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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/17/2007 3:49:24 PM   
ftmouse


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Status: offline 		Thank you.  will find some of mine.   Oh wanted to make one note.  I always have an enima before hand, makes me feel empty and a lot more comfortable with it, i like things to be clean so to speak and when i am am empty it just works so much better.

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/17/2007 4:27:17 PM   
MistressN3082


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Status: offline 		Ohhhh Yes .... Must get one of those for subbie ....... Thank you Diane for the pics.


Mistress N

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/18/2007 4:29:38 AM   
DianeB269


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ORIGINAL: MistressN3082

Ohhhh Yes .... Must get one of those for subbie ....... Thank you Diane for the pics.


Mistress N



You're very welcome.......I love helping others...



Diane

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/18/2007 5:44:40 AM   
ServenteMail


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Status: offline 		are you doing this for milking reasons? are you doing this to punish it, torture it? Milking I know nothing of. That was never a need for me. peeling a ginger root and shoving that up there will cause a desired effect. acid or hot steam also is effective. permanent devices can render the area less susceptible to pain and you will need to move onto another are for its next punishment.

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/25/2007 3:33:59 PM   
cogitator


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Status: offline 		I can imagine that having him on his knees sucking it beforehand would add to the humiliation, and perhaps the sense of fear/excitement (are these the right words?).

When it does come time to taking him, is there anything special to pushing it all the way in on the initial thrust?   Perhaps this is a male thing (or just something personal to me), but would seem to really demonstrate "taking" or control.

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/25/2007 3:46:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: cogitator

I can imagine that having him on his knees sucking it beforehand would add to the humiliation, and perhaps the sense of fear/excitement (are these the right words?).

When it does come time to taking him, is there anything special to pushing it all the way in on the initial thrust?   Perhaps this is a male thing (or just something personal to me), but would seem to really demonstrate "taking" or control.



My mind becomes male when I put my strapon on. I do tend to ram it home on the first
thrust. I think it has something to do with the look on the subs face when I do that.


Diane

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/25/2007 3:53:00 PM   
danreeves


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Status: offline 		This is a reply to Dian--good woman I liek the idea of the good thrust-espc when no warning is giving--good way to damage him but-hell ther are others to take his Place right??

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/25/2007 4:06:48 PM   
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This is a reply to Dian--good woman I liek the idea of the good thrust-espc when no warning is giving--good way to damage him but-hell ther are others to take his Place right??


The guys I train can take it.


Diane

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/25/2007 4:20:55 PM   
azzmaster


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Status: offline 		this seems to be about fucking men tho i would imagine in lesbianworld the strap on just replaces a dick. i neva thought 2 hard about this b4, but i didn't realize women actually enjoyed using a strap on, i figured it was about pleasing the other person. enlightening. i m glad i have an actaul dick of course, but if i get reborn as a woman in my next life i spose i would consider gettin a strap on

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/25/2007 9:27:58 PM   
MstrssScarlet


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ORIGINAL: silverwings0002

Even though I've only done it a couple times [and yes, it incredibly erotic!] make *sure* not to use too big a size. It makes a difference in his stretching capacity and if he is used to be used thus.
Akasha- I have a double sided dildo, how does One use it- or are there ones made for harness?

T


I use a Doc Johnson strapon and it offers a multitude of variations.  It has a comfortable leather harness that's adjustable and switching from a small cock to a large one and back again is simple.  It also has places inside the harness for the mistress to attach a dildo for her own pleasure as well as a butt plug if she so desires.  They are easily removed if you don't care for them.  Although it's a simple matter to change the attachments on the side that penetrates the sub as well, I have never once had a problem with any of them coming loose during a good, vigorous workout.  I always put a condom on them when penetrating anally so that cleanup is easy and I don't have to worry about cross contamination when going from mouth to ass to mouth again.  ( I do wash them in between anyway just in case. )
If you're going to have the sub give him/herself an enema ahead of time, make sure they've done it early in the day and then have them eat light until after the session in order to give the body plenty of time to empty itself.  Otherwise you'll end up with an even bigger mess.
As everyone else has already said, use plenty of lube and take your time.  Start with one finger and stretch things out until you're sure you can safely insert the attachment of your choice.  Having them wear a plug a few hours before they see you (as large as they can tolerate) will give you a head start.
Have fun!!!!
Mistress Scarlet

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"Say, that hurts a little bit" "And you don't like to be hurt do ya?" "I don't know...kinda fun sometimes if it's done in the right spirit."
Jean Harlow in The Beast of the City

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/25/2007 9:34:35 PM   
MstrssScarlet


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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

Do NOT begin by having him bend over as you take a running start from across the room as you scream "KAWABUNGA!!!".  This causes the male to tense up a bit and bends the dildo.


  I thought this was HILARIOUS!  I have heard stories from subs about 'scooting' across the table as a mistress atttempts to ram it in with no preparation.  Not a good idea!  Makes them veeeeery leary about coming back for it again. (and can you blame them?)
Mistress Scarlet

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"Say, that hurts a little bit" "And you don't like to be hurt do ya?" "I don't know...kinda fun sometimes if it's done in the right spirit."
Jean Harlow in The Beast of the City

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/26/2007 1:57:21 PM   
solvr70


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ORIGINAL: MstrssScarlet

I use a Doc Johnson strapon and it offers a multitude of variations.  It has a comfortable leather harness that's adjustable and switching from a small cock to a large one and back again is simple.  It also has places inside the harness for the mistress to attach a dildo for her own pleasure as well as a butt plug if she so desires.  They are easily removed if you don't care for them.  Although it's a simple matter to change the attachments on the side that penetrates the sub as well, I have never once had a problem with any of them coming loose during a good, vigorous workout.  I always put a condom on them when penetrating anally so that cleanup is easy and I don't have to worry about cross contamination when going from mouth to ass to mouth again.  ( I do wash them in between anyway just in case. )
If you're going to have the sub give him/herself an enema ahead of time, make sure they've done it early in the day and then have them eat light until after the session in order to give the body plenty of time to empty itself.  Otherwise you'll end up with an even bigger mess.
As everyone else has already said, use plenty of lube and take your time.  Start with one finger and stretch things out until you're sure you can safely insert the attachment of your choice.  Having them wear a plug a few hours before they see you (as large as they can tolerate) will give you a head start.
Have fun!!!!
Mistress Scarlet


sounds like the vac-u-lock system. a WONDERFUL thing...if i'm taken for a while, and crave a bit more, quick and easy to move up a size without a lot of unstrapping-restrapping. leaving the current dildo inside until the immediate move to the bigger one. helps one move up to bigger a great deal!

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/26/2007 2:06:35 PM   
DianeB269


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrssScarlet

quote:

ORIGINAL: LotusSong

Do NOT begin by having him bend over as you take a running start from across the room as you scream "KAWABUNGA!!!".  This causes the male to tense up a bit and bends the dildo.


  I thought this was HILARIOUS!  I have heard stories from subs about 'scooting' across the table as a mistress atttempts to ram it in with no preparation.  Not a good idea!  Makes them veeeeery leary about coming back for it again. (and can you blame them?)
Mistress Scarlet



They come back every other week for more training.....I wonder why?


Diane

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/26/2007 2:10:28 PM   
solvr70


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ORIGINAL: DianeB269

quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrssScarlet

quote:

ORIGINAL: LotusSong

Do NOT begin by having him bend over as you take a running start from across the room as you scream "KAWABUNGA!!!".  This causes the male to tense up a bit and bends the dildo.


  I thought this was HILARIOUS!  I have heard stories from subs about 'scooting' across the table as a mistress atttempts to ram it in with no preparation.  Not a good idea!  Makes them veeeeery leary about coming back for it again. (and can you blame them?)
Mistress Scarlet



They come back every other week for more training.....I wonder why?


Diane



because the act of being Your bitch is just toooo much to resist! ;)

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/26/2007 2:25:46 PM   
solvr70


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They come back every other week for more training.....I wonder why?

Diane


Ah, an expert at what i love most! wish i would have run into You a while back in college. who knows how much i could take and how often I could take it!  ;) :)

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/26/2007 2:35:36 PM   
DianeB269


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ORIGINAL: solvr70

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ORIGINAL: DianeB269

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ORIGINAL: MstrssScarlet

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

Do NOT begin by having him bend over as you take a running start from across the room as you scream "KAWABUNGA!!!".  This causes the male to tense up a bit and bends the dildo.


  I thought this was HILARIOUS!  I have heard stories from subs about 'scooting' across the table as a mistress atttempts to ram it in with no preparation.  Not a good idea!  Makes them veeeeery leary about coming back for it again. (and can you blame them?)
Mistress Scarlet



They come back every other week for more training.....I wonder why?


Diane



because the act of being Your bitch is just toooo much to resist! ;)




Good answer!!!!


Diane

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/27/2007 1:18:54 AM   
mons


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Status: offline 		greetings to all

this is what i mean in the last post someone wrote how dommes are mean to one another> I have only seen it is the chat room this is the place where i can sit back and write here and get help from so manu of you this was a wonderful thing with the help with a strap so many thing were answer and wow i could use some of the adivce myself i heard of the gel you spoke of this is networking at its best thanks so ladies for the info

warm wishes
mons

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/27/2007 4:05:47 PM   
DianeB269


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greetings to all

this is what i mean in the last post someone wrote how dommes are mean to one another> I have only seen it is the chat room this is the place where i can sit back and write here and get help from so manu of you this was a wonderful thing with the help with a strap so many thing were answer and wow i could use some of the adivce myself i heard of the gel you spoke of this is networking at its best thanks so ladies for the info

warm wishes
mons



You are very welcome mons.....


Diane

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/27/2007 4:49:24 PM   
mistressfran


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Status: offline 		diane i am back from being with my sub and i have to tell u our expricne  with the strap on was wonderfulll and exciting for both of us took all of your avice and everything went wonderful we are both looking forward to the next time and omfg i have to say i had him shaking and i was so damn turn on wow once again ty diane for everything will be tlaking to ya sooon

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/27/2007 4:53:07 PM   
DianeB269


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diane i am back from being with my sub and i have to tell u our expricne  with the strap on was wonderfulll and exciting for both of us took all of your avice and everything went wonderful we are both looking forward to the next time and omfg i have to say i had him shaking and i was so damn turn on wow once again ty diane for everything will be tlaking to ya sooon



Congrats!!!! That's awesome!!!!

I hope you can post a little story in my group....


Diane

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