thread", that's certainly your perogative.  However, I don't think it helps anyone who needs to learn how to approach a Mistress, learn a whole lot of what they need to do - including the "how to's" and the "how not to's". [&:]  
 
Most men seem to respond to rants by moving on without reading them.  If not,  a certain word automatically pops into their minds that I'd rather not repeat, after which they dismiss the post, and then move on anyway.  My point being, its my opinion, that to direct a man here to read the forums, doesn't serve a lot of purpose if they're full of rants, instead of usefull information presented in a manner that will be read and easily absorbed. [8|]
 
 - pixel

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ORIGINAL: demistress

Anyone else get totally pissed off when someone (even someone you've liked up to that point) asks this question?

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ORIGINAL: demistress

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave

demistress,
If you read my reply to your OP again I think you'll find that I wasn't suggesting in any manner that you respond to "do me questions" with anything specific.  If you wanted a "rant thread", that's certainly your perogative.  However, I don't think it helps anyone who needs to learn how to approach a Mistress, learn a whole lot of what they need to do - including the "how to's" and the "how not to's". [&:]  
 
Most men seem to respond to rants by moving on without reading them.  If not,  a certain word automatically pops into their minds that I'd rather not repeat, after which they dismiss the post, and then move on anyway.  My point being, its my opinion, that to direct a man here to read the forums, doesn't serve a lot of purpose if they're full of rants, instead of usefull information presented in a manner that will be read and easily absorbed. [8|]
 
 - pixel

Well, if I'm a "certain word" then so be it, and apparently so are many other mistresses on here. I did not post this to hear lectures from those such as you, but rather to find out if I was the only mistress this particular question pissed off.  Clearly I am not.  That is useful information. 

Funny that you reference re-reading YOUR initial response for clarity, where if you read mine I asked a very specific question, directed to a very specific audience...... hmmmmmmmmmm a certain word is popping to mind as I type.

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ORIGINAL: demistress

Anyone else get totally pissed off when someone (even someone you've liked up to that point) asks this question?

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave
demistress,
In regard to your feeling you're being lectured, I'm truly sorry you have that impression, as that was not at all my intent.  My only purpose was to share my thoughts on how things could be handled in a manner that could result in a different outcome.  If a person's sharing their thoughts in a forum such as this is considered a lecture, a free exchange of ideas and thoughts is definitely not likely to ever occur. [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m23.gif[/image] 
 
Going back to your original post, I don't see where it's directed to any specific audience.  In fact, it seems quite generic to me based on the manner in which its phrased.   I'll even quote how it reads for your and other reader's convenience:

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ORIGINAL: demistress

Anyone else get totally pissed off when someone (even someone you've liked up to that point) asks this question?

I personally wouldn't interpret the word "Anyone" to refer to a specific audience, but if you intended it to mean "Mistresses only", should I take that to imply you'd prefer only Mistresses post in this Section of the Boards?  Its appears to have happened before, where subs have essentially quit posting in this section of the boards, except of course those who were doing the usual trolling.  Even now, there aren't many subs who regularly post here.  Perhaps there's a reason why...
 
 - pixel

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ORIGINAL: demistress

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave
demistress,
In regard to your feeling you're being lectured, I'm truly sorry you have that impression, as that was not at all my intent.  My only purpose was to share my thoughts on how things could be handled in a manner that could result in a different outcome.  If a person's sharing their thoughts in a forum such as this is considered a lecture, a free exchange of ideas and thoughts is definitely not likely to ever occur. [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m23.gif[/image] 
 
Going back to your original post, I don't see where it's directed to any specific audience.  In fact, it seems quite generic to me based on the manner in which its phrased.   I'll even quote how it reads for your and other reader's convenience:

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ORIGINAL: demistress

Anyone else get totally pissed off when someone (even someone you've liked up to that point) asks this question?

I personally wouldn't interpret the word "Anyone" to refer to a specific audience, but if you intended it to mean "Mistresses only", should I take that to imply you'd prefer only Mistresses post in this Section of the Boards?  Its appears to have happened before, where subs have essentially quit posting in this section of the boards, except of course those who were doing the usual trolling.  Even now, there aren't many subs who regularly post here.  Perhaps there's a reason why...
 
 - pixel

As to the nature of the original post: DO you hear this question?  does it piss you off?  Gee, both answers are no?  Shocking. 

No I do not think that this forum should be reserved to ONLY posts by mistresses, but frankly, yes, the question was posed to mistresses, and further, you did not answer the original question, you took the opportunity to lecture, as you often do  For those who post wanting ADVICE I've seen it be helpful, but that was not the case here.

If you truely wanted to be hepful you might have approached the topic from the angle of other ways the submissive or slave might approach a dominant woman. But no, you chose to lecture (and you know that's exactly how it comes off in your posts here). 

At any rate, thank you SO much for your input, I'll be sure and run all my emotions by you from now on *rolls eyes and pukes*

To "Anyone" ELSE:  I need a break, I'll see you all in a few days, feel free to contact me on the other side.

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ORIGINAL: demistress

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave
demistress,
In regard to your feeling you're being lectured, I'm truly sorry you have that impression, as that was not at all my intent.  My only purpose was to share my thoughts on how things could be handled in a manner that could result in a different outcome.  If a person's sharing their thoughts in a forum such as this is considered a lecture, a free exchange of ideas and thoughts is definitely not likely to ever occur. [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m23.gif[/image] 
 
Going back to your original post, I don't see where it's directed to any specific audience.  In fact, it seems quite generic to me based on the manner in which its phrased.   I'll even quote how it reads for your and other reader's convenience:

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ORIGINAL: demistress

Anyone else get totally pissed off when someone (even someone you've liked up to that point) asks this question?

I personally wouldn't interpret the word "Anyone" to refer to a specific audience, but if you intended it to mean "Mistresses only", should I take that to imply you'd prefer only Mistresses post in this Section of the Boards?  Its appears to have happened before, where subs have essentially quit posting in this section of the boards, except of course those who were doing the usual trolling.  Even now, there aren't many subs who regularly post here.  Perhaps there's a reason why...
 
 - pixel

As to the nature of the original post: DO you hear this question?  does it piss you off?  Gee, both answers are no?  Shocking. 

No I do not think that this forum should be reserved to ONLY posts by mistresses, but frankly, yes, the question was posed to mistresses, and further, you did not answer the original question, you took the opportunity to lecture, as you often do  For those who post wanting ADVICE I've seen it be helpful, but that was not the case here.

If you truely wanted to be hepful you might have approached the topic from the angle of other ways the submissive or slave might approach a dominant woman. But no, you chose to lecture (and you know that's exactly how it comes off in your posts here). 

At any rate, thank you SO much for your input, I'll be sure and run all my emotions by you from now on *rolls eyes and pukes*

To "Anyone" ELSE:  I need a break, I'll see you all in a few days, feel free to contact me on the other side.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHugs

I also appreciate Pixelslave's words on a more philosophical approach, to where there needs to be 'remedies' and or 'options' offered to those who identify as male slave/male submissive/male servant; on how better to approach a Female Dominant; such as in lieu of "What would you do to me question;" it would be better to ask; "What normally takes place in a D/s scene, to my body."  Or, "What should I expect when I am a novice or given such a situation." 
 
When dealing in a text medium, I am of the thought of the endless "what if" scenarios, to where words can fall either side of the meter.
I just have concerns about the innocents who honestly seek to 'understand' and or 'learn;' that get the wrath from cynical and or jaded Dominants.
 
Just some thoughts.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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ORIGINAL: demistress

As to the nature of the original post: DO you hear this question?  does it piss you off?  Gee, both answers are no?  Shocking. 

No I do not think that this forum should be reserved to ONLY posts by mistresses, but frankly, yes, the question was posed to mistresses, and further, you did not answer the original question, you took the opportunity to lecture, as you often do  For those who post wanting ADVICE I've seen it be helpful, but that was not the case here.

If you truely wanted to be hepful you might have approached the topic from the angle of other ways the submissive or slave might approach a dominant woman. But no, you chose to lecture (and you know that's exactly how it comes off in your posts here). 

At any rate, thank you SO much for your input, I'll be sure and run all my emotions by you from now on *rolls eyes and pukes*

To "Anyone" ELSE:  I need a break, I'll see you all in a few days, feel free to contact me on the other side.

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Don't read any of his mile long posts demistress.  Hes rude to alot of mistresses except his few favorites adn i know everyone can guess which ones thsoe are coz they always come running to defend the "sub".  teehee.   just ignore his babbles and passive aggresive long lectures.  he just likes to hear himself think so he can tell himself and the rest that his really an okay guy.  i think he has a lot of mad feelings inside so dont give his lectures a second thought.