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First thought of BDSM?

5 to 10 years of age

30% (42)

11 to late teens

29% (41)

20 to 30 years of age

21% (30)

30 to 40 years of age

1% (2)

40 and up

8% (12)

OK those who were born into it

9% (13)

Total Votes : 140

(last vote on : 7/4/2010 3:02:10 PM)
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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 2/20/2008 11:56:30 PM

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Just an FYI - this poll is 3 1/2 years old.

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 2/21/2008 12:08:33 AM

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thats ok celeste, it still hot reading everyones first times and i dont mind a little necromance....

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 2/21/2008 2:04:01 AM

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When I was in 2nd or 3rd grade I would have fantasies about being a princess who was captured and made to be a slave- I always finished just as my prince was riding up to the castle to save me. When I got a little older I would cut up pieces of clothing and tie my wrists and ankles and gag myself and then... ya know... And when I had my first serious relationship I tried to incorporate kink and have my boyfriend dominate me- which I think he was uncomfortable with and thought I was weird or crazy- so I pretty much blocked those kinds of thoughts up until recently... And now I'm a slave

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 2/21/2008 2:57:51 AM

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My first thoughts of bdsm never had that title attached to it. I had no idea of what the term meant until I was 18 or 19 yrs. old. I remember being 6 or 7 and riding my pony through the fields trying to "get away from the man that wanted to capture me and keep me". I had know idea of what he would do once he caught me but I do know I read way too many fairy tales. In fact, I still read them and can see why I have such an interesting fantasy life. Thank you Brothers Grimm!

also......My first bf had no understanding why I wanted him to taking me from behind, he thought that made me nasty! lol

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 2/21/2008 3:11:37 AM

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I was raised on 70's and 80's cops shows. Where it seemed like every week there were several of them that had rape themes. These shows allways caught my eye and got me excited. I was not into the abuse and beating of the women that was often potrayed but the idea of being able to take a women in such a rough manner while holding her down by my own strength as she struggled against me was very intoxicating to my young mind. And the people in these kind of sex scenes always seemed much more excited and into what they were doing than the people in normal sex scenes.

I can remember one in paticular where this guy put on the Mr. smooth routine to pick this girl up at a bar. And invites her to a party he is going to. As they enter the house two of his friends come toward her with leering smiles on their faces. The girl asks where is the party. And the first guy says from behind her "You are the party" And the look on this girls face as she realizes she is about to be gang-banged was a perfect blend of fear,excitement. shock, humiliation and what the hell is going on here.She tries to run. but the two goons catch her and start fondling her as they drag her up the stairs. With the first guy watching with a smile on his face.It was damn hard to control the lump in my pants with my family in the same room. I wanted to be that first guy. The one who was controling it all

Like a previous poster. It would be many years later when I was reading the letters forum in Penthouse that I first began to realize that there were actually women who liked having sex in this rough style without any control of the situation. And that you could be a normal person and enjoy sex like this. You didnt have to be some crazy rapist.

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 2/21/2008 3:49:23 AM

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I can't say for sure about any thoughts before last year (age 27). Sure, I had fantasies that with revisionist eyes I could interpret as being domination fantasies, probably as early as puberty, but they can easily be interpreted as vanilla as well.

I was most likely born with the urge, but it didn't become focused until I knew what it was. It wasn't guilt free until I had faced certain issues in myself, and I'd like to say that those were my first real BDSM thoughts.

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 2/21/2008 6:03:46 AM

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umm seven years old, I tied my next door neighbour to his cherry tree with two skipping ropes, because he wouldnt stop bugging me, then I went home and watched him from my bedroom window, the struggling and eventually his tears kept my nose pressed to the window for the longest time, with some wonderful feelings I got into all kinds of trouble for leaving him in the garden like that...he used to follow me around all the time after that tho. My sister says she was my first sub, but I put that down to me being the oldest (Im not THAT bossy) well ok I can be. I also had access to my dads stash of porn, he used to work for the company who printed two big mags in the UK and would bring home the freebies. I used to read the letters, and wonder why there werent any pictures of men, sighs. Had many kinky occurances growing up, read several books involving fem domination but didnt realise there was a lifestyle until mid thirties and the internet.
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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 2/22/2008 8:42:38 AM

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perils of pauline cartoons. i wanted to be taken by the bad guy. then i grew up and found myself always in charge. no one could top me. then He came along. one look , three words, and i was on my knees, soon collared. soon happier than i have ever been.

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RE: First thought of BDSM? - 2/29/2008 8:33:07 PM

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I was about 10 when I first remember wanting to be "that girl" that was kidnapped and tied up. I didnt really know what it was that I liked until my early teens and was came across the internet and books. I used to stay up late on the weekends and watch those B rated movies. There was almost always a scene where the girl was kidnapped or held hostage and tied up. Those are always fun memories to come back to from time to time...lol.
It was such a relief to find that there were others out there like me.