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dollparts85 -> Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 6:49:00 PM)

If like...a guy...hangs up...after he cums...I mean like...literally 5 seconds after he cums, he hangs up...every time...is that normal? Am I being used? We do it every night...and I like him a lot...I just...I dont know if he really cares about me at all...or if he's just using me to get off...normally he does all the talking and stuff...but now he's making me repeat dirty things and I really don't want to but I want him to like me so I have to...he said he wont talk to me anymore if I don't...does it sound like he's using me?



SimplyMichael -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 6:51:08 PM)

Having sex with someone so they "like you" is something you are supposed to get over in HS.  Think of it as lovemaking, if a guy came over, came and left, what would you think?



CelticPrince -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 6:54:37 PM)

I do not get why you keep getting him off with that kind of finish.

CP



DCWoody -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 6:58:27 PM)

Yes, it does.


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ORIGINAL: dollparts85

If like...a guy...hangs up...after he cums...I mean like...literally 5 seconds after he cums, he hangs up...every time...is that normal? Am I being used? We do it every night...and I like him a lot...I just...I dont know if he really cares about me at all...or if he's just using me to get off...normally he does all the talking and stuff...but now he's making me repeat dirty things and I really don't want to but I want him to like me so I have to...he said he wont talk to me anymore if I don't...does it sound like he's using me?



Caitriona -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 7:00:11 PM)

It certainly does sound that way to me.



sensualmagirl -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 7:00:35 PM)

Yes, I think so.. speaking from someone who at your age was used in real life.

have you ever met them? Would you want this to happen in RL? Unless you've met this person face-to-face (and I would imagine you haven't given they hang up on you and hold the relationship over your head as a threat), I don't think this person is going to be there for you in the end.  They are going to be the exact same person in bed that they are on the phone -- my opinion

You are young, follow your gut... and it's already telling you that they are using you, or otherwise, you wouldn't have asked.



kindaeasy69 -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 7:01:20 PM)

I'm going to have to go with, yes.



BBBTBW -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 7:01:44 PM)

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ORIGINAL: dollparts85

If like...a guy...hangs up...after he cums...I mean like...literally 5 seconds after he cums, he hangs up...every time...is that normal? Am I being used? We do it every night...and I like him a lot...I just...I dont know if he really cares about me at all...or if he's just using me to get off...normally he does all the talking and stuff...but now he's making me repeat dirty things and I really don't want to but I want him to like me so I have to...he said he wont talk to me anymore if I don't...does it sound like he's using me?


If he hangs up so that he can clean himself up, that is I am sure understandable.  However, he should call you back after he is cleaned up.  If he doesn't, thats a pretty sure sign that he is using you. 

Is it safe to say he is masquerading as a DOMINANT since you identify as a submissive?  A responsible DOMINANT will take your limits into consideration and will work with you to get past them. 

You are young and obviously very impressionable.  If you are having a problem discerning whether someone is using you are not, you should probably put your activity on hold until you get a little more knowledge and understanding of the person you are engaging with.  If he is unwilling to work with you, then your question is answered.



BabyNyla -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 7:02:20 PM)

After reading your question it seems very obvious to me that he's using you for fun.  If he cared about you ... he'd be reciprocal and wouldn't hang up right after.  But why go through thr trouble of milking the cow when you can get it for free ... just my penny of a thought.  And ... um ... doing it so he'll *like you* is the most rediculous thing I have heard.  It's not going to make him like you or appreciate you ... he'll just play off your feelings and use you (speaking from past experiences) .... but I could be wrong, it's only my opinion.



dollparts85 -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 7:07:30 PM)

he's not a Dom...at least he wasn't before he met me...he's sort of getting into it now that he met me...more into just age play though...not really the Dom part...



SimplyMichael -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 7:08:10 PM)

When I have phonesex with some charming lass, I make damn sure they couldn't cum much more before I let myself go.  Yes, for the record there have been recent months where that was my ONLY sexual contact so lets not go ragging on phonesex in general!  Hanging up after you cum is worse than rolling over and falling asleep!



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 7:10:37 PM)

Yes, you're being used.  Decide if that's what you want or not.



MasterFireMaam -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 7:44:25 PM)

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ORIGINAL: dollparts85

If like...a guy...hangs up...after he cums...I mean like...literally 5 seconds after he cums, he hangs up...every time...is that normal?

Normal for who?

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Am I being used?[/quote
Yes.

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We do it every night...and I like him a lot...I just...I dont know if he really cares about me at all...or if he's just using me to get off...normally he does all the talking and stuff...but now he's making me repeat dirty things and I really don't want to but I want him to like me so I have to...he said he wont talk to me anymore if I don't...does it sound like he's using me?

Again, yes. You have to decide if what you're getting in return is worth it. Are you bartering (i.e. giving and taking in an even exchange) or are you selling yourself with the expectation the he'll love you? Being used in our kinds of relationships is a valid thing...if it's part of your barter. What are you getting out of it?

Master Fire



Meerkad -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 7:55:57 PM)

There's a 2Pac song that I've always enjoyed about sexual encounters called "Fair Exchange." Do you feel like you're getting a "Fair Exchange?"  



MasterFireMaam -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 8:19:25 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Meerkad

There's a 2Pac song that I've always enjoyed about sexual encounters called "Fair Exchange." Do you feel like you're getting a "Fair Exchange?"  


You askin' this of me, hon? The answer would be, "Yes. Yes I am!" But, I'm not the OP and I'd be talking about r/t sex. LOL

Master Fire



Meerkad -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 8:20:40 PM)

Silly Quick Reply function.

:P



TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 8:55:00 PM)

What is it you like about him?...do you like that he makes you feel insecure and uses your fear of rejection against you? ...do you like that he gets off the phone immediately after his wants have been met?...do you like that he has you doing things you feel uncomfortable with at this stage of your relationship?..basically my answer is ,absolutely, you are being used..and if this is what you desire in your dynamic then continue on...if not, you may want to rethink this relationship....Tempting



MasterGremlin -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 9:03:43 PM)

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ORIGINAL: dollparts85

If like...a guy...hangs up...after he cums...I mean like...literally 5 seconds after he cums, he hangs up...every time...is that normal? Am I being used? We do it every night...and I like him a lot...I just...I dont know if he really cares about me at all...or if he's just using me to get off...normally he does all the talking and stuff...but now he's making me repeat dirty things and I really don't want to but I want him to like me so I have to...he said he wont talk to me anymore if I don't...does it sound like he's using me?


If you have to ask, then the answer is yes he's using you.
Sincerely,
minxy



AAkasha -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 10:09:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: dollparts85

If like...a guy...hangs up...after he cums...I mean like...literally 5 seconds after he cums, he hangs up...every time...is that normal? Am I being used? We do it every night...and I like him a lot...I just...I dont know if he really cares about me at all...or if he's just using me to get off...normally he does all the talking and stuff...but now he's making me repeat dirty things and I really don't want to but I want him to like me so I have to...he said he wont talk to me anymore if I don't...does it sound like he's using me?


Next time you are talking dirty to him and getting him all worked up, hang up and see what he does.

Akasha



MasterKalif -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/10/2007 10:14:52 PM)

very good replies...I would say "yes"...and he doesn't seem to care for your feelings, might want to move on.



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