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Bignipplessub -> “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 2:31:23 PM)

[:D]The question should have been “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?!
Let’s be real about the life style we lead and come out of fantasy land. I do not do chores for any Dom, because I have always had to do house work for my children. In this point in my life, I will hire an assistance, house cleaner or a male sub, anybody but me to clean a house.

Now after dealing with the children mess and we know children are little hurricanes, do you really want to clean your Dom’s house.

If there are many of you out there that feels different can you please come over and clean my HOUSE!!!! I am a submissive



Aileen68 -> RE: “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 2:33:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Bignipplessub

do you really want to clean your Dom’s house.


If that's what he told me to do, then yes I would.



ownedgirlie -> RE: “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 2:40:49 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Bignipplessub

Now after dealing with the children mess and we know children are little hurricanes, do you really want to clean your Dom’s house.

If there are many of you out there that feels different can you please come over and clean my HOUSE!!!! I am a submissive


I don't have children, but after working all day, doing my homework (school), and cleaning my own home, I would give anything to drive two hours to clean my Master's house.  This isn't a house-cleaning fetish, so no I will not be cleaning your house.  This is a slave who wants to do as much as she can for her owner.  I would love to do his laundry, cook his meals and clean his home. To do something that directly benefits him and makes his life easier?  Sign me up!



BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 3:13:29 PM)

I'm with owned on this one.  Anything to make His life easier. 





Bignipplessub -> RE: “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 3:42:32 PM)

But what about your life...... you are tired, you have dealt with the children, cleaning up after the children,running to the hospital with the children and now clean up after your dom……….



Wulfchyld -> RE: “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 3:44:34 PM)

Hmmm.... are we talking Dom/mes or lazy people who happen to "own" you?



domahpet -> RE: “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 3:47:34 PM)

im split, i agree with BNS and owned, can i pass on my house and go clean His? :D



AquaticSub -> RE: “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 3:55:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Bignipplessub

But what about your life...... you are tired, you have dealt with the children, cleaning up after the children,running to the hospital with the children and now clean up after your dom……….


I don't think you get it: That makes some submissives/slaves, in fact many, happy. I'm in the middle of trying to graduate from college with an art major and a theater minor. For those who don't know, that's a lot of extra hours and you are more likely to find me in the art department then you are to find me at home. But I still come home and do my damnest to clean up. I'm lucky - My dominant knows when I'm pushed beyond my limits and he orders me to bed or to sit down and relax.

We're not perfect, and I imagine that most people who say they are always happy to do cleaning are lying. But that doesn't really matter. What matters is the positives of an outside-the-bedroom BDSM relationship outweigh this relatively minor negative. As long as the request is reasonable (he's not asking you to scrub the walls at midnight when you've got to get up for class/work/daycare/school/whatever at 5 AM), I really don't see what the problem is. As always, if you are unhappy with your personal circumstances then you should discuss with your dominant. Not everyone is a service sub/slave after all.



ownedgirlie -> RE: “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 3:57:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Bignipplessub

But what about your life...... you are tired, you have dealt with the children, cleaning up after the children,running to the hospital with the children and now clean up after your dom……….


My life is managed by he who decides how much work will be in it.  If a Dom is unwilling to take into account a submissives competing priorities and help prioritize them for her, then the issue is in their dynamic - not whether or not a house needs cleaning.

Wulfchyld, I can't speak to the lazy Dom issue, since mine has an intensely busy schedule.  I am happy to ease his day any way I can.




Bignipplessub -> RE: “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 4:08:19 PM)

I work with children, and the children cry to me all the time, telling me that Mommy loves her man more than she loves me.  A Dom should be secondary to your children. A child’s well being should be first. I explain to my Dom that my life goes in this order, God is first in my life, then my needs come next, then my child’s need are next, then my Dom’s needs are met.

I will not do anything for any one being a single parent who is raising her son on her own wear my self down.



aSlavesLife -> RE: “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 4:23:11 PM)

My slave gets what might be called sick days, such as when she has a migraine. But I wouldn't own a slave that has children to begin with. If there were little ones running around, her attention would be divided. And if I do not come first to her, then she would not be a slave to me. I want a slave, not a kinky wife.



talibahh -> RE: “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 4:23:39 PM)

as usual owned, i'm with you [:)]
 
i would give anything to be cleaning my Master's house if that meant i were with Him and doing things for Him to make His life easier and Him happy... Couldn't agree more that if He was "unwilling to take into account a submissives competing priorities and help prioritze them for her, then the issue IS in their dynamic - not whether or not a house needs cleaning"

tali 



mymasterssub69 -> RE: “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 4:24:31 PM)

well, i have 2 UM girls with one who is a traumatic brain injured and learning disabled. Daddy completely understands most of my day and time is centered around them - from attending IEP meetings and doctor appointments to choosing new schools for them (both are graduating - high school and K in the Fall). plus i get a major bonus because Daddy's a doctor ...sometimes He's able to advise me about her meds and treatment. so i figure about 75% of my time is Mommy and the rest belongs to Daddy when they are with the ex for a visit.



talibahh -> RE: “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 4:31:12 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Bignipplessub

I work with children, and the children cry to me all the time, telling me that Mommy loves her man more than she loves me.  A Dom should be secondary to your children. A child’s well being should be first. I explain to my Dom that my life goes in this order, God is first in my life, then my needs come next, then my child’s need are next, then my Dom’s needs are met.

I will not do anything for any one being a single parent who is raising her son on her own wear my self down.


being a single mum of two young unmentionables, myself, i can totally understand what you are saying... but its like owned said... a good Dom/Master considers ALL of His slave/submissive and He helps to enhance her life by leading by a good example and taking over some of the control and responsiblity (depending on eachs dynamic as to how much/to what extent, etc)... but if a Dom/Master is not considering ALL of you and your current circumstances and helping you prioritorize or even understand them, and is placing demands on you that are only adding to your stress and woes, then perhaps He's not the right Dom for you? Could be wrong, but thats just how i think...
 
i wish you luck and a hug... kids ARE hard work and demanding of our time, especially when we are on our own... it IS tough. If you want to email me on the other side, you're more than welcome.
 
hugs,
tali [:)]



BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 4:31:37 PM)

I don't have kids, but if I did, I'd make sure the relationship dynamics and responsibilities were clear from the start.  Ages, jobs, household setups and alot of other things play a role in how things play out.

As long as you and your dominant are cool with how things are going, that's all that counts, eh! [:)]






hisannabelle -> RE: “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 4:44:43 PM)

if he told me to clean his house, i would. but he likes to clean; he's always done it, he's incredibly neat, and it's relaxing to him to get those tasks done. so thankfully he's never had me clean his house...i have enough trouble keeping my apartment clean :P but yes, if he told me to, i would. then again, if there are other factors at stake (in our case it's my health and already insane schedule, in your case it's your children), i would not get into or stay in a d/s relationship with someone who could not accomodate those factors. it's important for the dominant half to also be understanding about your needs and abilities, as well as the limitations of your situation.



xGoddessx -> RE: “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 4:55:43 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Bignipplessub

God is first in my life, then my needs come next, then my child’s need are next, then my Dom’s needs are met.



I can see your children and God coming before your Dom..but I guess it doesn't seem like to me its much of a D/s relationship or M/s..whatever..if you always put your needs ahead of his.  I guess I don't understand this.  I am not saying you aren't submissive, its just different. 
 
I will be the first one to say that labels and what others think doesn't matter, that is between him and you..but maybe you might want to evaluate if that is the type of relationship you want this time in your life.  It sounds like you have a lot on your plate already, and perhaps this isn't good for you right now, but might be more later.
 
Please don't take this as a blast, cause thats not how it was meant.  It seems that you have other priorities right now (nothing wrong with that)and maybe you should just stay focused on those.
 
Best Wishes,
Drea



starshineowned -> RE: “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 4:56:48 PM)

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A Dom should be secondary to your children. A child’s well being should be first.

Okies gotta chime in on this one. To my understanding of more previous family times in history..in a family dynamic..the Man came first, then the children, then the wife. Talking with my grandma who is now pushing 97..this was just how it was in those days from her time as a child growing up to her being a mother of 5 girls.  Even growing up for me..mom took care of dad first but they both took care of us children. We knew where we stood to, and it wasn't before dad or mom.

If you are in a dynamic where the Dominant is being trusted to control and run your life to the benefit of not only them but of you both..then I just do not understand how this trust could not be seen as being just as trust worthy of the Dominants trust and judgement of rearing children. You trust the Dominant to make decisions, and take care of the very nurturer, and comforter for the children..yet not the children themselves? I don't get it.

Well Wishes
starshine
Happy slave of Master Delvin



FelinePersuasion -> RE: “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 4:58:09 PM)

since I only get to see daddy once a week, if cleaning his house ment I was over there with him, and I wasn't dead tired I'd put up with some light cleaning to be with him. I don't qualify to answer though cause I don't have children.



marieToo -> RE: “slaves who have children do they get sick days”!??!?!?! (2/4/2007 5:10:37 PM)

I would clean for him.  I wouldn't find it unreasonable at all, even if I was tired.  The masochist in me would convert something like this into pleasure almost instantly.  



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