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Devilslilsister -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (2/19/2007 5:45:04 PM)
My biggest fear - is some one getting inside of my head and destroying me from the inside out. Its already happened to a degree and i managed to hold onto myself enough to fight for my life and against the odds - free myself. That and when i finally gave up, an Angel was sent to save my life as i was ending it. i fear running across some one higher up on the food chain that i will be lost against. So my fear is to be utterly open and vulnerable - giving some one that "in" in my mind. Unfortunetly for Master, he is part of the human race. So with in my r/s my biggest fear is to let go and trust. death would be better then to die slowly from the inside out, losing your heart, soul, mind, and self. Been there, done that, dont want to play again.

painlovingsub -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (2/19/2007 11:18:26 PM)
i think my biggest fear would have to be rejection. i mean it doesn't hold me back in life but is just a nagging thought in my mind. While everything usually works out fine in the end, my mind just seems to take over up until the point that everything is fine.

pinkmint -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (2/20/2007 2:17:39 PM)
Mine would have to be, losing Daddy. I havent had him long but our journey has been worth it. And losing what we have would set me off on the wrong foot. PinkMint

SirDiscipliner69 -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (2/22/2007 2:32:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Devilslilsister My biggest fear - is some one getting inside of my head and destroying me from the inside out. I think that fear is not just esclusive to submissives. It seems many of the fears posted are human fears and not just those related to submission. Its already happened to a degree and i managed to hold onto myself enough to fight for my life and against the odds - free myself. That and when i finally gave up, an Angel was sent to save my life as i was ending it. I am sorry to hear of things coming to such a point without some form of divine intervention. In times like these it is ok and important to reach out to others as it is not a burden and if thoise can not cope then more professional help is available. i fear running across some one higher up on the food chain that i will be lost against. Life is for learning is it not? So lessons will be learned and you will hopefully recognize the signs and take appropriate actions. So my fear is to be utterly open and vulnerable - giving some one that "in" in my mind. Unfortunetly for Master, he is part of the human race. So with in my r/s my biggest fear is to let go and trust. Yes the fear of the unknown is there for many. With a good person beside you you might be able to over come your fears that we all might share. death would be better then to die slowly from the inside out, losing your heart, soul, mind, and self. Been there, done that, dont want to play again. Yes one should be like a phinoix and rise from the ashes and reinvent yourself. If Madona and Cher can do it it is possible. Ross ©º°¨¨°º©

SirDiscipliner69 -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (2/22/2007 2:38:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: violetangel My greatest fear is that of heights, thought this doesn't include flying in planes. I've been to le tour Eiffel twice and can't go above the second tier, it didn't help when the elevator got stuck going down--luckily a friend was there to help me keep from hyperventilating. I would be right next to you doing the exact same thing! My other fears are failure and not being perfect. I try very hard and tell myself that I can only be me and do my best. That is why we are called human. No one can be perfect as if they try they are setting themselves up for failure. One might strive for perfection on a lifetime journey but be aware of failures and awarensses of learning within. I haven't started a relationship, yet. It took me awhile to admit to myself what I needed. I've dealt with being left for another and being left alone and pg. Also, I'm adopted and my adopted parents divorced when I was a child. I, finally, came to the conclusion that I have to live my life as being without regret, no matter what. Inner realiation and awareness is what many seek in many different forms. your happiness comes from yourself from within not from another person. I like your thoughts of no regrets. As for the death of a loved one, I have felt their spirit pass, like a gentle kiss upon my soul. I miss them, but know that I did get to say goodbye and see you on the other side. I feel that you should celebrate their life rather than morn their passing. Do you know what the difference of an Irish wedding and that of an Irish wake is? One less drunk ;) Ross ©º°¨¨°º©

babyboyk -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (2/25/2007 2:46:36 PM)
i guess being a male submissive, is not being accepted for being who i am, is my biggest fear. i hope people do, but there is no accounting for everyone though. [:)]

SirDiscipliner69 -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (3/6/2007 5:00:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: babyboyk i guess being a male submissive, is not being accepted for being who i am, is my biggest fear. i hope people do, but there is no accounting for everyone though. [:)] Why would people not accept who you are? If you bring alot to the table and have something to offer I see no reason while you should not be accepted. Perhaps if you are not by some then maybe they weren't right for you to begin with but just a mere stepping stone as life is for learning. Ross ©º°¨¨°º©

phoenixMB -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (3/6/2007 6:43:01 PM)
Greetings, Masters, Greetings, Mistresses, Greetings, slaves, This girl's biggest fear is being uncollared & released by Master. Respectfully ~ phoenix{MB}

Llyren -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (3/9/2007 3:18:34 AM)
Zombies.

SoCalOTKhristine -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (3/9/2007 11:38:23 AM)
Since I am my 40's, and I like men 35+, and dated men in their early 50's...1 of the fears is the heart attack thing. I haven't gone as far as thinking this could happen when bound...(thanks for planting that image)...just in general. The other...I meet a great man, I fall in love. There are ABSOLUTELY NO red flags or indications of instability, and one day they SNAP! They either end up with a drug/alcohol problem, or with a SERIOUS mental health issue. They can no longer be objective or trusted in our established relationship. I have to say, I don't have a lot of irrational fears anymore...sometime after my daughter was born, I began to work through the irrational ones 1 at a time. I just don't get scared like I used to. I kind of miss that, that rush of adrenaline, hiding my face, plugging my ears during a scary movie.

SirDiscipliner69 -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (3/9/2007 12:01:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: phoenixMB This girl's biggest fear is being uncollared & released by Master. So by having this fear is one being self prophetic into believing it? Ross ©º°¨¨°º©

SirDiscipliner69 -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (3/9/2007 12:02:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SoCalOTKhristine Since I am my 40's, and I like men 35+, and dated men in their early 50's...1 of the fears is the heart attack thing. I haven't gone as far as thinking this could happen when bound...(thanks for planting that image)...just in general. That is actually a very real thing to worry about..what might you do about it? Have you taken precautions? Involved a friend..safe call? Ross ©º°¨¨°º©

SoCalOTKhristine -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (3/9/2007 2:25:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SirDiscipliner69 quote: ORIGINAL: SoCalOTKhristine Since I am my 40's, and I like men 35+, and dated men in their early 50's...1 of the fears is the heart attack thing. I haven't gone as far as thinking this could happen when bound...(thanks for planting that image)...just in general. That is actually a very real thing to worry about..what might you do about it? Have you taken precautions? Involved a friend..safe call? Ross ©º°¨¨°º© Let me tell you, now that this has been planted in my brain, I have started thinking through how I can protect myself in such a case. I have heard this term "safe call"...can you elaborate? I am assuming I call someone, tell them, if I don't call back in 2-3 hours, call me, if I don't answer, this is where I am? Thank goodness I stumbled on this thread, I have learned something invaluable!!

raevnn -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (3/9/2007 3:34:58 PM)
I'm always worried that I'm doing something wrong. I'm also scared of being 'let go;' not necessarily left, but stranded, as an enslaved girl... scared he'll stop being my owner or my Daddy; scared that he wont want this sort of arrangement anymore.

raevnn -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (3/9/2007 3:54:46 PM)
Oh, and i often fear that he will ask me for something that I wont physically be able to make myself do. I fear because i know he will end up forcing me to do it... The fear in that is more of the humiliation, I think... and is sometimes titillating as well as scary.

SirDiscipliner69 -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (3/17/2007 1:00:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SoCalOTKhristine Let me tell you, now that this has been planted in my brain, I have started thinking through how I can protect myself in such a case. I have heard this term "safe call"...can you elaborate? I am assuming I call someone, tell them, if I don't call back in 2-3 hours, call me, if I don't answer, this is where I am? Thank goodness I stumbled on this thread, I have learned something invaluable!! One calls a friend before hand and determines a time that she needs to call her friend back to let them know that everything is ok. Sometimes an innocent phrase (need not be cryptic) is needed to be in that reponse so the conversation is not masten to be replied in duress. Some have a cell phone setup that the friend calls her back. I am sure there are many here that will offer their version. Ross ©º°¨¨°º©

pearlmoongirl -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (3/17/2007 10:19:32 PM)
As a submissive, my greatest fear is for my safety - of finally working up the courage to meet a Dom in private, and then to find out He's not a Dom but Someone simply out to brutalize women. Then again, my second greatest fear is nearly neck-in-neck with the first - that in the end, I will lose courage and be too afraid, hesitant, worried, etc. to even try to meet Someone. So perhaps my greatest fear is really, simply, fear. Hm. ~ pmg

SirDiscipliner69 -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (3/17/2007 11:06:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pearlmoongirl As a submissive, my greatest fear is for my safety - of finally working up the courage to meet a Dom in private, and then to find out He's not a Dom but Someone simply out to brutalize women. Then again, my second greatest fear is nearly neck-in-neck with the first - that in the end, I will lose courage and be too afraid, hesitant, worried, etc. to even try to meet Someone. So perhaps my greatest fear is really, simply, fear. Hm. Yes that can be a very real fear and a situation that could happen. Follow your gut feeling and do what you feel is right. Sometimes that gut feeling can be a life saver...worse comes to worse maybe you weren't meant to meet that person at this point in your life. Fears are to be taken and worked on..maybe not over come but figured out why they are fears. Some fears are based on rejection in the past, some from self esteme and some from things or occasions that we did not know enough to connect the dots. Fear of the unknown and know can be to different things or one in the same. Ross ©º°¨¨°º©

myobedience -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (3/18/2007 6:42:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SirDiscipliner69 As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? examples: * Being abandoned * your dom finding another submissive withy your help and leaving you Ross Emotionally abandonment is the worst !! Being told to find another to play with, then being rejected, never being told how pleased he was with me that I was so obedient and that he preferred her over me. Carrying on a 4 month relationship at the same time he still demanded my obedience to his kinky self absorbed sexual wonton lustful fetishes. Not just once...... Fear can motivate or fear can kill the very sprit and soul. Fear can create a victim complex and keep one crippled a long time. Or fear can be changed to something positive and move on.... Sir wrote this to me ~~ "A fear of failure will keep all of us from trying various things in our lives. Sometimes that fear is real and justified. Most times it is not. Failure is horrible. Failure is a disaster. It is gut wrentching, and depressing. I do not fail well. Sadly, I do fail from time to time. Failure may temporarily slow me, but never stop me. If I allow failure to stop me, then I have truly failed. If I continue to strive, to move forward, then failure is defeated. To be greater than failure, I must move on. I will always choose to move on."

BlackSakura -> RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise? (3/18/2007 11:16:25 PM)
Falling in love with Him..[:o]

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