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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 8:50:22 PM   
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to a daddysgirl. Not just overweight subs, overweight doms also. Didn't notice this so much for men.And this is not just on collarme i have noticed it in dungeons as well. its curious to me and being curious i wonder if there is a correlation. my best guess is that we in BDSM tend to indulge our desires more than the general pop.but that is only a guess. thus my curiousity as to others ideas


Oh...is the question "Why are there so many fat females into D/s?"  Sorry, don't know that answer either.
 
But what came first?  Overindulging and being fat then getting into D/s?  Or getting fat after getting into D/s from overindulging?
 
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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 8:52:15 PM   
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These have been my feelings also, many people in this lifestyle are endulging their desires in one area, so why deny the urges
in other areas.  I don't mind a woman being 10-20 pounds overweight.  Many women look nice a little overweight.  I have issues
with women and men, that weigh 250, 300 and 400 pounds, at that point it is just unhealthy.


Why do you have a problem with it?  Why is it any of your business?  What makes you think that simply because someone is at a particular weight over what you deem appropriate is unhealthy?  I have issues with people that have problems with things they can't control and things that have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with them.  I am just over 40 years old, I am a 6'1 woman, I weigh in at just over 300 lbs.  I am healthy.  The only health issues I have stem from an injury from a car accident 7 years ago. 

SO, don't assume that just because someone is "overweight" (what exactly is overweight anyway?)that they are unhealthy.  Skinny people die of heart disease, stroke etc...and get debilitating diseases just like heavy people.  If your weight is causing you to have health problems, by all means gain or lose the weight.  If you are healthy, continue to take care of yourself and enjoy who you are. 

For all of you that have problems with us that don't fit into your mold, you have the choice not to associate with us.



Agreed.....now what was the question again? Something to do with why there are so many fat dudes/ettes on cm oh and please don't say 'us' as in you are different cos you aint and you are subject to exactly the same scrutiny that skinnies are! oh and the infirm and insane!

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 8:52:28 PM   
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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 8:53:06 PM   
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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 8:53:20 PM   
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to a daddysgirl. Not just overweight subs, overweight doms also. Didn't notice this so much for men.And this is not just on collarme i have noticed it in dungeons as well. its curious to me and being curious i wonder if there is a correlation. my best guess is that we in BDSM tend to indulge our desires more than the general pop.but that is only a guess. thus my curiousity as to others ideas


Oh...is the question "Why are there so many fat females into D/s?"  Sorry, don't know that answer either.
 
But what came first?  Overindulging and being fat then getting into D/s?  Or getting fat after getting into D/s from overindulging?
 
DG


Now THAT was a wicked post....

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 8:55:34 PM   
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erm yes..YES thats what hes asking....answer?


why are there so many of us on this site....just sounds a little goofy to me 
 
So i really don't have an answer as the question behooves me. 
 
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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 8:55:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		You know what I find it strange...is when someone asks me my height and weight..the comment is omg you are fat.....I think...hmm...size 11 is fat?  now...I am not happy with the size I am....but it is because the more wieght I carry..the more pain I have....soooo...I am loosing.....but will never go lower than a 9..or i just am sick all the time.

Now if someone looks at me..they put my weight a good 30 pounds lighter than what i am......so I just don't post it anymore unless it makes me.

What is important to me right now..is not my weight...but is the fact that I can no longer walk a mile......Weight and the shape you are in are in no relation to the other.

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 8:57:07 PM   
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damn there is alot of touch people on here. No one said it was good or bad to be overweight. Just lookin for theories about the correlation. Too much defensiveness. relax yall


You know what is funny, its only offensive to 'certain' fat people who simply arent ok with themselves, its quite straight forward, if you are happy so what! If you got a prob with your weight then quit moaning and do something about it, people are shallow by nature whether you like it or not but the best defence aginst those type of people is to be happy with who you are...The End.

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 8:58:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		i think it might have something to do with rebellion, i think that as a rule bdsmers tend to revel in being difffernt, and in a world weight obsessed and body image hyper consious it is a way yet another way to say f**k you

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 8:58:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		I offered a few.

1. The thin ones are taken.
2. You're noticing women more.

More? Less serious?

3. The thin ones do real well and attract hordes of fat guys and other thin women.

Other theories? Maybe fatter women are more willing to look outside of the vanilla spectrum. I think that the number of fat men and fat women in BDSM is probably about equal though.


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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 8:58:56 PM   
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Because when there is a meeting it is called a "Munch."  What? do you think they sit around and talk?....No! at every munch it is the same thing.....Hundreds if not thousands of pounds of lobster are devoured along with enough drawn butter to fill a child's swimming pool.  Then when the crunching and cracking of shells has subsided it turns into a horrific "butter orgy."

It's actually quite a sight to behold....


geesh... I never knew I was missing out on all the fun at the munches! I simply must find out when the next one is in my area!

Ok, going back to reading the responses...

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:01:55 PM   
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You know what I find it strange...is when someone asks me my height and weight..the comment is omg you are fat.....I think...hmm...size 11 is fat?  now...I am not happy with the size I am....but it is because the more wieght I carry..the more pain I have....soooo...I am loosing.....but will never go lower than a 9..or i just am sick all the time.

Now if someone looks at me..they put my weight a good 30 pounds lighter than what i am......so I just don't post it anymore unless it makes me.

What is important to me right now..is not my weight...but is the fact that I can no longer walk a mile......Weight and the shape you are in are in no relation to the other.

beth


When i was younger I was DESPERATE to put on weight, i was too overactive and the only way i could was to do weights and drink gallons with meals, i was deffo envious of people with the ability to store more weight, without knowing people we always try to build a mental picture and i think this is where natural discimination comes from, we put people into categories before we speak to them and everyone is categorised, white, black, fat, skinny, bald, hippy, thick, clever and so on....anyone for a donut?

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:02:38 PM   
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I am just enjoying the topic, while I eat my potato chips.
Don't get your panties in a bunch, I you don't like the topic or replies, move on.


I am actually enjoying the topic myself as I sit here eating my wafer cookies.  My panties aren't in a bunch, they are actually very smooth around my ample shapely ass.  Why is it that when someone defends themselves that they are angry or don't like the topic? 

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:04:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		what is it with you and donuts...how about putting the donuts down and coming over here and join me in some smiroff ice and chips......

yes am drinking and here again tonight...but not feeling good yet....so am still able to make sense....lol

everyone is different...the doctors want me to have surgery and loose 15 - 20 pounds....of my breats.....I say..nope nope nope.....not going cut them off..no no no....lol

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:08:30 PM   
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i think it might have something to do with rebellion, i think that as a rule bdsmers tend to revel in being difffernt, and in a world weight obsessed and body image hyper consious it is a way yet another way to say f**k you


Thats an interesting point actually, with the rise and rise of the fitness industry and countless info-mercials about ab-crunchers and new fitness machines there will always be an adverse effect on the poeple who wish to dissociate themselves with the in-crowd...good work Crouch!  

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:09:15 PM   
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Now THAT was a wicked post....


So do you have an answer?  Surely you must.  Come on....out with it!
 
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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:09:24 PM   
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When i was younger I was DESPERATE to put on weight, i was too overactive and the only way i could was to do weights and drink gallons with meals, i was deffo envious of people with the ability to store more weight, without knowing people we always try to build a mental picture and i think this is where natural discimination comes from, we put people into categories before we speak to them and everyone is categorised, white, black, fat, skinny, bald, hippy, thick, clever and so on....anyone for a donut?


oh, you should've been friends with me and my best friend growing up... she was so thin, couldn't gain weight, was aweful... she still hates being called skinny, I never use that term.

I, on the other hand, come from a long line of "teletubbies" I beleive is the term used before  and would watch her eat and gain weight for her. We were quite the sight I tell you. 

Oh, why, thank you... I'll have a donut if you don't mind? Do you have a multi-grain sugar-free one by chance? Trying to watch my curvy girlish figure... and yes, I'm not thin and taken (and then some)...

Care for some coffee with cream to go with your donut?

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:09:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well the reason I am here(being an overweight dom) is that this is something I enjoy it is a part of me, but if there were not submissives that sought after doms like myself ,then I would not be here on C.M I also want to add that i do not take offense to the question.

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:10:25 PM   
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what is it with you and donuts...how about putting the donuts down and coming over here and join me in some smiroff ice and chips......

yes am drinking and here again tonight...but not feeling good yet....so am still able to make sense....lol

everyone is different...the doctors want me to have surgery and loose 15 - 20 pounds....of my breats.....I say..nope nope nope.....not going cut them off..no no no....lol

beth


Ok no more donuts, when you say 'chips' you mean 'potato chips?' not chips as in fish n chips? (Englishman) and can I have a pint or 10 of Guinness please?

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:13:04 PM   
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When i was younger I was DESPERATE to put on weight, i was too overactive and the only way i could was to do weights and drink gallons with meals, i was deffo envious of people with the ability to store more weight, without knowing people we always try to build a mental picture and i think this is where natural discimination comes from, we put people into categories before we speak to them and everyone is categorised, white, black, fat, skinny, bald, hippy, thick, clever and so on....anyone for a donut?


oh, you should've been friends with me and my best friend growing up... she was so thin, couldn't gain weight, was aweful... she still hates being called skinny, I never use that term.

I, on the other hand, come from a long line of "teletubbies" I beleive is the term used before  and would watch her eat and gain weight for her. We were quite the sight I tell you. 

Oh, why, thank you... I'll have a donut if you don't mind? Do you have a multi-grain sugar-free one by chance? Trying to watch my curvy girlish figure... and yes, I'm not thin and taken (and then some)...

Care for some coffee with cream to go with your donut?



yes please, once i have scoffed my chips n Guinness! I had a high metabolism and was always into Kung Fu, Football (soccer) and generally running about...alot but i spose as you get older you start gaining those love handles, the only thing that really piles on weight for me is heavy weight training..and 2 litres of coca cola a day!

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