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ORIGINAL: Archer
I'm saying that almost invariable an emotional attachment will form as a result of the relationship.

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
I am sure there are some that can submit without a connection to the dominant that they have given their power to, but I would venture to take a wild guess and state that this would not be very common.

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ORIGINAL: felicitousdove

I think this coems down to: Does one need love to have a successful Ds relationship?

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ORIGINAL: amayos
Emotion is a necessary engine in the human animal to make good decisions

Emotion is not needed to survive.  It could be argued that animals can survive without emotion. I am sure a dog does not get emotional looking for food.
 
 
based upon the volume of constantly shifting input life inevitably brings—therefore it is impossible for us to escape emotion if we are to be good, thinking animals, true to our feelings and instincts.

Again it is something chosen not something needed to function within the realm of domination.
 

Additionally, considerable empathetic abilities are often required in human domination, and those who dominate well are in touch with those abilities.

I can touch a submissive or bottom regardless of how emotionaless I may be. I can bring out emotion in a submissive while displaying none.


These processes are not to be considered interchangeable with the popular notion of romantic love, however. Dominance can and does exist without love, but good dominance at its base does involve a suitable degree of empathy and human understanding, even if simply to know how to dominate better.

Understanding emotion and practicing / displaying it are differnet animals all together.
 
Ross

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ORIGINAL: griffn

Not in my experience but it does help to create a deeper level of trust etc. I think that  with out trying there is a emotional component to scening that just happens automatically whether I want it or not.   

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ORIGINAL: SirDiscipliner69

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ORIGINAL: Archer

Dispassionatly speaking emotional connection is not required however I would contend that over time it will almost invarriably result from it.

Service is rendered and followed as that is the way it should be.

One can be a fine submissive without emotional burdens attached under the guise of devotion.

One can deliver proper discpline to a submissive without compassion, empathy or emotion.

Both can function in a give and take performance of roles.

Ross
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ORIGINAL: SirKenin

Anybody that tells you that there is no emotional attachment whatsoever does not know what they are talking about or they are a stone. 

Yes your perception gives you the illusion that this may be so...it is based on your preferences and experiences...however it does not make it fact.


Mind you, you can make the claim that you are a dominant that lacks emotion, but you will be an unattached dominant unless you are a psychopath and your charge buys into that MO.

By what fact are you basing your claims or are these indeed your perceptions?
 
 


There has to be SOME form of attachment there to form some type of bond necessary to be a power exchange. 

There merely needs to be consent of will to subject one to another. Period.


It could be as simplistic as a friendship bond, or as complex as a lover, but there *must* be a bond of some sort in a D/s dynamic. 

Where does it state that in domination 101? The bond is the role and acting upon it.


You have to be able to care for your charge and help them to blossom.  This requires a form of attachment or you are going to be one seriously piss poor dominant.

Domination need not nuture nor set goals to obtain for the submissive or bottom. Again your perception equates your expectations with that of rating one who might practice differenct from your understandings.
 
 
But in any relationship, vanilla, BDSM or otherwise, an emotional bond is a mandatory requirement.

Domination without emotion does not need to confine itself to the human expression for desirous attachements.

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ORIGINAL: SCDommie

How will you expierence sub space or Dom space without emotion being involved?

SCD

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ORIGINAL: GentlehandSTL

I can dominate someone w/o the emotion.

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ORIGINAL: agirl

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But it doesn't HAVE to have anything to do with it nor is it needed for there to be domination. I was *dominated* by respect for a greater length of time. I am enormously attached NOW, emotionally, but it wasn't the case for years. Taking my personal situation out of the question...domination does not NEED emotional attachment to occur.

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ORIGINAL: ArcherIt may not be nessisary to begin the D/s relationship but as the relationship continues I doubt if it can last very long at all without some emotional attachment developing.

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ORIGINAL: Reflectivesoul

do you have to be in love in order to have a sexual relationship? Some will say yes, some will say no and neither is wrong and neither is right, it boils down to what as individuals they want, need, and feel.

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ORIGINAL: bandit25

One can be dominant or submissive without emotion.  I'm not sure how that dynamic would work, tho. 

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ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

Sure subs can be dominated without emotion. You play, they obey because they like the play and in their mind that is the way it is supposed to be. However, without debating the definition of love, I also know if I FEEL love, my form of domination will be stronger.

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ORIGINAL: SirKenin

Why does emotion have to be defined as "love"?  I find that concept simply ridiculous.  There are so many emotions that fall outside of that umbrella.

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ORIGINAL: MaryTI haven't read through the thread, but does desire count as emotion?  If so, the desire to dominate counts too, so at least some emotion is necessary. 

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ORIGINAL: SirDominic

Fascinating the way these threads develop. The OP asked a simple question. The simple answer is no, Domination does not need emotion attached to be domination.

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ORIGINAL: SirDiscipliner69

Emotion is not needed to survive. It could be argued that animals can survive without emotion. I am sure a dog does not get emotional looking for food.