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going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/10/2007 6:01:35 PM   
mistressfran


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Status: offline 		any avice for a dom using a strap on for the first time
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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/10/2007 6:42:45 PM   
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any avice for a dom using a strap on for the first time


Welcome to the wonderful world of taking a man! You are in for a real treat. Some advice:

* Make sure you have a harness that is comfortable! Make sure you like the way it feels and like the way it looks on you. Wear it for a period of time to get used to how it feels and looks.

* Use a LOT of lubricant, especially if your man is also new to this.  Don't expect easy, instant penetration - it will take some time and adjustment before you get into the "swing" of it and find an easy, comfortable pace.

* Don't feel like the whole experience is limited to penetration.  There's so much more to using a strap on, including making him suck it off before lube and penetration, making him worship him, slapping him tauntingly with it, rubbing it against him.  Make him crazy with humiliation and lust before you actually fuck him with it. Oh, and of course make him beg for it.

* ENJOY IT!  I can cum from fucking a man in the ass, even if I don't use a double sided dildo.  The thrusting, the emotions, the entire act is incredibly erotic.

Akasha


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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/10/2007 7:01:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		Even though I've only done it a couple times [and yes, it incredibly erotic!] make *sure* not to use too big a size. It makes a difference in his stretching capacity and if he is used to be used thus.
Akasha- I have a double sided dildo, how does One use it- or are there ones made for harness?

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/10/2007 7:23:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		They also make an anal lube with a desensitizer in it.  Helps with the newbies.  You should be able to get it at your local sex shop. 

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/10/2007 7:29:33 PM   
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They also make an anal lube with a desensitizer in it.  Helps with the newbies.  You should be able to get it at your local sex shop. 



That crap takes all the fun out of strapon training.........

Diane

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/10/2007 7:34:37 PM   
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They also make an anal lube with a desensitizer in it.  Helps with the newbies.  You should be able to get it at your local sex shop. 

But you shouldn't, especially if you're just starting out with assplay.  Diane's comment aside, pain during anal sex is a warning that something bad might be happening.  You don't want to use a lube that can mask those signs.

~stef

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/10/2007 7:42:20 PM   
DianeB269


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Status: offline 		Just start with a very small strapon, lots of lube and take it very, very slow. All my subs really like
a lube called Slippery Stuff Gel.


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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/10/2007 8:10:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		a little more pratical advise.. dont forget the foreplay.. its call an enema

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/10/2007 8:19:58 PM   
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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/10/2007 8:38:49 PM   
asubmissiveheart


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Status: offline 		One word of advice, Mistress Fran ma'am?  Take it easy!
Thank you.

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/10/2007 11:43:54 PM   
Tslaveboy


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Status: offline 		Take it slow. When I was preparing for popping my anal cherry, the dommes started with a simple prostate massage. That was fantastic and if the domme knows how to do it well, will get the man excited for better things to come. You can also buy a graduated butt plug trainer set to start stretching the anus. The key thing is that the man must learn how to relax as he is penetrated. So you just go from smaller butt plugs to larger ones.

You can also use vegetables covered in condoms with lubricants if you don't have the funds for butt plugs. Skinny carrots to start, working up to cucumbers. Cheap but effective.

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/11/2007 1:09:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		What Stef said, and use a good lubricant...  I like Eros silicone if using a condom on the dildo, or Maximus waterbased if not using a condom.    M

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/11/2007 1:27:55 AM   
LadyZee


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Status: offline 		Aakasha gave you great advice, especially this:
* Make sure you have a harness that is comfortable! Make sure you like the way it feels and like the way it looks on you. Wear it for a period of time to get used to how it feels and looks.

In my rarely humble opinion, learning to be one with your strap on really is key to your comfort--and pleasure for both of you.  Taking the time to figure out the best settings and fit for you really matters and will allow you to really be in control -- of your "cock" and your partner....


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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/11/2007 1:30:29 AM   
BlkTallFullfig


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Status: offline 		I agree...  One of mine is a soft leather harness which I hate, and never use.   M

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/11/2007 5:46:45 AM   
DianeB269


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Status: offline 		This guide might be of help..

http://www.take-it-like-a-man.com/


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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/11/2007 6:08:32 AM   
DianeB269


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Status: offline 		Also have a look at the Nexus Jr. dildo.

http://www.goodvibes.com/






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< Message edited by DianeB269 -- 2/11/2007 6:11:36 AM >

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/11/2007 6:19:47 AM   
mistressfran


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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/11/2007 6:22:50 AM   
DianeB269


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ORIGINAL: mistressfran

i want to thank you all for  replying to my ??? i am as nerves as he is


I also sent you a message on the otherside.


Diane

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/11/2007 6:31:18 AM   
mistressfran


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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/11/2007 7:09:31 AM   
DianeB269


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ORIGINAL: mistressfran

yes i got diane ty so so muc



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