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First thought of BDSM?

5 to 10 years of age

30% (42)

11 to late teens

29% (41)

20 to 30 years of age

21% (30)

30 to 40 years of age

1% (2)

40 and up

8% (12)

OK those who were born into it

9% (13)

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RE: First thought of BDSM? And a comment about subspace. - 5/17/2004 1:45:07 PM

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When I was a kid I was aroused long ago by an episode of Star Trek called "mirror mirror". If anyone here is a TOS fan, they'll remember that show concerned a brutal alternative universe where Spock had a beard and Uhura wore a belly-baring top and a slave bracelet. And the ambiance was bdsm for sure...

Which brings me to the subject of subspace. In Star Trek, subspace is kind of an "ether" or medium used for communication across great distances. Kind of like radio band. Or internet.

So I do think its odd that a term to describe a communication medium would also be used to describe an endorphin state where, as I've experienced it, not a lot of communication goes on.

I think whoever invented the term subspace for bdsm use was a Star Trek fan with a fine sense of irony. And he/she liked the episode mirror mirror.

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RE: First thought of BDSM? And a comment about subspace. - 5/17/2004 3:50:29 PM

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Not a bad theory January

another side note - anyone else think that at least one of the writers of CSI (original) is in the lifestyle? Two whole episodes centered around a BDSM house, numerous references throughout the whole series - and usually shown in a positive light ( unless of course the criminal is the one doing the tying up )

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 5/17/2004 10:22:16 PM

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Being of the older generation... Does anyone remember Dale Evans...LOL Spin and Marty? Somehow... the games of Cowboys and Indians in My neighborhood were a bit different than some. It was all about tieing the boys to a fence somewhere and proving that they were bad. Just my parents luck to move me into a group of budding FemDoms...LOL
I believe that some of these poor "cowboys and bad guys" are still in therapy.

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 5/18/2004 10:28:38 AM

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quote:

I believe that some of these poor "cowboys and bad guys" are still in therapy.

Do you blame them? A submissive forced to tie up and humiliate another, or a Dominant tied up and humiliated, all this before the onset of puberty or during the masturbate 19 times a day and try to screw anything that moves teenage years, would scar any human psyche.

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 5/20/2004 9:09:46 PM

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3½. First memory I have actually revolves around tying up my dolls and my mother *discovering* me. Her expression has been burned into my mind, lol.

So yanno, I've always been this way really.

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 5/20/2004 9:13:50 PM

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Glad to know i wasn't the only twisted kid playing with Barbie!

My sister and i, to keep ourselves entertained during long car trips used to strip the Barbie and Ken dolls, draw on nipples and pubic hair and arrange them in sexual positions!

LOL, i'm quite sure my parents got some strange looks from passerbys!

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 5/21/2004 4:37:38 AM

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quote:

Glad to know i wasn't the only twisted kid playing with Barbie!

Well, my sister, cousin, and I went in for troll dolls instead of Barbie.

And my first humiliation play was hanging my friend's sister's Raggedy Ann and Andy (4 foot tall) dolls from nooses on their outdoor chinning bar.

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 6/1/2004 5:11:40 AM

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I know I was very young with my first thoughts, it's good to hear that I wasn't the only one. It's funny how we think about certain things at a young age and think were weid or at least I did. It is a wonderful thing when we can relate to others.

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 6/29/2004 8:37:06 AM

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Thank you whoever asked to have the 'born into it' category put up.
Where my family was seemingly traditional 'man in charge' and I always said I would court my mate and marry them and be the housewife, I never really liked the idea (the things we do to appease our rents I tell you)
I remember watching movies and always getting uberly turned on by the scenes where the hero got captured and tortured or god knows what else. I remember sitting through movies like that and squirming myself almost off the couch, even at a young age.

Oh the barbies! I remember having two of the girls go at it once ;) (I had like 15 barbies) and of course the traditional, though it wasn't till after I got rid of them that I got into females being superior.

Of course what also helped was this one 'caveman' type movie. I don't even know the name of it, but the guy goes around chosing his mate by groping them o.o and they showed this on public tv. I was shocked...and my gram almost had a fit

My first 'experiences' were like someone else mentioned, friends tying each other up and seeing who could get out the quickest. I came up with some damned good knots, but they came apart too easy. While the others got out quickly, their knots were still intact, just loose, mine were all undone and I was holding up the string or whatever we used.

Heh, long post from me. Enjoy!

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 6/30/2004 2:53:32 AM

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i think for me the slooooow realization began at 7, when i fell in love with the gory world of opera... the melodrama was mesmerizing, and i spent way too many hours spinning fanciful plot lines for my gothic/medieval lego-set people to act out. (lego-girl here, never had barbies) something in me yearned to join the ranks of the swooning screaming ladies who were abused, tortured and killed for their loves, who willingly gave all they could sacrifice, who dared to bleed in flesh, in spirit and in beautiful beautiful heart-wrenching music.

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 6/30/2004 4:07:36 PM

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I think it was late in grammar school when I fantasized about being taken, stripped, tied up by a group of boys or girls and be poked, slapped, and tweezed by them

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 7/1/2004 10:21:26 AM

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When I was seven, my cousin was i er visiting. We were outside playing cowboys and indians. I "captured" her, and tied her to a tree. When I looked at her struggling, the whole game changed for me. I didn't know why I felt that, but just that I did. She cried when I refused to untie her. My mother heard her cries, and came out. I was punished, for doing it, but I never forgot it, either.

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 7/2/2004 8:21:59 PM

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It all started many moons ago when watched dracula, yes the old hammer horrors with christopher lee. All those heaveing bosoms, all that biting and blood. Then i found role play with my first boyfriend, well then there was no going back ha ha. love, shadowlands

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 7/3/2004 1:01:29 AM

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I am a born protector and problem solver. But as to BDSM, that came when I struck out on my own, following college. Away from the influence of family, I learned that my mmm interest in always being the one in the post position was much more accepted in the D/s world than the rednecked vanilla one where I lived for my first 21 years. Laughing the next 21 years were much more enjoyable. And has continued to be so as time passes.Sundew

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 8/30/2004 12:11:03 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: poeticsurrender

i was into "Bondage Barbie" when i was about 8. i would tie her up on hangers and Ken would torture her. (no wonder i'm in therapy)

Oh man! I'm glad I'm not the only one!!!

Except it was my sister's Barbie, and my GI Joe. (Those dolls were so much bigger way back then, with articulated joints! They could be placed in so many interesting positions!)

So I tortured Barbie at the age of 9 or 10, based on the ideas from my next door neighber's porno magazines, and along with some "AMAZING" comics that usually portrayed images of helpless women being tied up by Nazi scum. (Sometimes it was American fliers being tortured by Nazi Dominatrixes. Very "Heavy Metal comic" style.)

Plus I had a lot of kite string which happened to be the right scale size to be rope for the hapless Barbie.

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 8/30/2004 6:39:19 AM

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Greetings,

i think that i'd kinda fall into the born to it category. Just because i remember thinking/dreaming (i used to keep things/imagery/fantasy in mind just before i fell asleep so that i would dream about it that night) about bondage especially at a very young age. But then perhaps the reason i say born into it aslo is because i don't seem to have the the ability to link specific memories to specific times of my youth as others seem to have. (i remember very few things from my childhood and they all kind of run together in a chronological stream) Guess my brother smacked my head on the ground one too many times!

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 8/30/2004 2:51:01 PM

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There was another thread entitled "Did your desires?" Anyhow, here is a relevant excerpt from my post there.

I have a few memories I guess. One is very early, five or six, when we lived in a townhouse complex and I insisted all boys and the two girls in my complex call me Queen. They were to bring me presents like cookies from their house or stickers or something like that. They always complied otherwise they would find themselves ostracised by the others. I even had one shine my patent leather shoes once.

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 8/30/2004 6:16:12 PM

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I recall watching the Dudley Doright cartoons, and thinking it would be fun to be Snidely Whiplash tying up Nell and putting her on the railroad tracks.

Hey, at least my inspiration wasn't the Three Stooges -- Moe and his 2 subs.

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 2/20/2008 11:27:47 PM

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When I was a kid I saw a cartoon where some piglets were hiding in cubby holes in the wall, with just their asses sticking out, and a wolf came in and devoured them. I liked they way they had to submit to him. It seems to me that it was the first time I had thoughts about domination (This isn't to say that my fantasies involve actually devouring anyone...)

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 2/20/2008 11:44:14 PM

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ah memories....but the one that i got spanked for was when my mom found me playing with two boys we were all about five, they were dressed and i was totally naked.... what she did not know is that they were taking turns bossing me to do things to myself and to them...and that i was really turned on....her spanking me in front of them was only adding shame, pain and public humiliation to the "scene"...

i still come thinking of that sunny, Sunday afternoon.

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