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RE: Going rates... - 3/11/2005 8:49:13 AM   
TallDarkAndWitty


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The thing is, I have been going down to Paddles and doing it for free...*smile*
Taggard


Well plus/minus travel expenses, entry fees, toy costs.


Exactly...I have been paying for the honor of doing this stuff. Is there some sort of union?

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RE: Going rates... - 3/11/2005 10:58:03 AM   
Voltare


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ORIGINAL: Leonidas

Well, see, if you could combine the two, you'd really have it made:

'sssssssssssssssssssssss...*crack*' I told you to step on the down beat you miserable little maggot! now, again, position!


Combine the two...

I was thinking more like *thud* "what are you DOING? You KNOW that's not the right dll, now go back and debug it RIGHT!

Taggard,

I'm in a similar (though hardly identical) situation. I love teaching English here, and would do it for free if I didn't have to eat. Having said that, there's definate advantages to getting paid for what you do, though some definate disadvatages.

The advantages are, of course, getting paid to do something you would do anyway. That money could go towards better equipment, better space, or a nice relaxing weekend in an exotic location. People who pay are often more serious about what they are getting involved with then people who do it for 'fun' as well.

On the other hand, when someone pays for a session, they are often more demanding about their particular interests - something you have to be very conscious of. He might ask for a fetish you are either not interested in, or something that bores the pants off you, but as a 'paying customer' you have an obligation to go with it. On the other hand, if you make it clear you are not doing this as a 'Pro' you will have a great deal more flexibility in selecting what work you might wish to take (or not.)

In the end, it's just like anything - if you enjoy doing it, then great. If you find it takes something away from your enjoyment, then nobody is holding a gun to your head. As mentioned earlier, I think $100.00 is way underpriced. I would suggest no less then the $200.00 range for one Dom, though naturally this depends on the means that the client has availible. If you would want to work with them even without payment, then you could aways offer to do it for less.

Enjoy!

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RE: Going rates... - 3/11/2005 3:12:03 PM   
LuvSponge


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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty


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ORIGINAL: LuvSponge
(Coulda been undercover)


Undercover what? What law would I have been breaking if I tied the guy up and dripped wax on him? Just curious...


(What I MEANT to say was...coulda been changelings)

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RE: Going rates... - 3/11/2005 3:15:00 PM   
LuvSponge


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Hey Suz, would you look at your boy's profile (Luvsponge), and tell him no self respecting woman will EVER reply.
He says "when you can be exactly like her, I'm in". M


Hmmmm....so maybe THAT's the reason I get all that hate mail....


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RE: Going rates... - 3/11/2005 5:00:46 PM   
MistressFire70


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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

Is it frowned upon to use a place like Paddles to do a scene like this? Should I look into renting a space?


I doubt that it's a good idea to do a paid session in a public club. In a lot of places, this can be seen as prostitution. But, if it's a private dungeon that you're going into, it might be different. Of course, the laws for that area could be very different than my area (I hope they are!). Read the waiver you had to sign (if any) or check with the owners first.

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RE: Going rates... - 3/11/2005 9:03:58 PM   
LuvSponge


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...and cried the first time he saw someone get flogged (in a hotel room) because it was 'so beautiful.


(What I never told her was...I had only moments ago realized that my net profit that year was only 67% of total sales, not in fact the 70.375% that I had presumed and I was a little melancholy at the time)

It was perfectly natural to cry after that.

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RE: Going rates... - 3/12/2005 12:49:22 AM   
BlkTallFullfig


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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig
Hey Suz, would you look at your boy's profile (Luvsponge), and tell him no self respecting woman will EVER reply.
He says "when you can be exactly like her, I'm in". M

Hmmmm....so maybe THAT's the reason I get all that hate mail....

I hope not, don't think they'll get you love either though.
I'm not suggesting your words breed hateful thoughts, but at least in women like me, they inspire thoughts of "is he Farking kiddin' daring me to "be exactly like" some other woman when I'm my own fabulous self? Suz says you get plenty of love mail too, so I shaln't feel sorry for you. M


< Message edited by BlkTallFullfig -- 3/12/2005 12:55:01 AM >

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RE: Going rates... - 3/12/2005 6:05:49 AM   
LuvSponge


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but at least in women like me, they inspire thoughts of "is he Farking kiddin' daring me to "be exactly like" some other woman when I'm my own fabulous self? Suz says you get plenty of love mail too, so I shaln't feel sorry for you. M



Das right...don't be thinking just cause I'm a sub, I don't get totally inundated...for instance...last year between April and July I got something on the order of 2 whole emails thanks to that profile. Then, before Christmas...I got a flood...another email.

My profile is simply my way of saying..."I enjoy this forum, I enjoy (some of) the people herein...some time back I met someone who opened doors to my soul that I didn't know existed, taught me things (that she's still to this day convinced I wasn't listening to), still pisses the living SHIT out of me on a daily basis, and until someone with that much impact on my life comes into my circle of influence again, I like things just the way they are thank you very much, and I'm quite happy being single at the moment, but if you do feel like entering, be aware...I don't bite, but I am used to the finer things in life".

Some people read my profile and take offense. Some comment they wish someone felt like that about them (I had those people shot). Some think I'm an erudite asshole (I don't tend to correct them...and my ex Domme seems to agree with them hahahahahahahahaha...but she's simply misinformed and an unabashed shirt stealer).

All in all, I'm just very thankful for the insight into my own world that she gave me, and as brief as it turned out to be, it had an enormous impact on me, and a lasting one.

(Now if she'd just fucking get out of my %@))&&$%$ HAYUD!!!!!!!!!!!).



It's a good thang.

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RE: Going rates... - 3/12/2005 12:53:30 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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ORIGINAL: LuvSponge
Das right...don't be thinking just cause I'm a sub, I don't get totally inundated...for instance...last year between April and July I got something on the order of 2 whole emails thanks to that profile. Then, before Christmas...I got a flood...another email.

I'm quite happy being single at the moment

Well as long as you're happy being single, than I'm very happy you're getting the desired results, and yes your profile as is stated should work to keep you that way a long time..
P.S. So that I don't continue to highjack TDW's thread, check your bulkmail. M

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RE: Going rates... - 3/12/2005 9:45:28 PM   
MizSuz


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ORIGINAL: LuvSponge


an unabashed shirt stealer.



Your shirt was secunded. That's what you get for leaving it behind buried under the dirty clothes in HER closet where you had no reason to be!

Next week it's going to line her catbox. I'll bet she'll be willing to send it back to you after that.


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RE: Going rates... - 3/12/2005 9:48:49 PM   
MizSuz


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ORIGINAL: LuvSponge


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...and cried the first time he saw someone get flogged (in a hotel room) because it was 'so beautiful.


(What I never told her was...I had only moments ago realized that my net profit that year was only 67% of total sales, not in fact the 70.375% that I had presumed and I was a little melancholy at the time)

It was perfectly natural to cry after that.



And everyone present was grateful for the gag.

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RE: Going rates... - 3/13/2005 4:52:58 AM   
LuvSponge


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Status: offline 		It was, I admit, one of the most beautiful things I ever saw. Something I'll never forget, and something without this kind of forum, I'd never be able to explain to anyone else.

It's amazing, almost everyone I've ever known would have been frightened, concerned, eager to call the police...yet I couldn't take my eyes off what was happening right in front of me. Inbetween being mesmerized, stunned, overwhelmed and so incredibly happy for the person being beaten, surrounded by a roomful of a dozen or more people also rapt in attention, locked on the activities, first one tear fell, then another, and in a minute or so I couldn't breathe, balling my eyes out.

A few people next to me, knowing I was entirely new to this kind of thing came over and calmed me, pet my hair lightly, told me "it's okay...let it out"...and all I could do was look up at them with bewilderment ("I don't understand what's happening!! Why is this affecting me so? This is soooo wrong as to everything I've ever been taught, yet it feels so absolutely right!"), totally helpless, the person who was in charge of the event looked at me and smiled knowingly, and I just sat there like a baby and cried. I didn't seem to be able to stop myself.

To this day, it's one of the most incredible, beautiful, loving things I've ever seen. When it was over, the recipient looked at the one who had done all the heavy lifting with a look of complete and total love, absolute fealty, and all I could think of at the moment was..."how can I just melt into the furniture and stay here forever?"

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RE: Going rates... - 3/14/2005 11:30:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		...*blinks back tears of happiness*....I only wish every one could have that kind of memory and introduction

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RE: Going rates... - 3/19/2005 3:23:40 PM   
LuvSponge


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...*blinks back tears of happiness*....I only wish every one could have that kind of memory and introduction


Well, yes...that and a good paint job that lasts more than 6 years.

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RE: Going rates... - 12/1/2008 7:19:31 AM   
PrincessKaz


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Status: offline 		In the Uk dom rates are anything between the very low end of £100 GBP per hoiur up to £300 GBP

Many doms of course do reduced rates for longer sessions.

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RE: Going rates... - 12/1/2008 7:25:00 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		$100 doesn't cover your time setting up the scene or cleaning up afterwards. You have to figure another hour for that. Double the rate if you start getting a lot of interest.

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RE: Going rates... - 12/1/2008 7:29:39 AM   
Lynnxz


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RE: Going rates... - 12/1/2008 7:44:49 AM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		I have charged for various sexual and bdsm "services" and having made furniture for a variety of pro-dommes as well as counting a number of them as close friends I am familiar with the business.  There is very little call for straight male dominants but I have begun to wonder if that is simply that the market hasn't been correctly approached.  There are women of means and taste who appreciate the finer things and prefer to do certain things without emotional strings just as certain men do.

I think that a talented male dominant with the reputation to support that statement could easily charge $250 an hour although because one would be dealing with women, most "take" longer than men and so accommodations around time would have to be made.

I was recently almost employed for a rather interesting evening.  A client wanted to listen to another woman being tortured and pleasured and was going to pay all my expenses in addition to my time just so she could listen.  She had even procured the women upon whom I was to lavish the pain and pleasure.  Unfortunately the timing didn't work for me and I had to decline the offer.

I think it is high time that men break into this business!

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RE: Going rates... - 12/1/2008 8:37:59 AM   
CalifChick


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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty
Well...E is my partner, and I doubt I would even get a second look without her.



Mr. Anderson, your doubt is groundless.


Cali
(wonders if Mr. A's rates are still $100 an hour after three years....)



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