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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:14:38 PM

bludemonn

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Now THAT was a wicked post....

So do you have an answer? Surely you must. Come on....out with it!

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Oh you mean to your chicken and egg question...ummm. oh yeah i have the answer....the answer is.....is....42!

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:19:20 PM

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Okay, I started reading this thread ready to shove a spit into touchthesky & roast him (as I found the idea of fat people eating the skinny ones quite amusing), but instead I would rather just clarify a few things for him. I am a big girl. Wearing an 18/20 (at least on bottom because big girls like me have huge GG tits), 2-3 sizes larger than the "average" woman who wears a size 14, I came into this lifestyle right after an ugly breakup (for those curious he was a big guy). I had finally come to terms with what I wanted sexually, and I have found the lifestyle to raise self-esteem in many people - large, small, hung like a horse, hung like a fire ant, short, & tall. I have become comfortable with my body, and I assure you that I am NOT hear because I can't get a date or someone to fuck me.

The short-sighted idea that every fat bitch is ugly disturbs me. As a BBW, I am beautiful, inside and out, which at this point I can say doesn't apply to some of the people who have responded to this thread thus far. I have played with some of the sexiest men I have ever met, and, yes, they were sexy by even the most stringent cultural standards. Larger men tend to "let off" when it comes to being ugly because they are overweight, as many have that sexy "teddy bear" quality. Here is a wake up call to all the people that think fat women are ugly just because they weigh more than 125 pounds: Both men & women (not all but a large majority) like thick girls. They like nice tits & a round ass they can grab onto. They think big girls are sexy.

It's easy to say that overweight people are in the lifestyle because they want to be used as a sex toy & are less likely to be in a relationship. That implies self-esteem issues. How many slender women do you know with low self-esteem? You say that there are all kinds of skinny bitches on dating sites. What does that say about skinny people? Doesn't that tell you that there are more slender people not in serious relationships? You noticed this, yet it didn't strike you the same way on here. I am curious as to why.

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:21:48 PM

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ummmmmmmmmm ok..i got some cherry cheesecake in the fridge..anyone want some?

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:23:32 PM

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bludemonn? I am out of donuts man, I am going to Dunkin Donuts to buy 12 more, can I
get you a few glazed?

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:25:53 PM

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There are some of us BBW's that are BBW because of medical reasons, such as myself.

i have no stomach muscles due to many surgeries over the past few years and am a type 2 diabetic, however, that being said i have also lost a total of 150lbs recently and am continuing to lose it.

i however now need to find a safe way of building up my stomach muscles without doing the usual sit ups.

if any of you have a way for me to do this please feel free to email me here on the site, but do not judge me.

As it states in my profile "Do NOT judge, lest Ye be Judged," i am not sure who said it but do i ever love it because i am tired of being judged for what i look like on the outside.

submission comes from within, not the outside. look at the submissives/slaves from the inside out and you will find that we have more to offer from the inside than we do the outside.

*giggles at the spit thing* i love that idea lol

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:27:16 PM

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Well so goes the battle on the bulge. The wonderful thing about it is women especially who have had kids then get the lovely secretary spread as some refer to it are doubly doomed. Some of it is genetics. I got my german hausfrau grandmothers build from my dad's side. Why was I not blessed with the taller and thinner gene I kept asking myself. Who knows.

Next comes the later years and the things we did when we were teens and in our twenties catch up to us. Myself I jumped out of an airplane to meet a guy. Perfectly good airplane I might add. Instead of going to the doc when I broke my ankle I went to the bar. In my 40's I landed in the surgery room for 6 hours of achilles tendon repair. I spent two years before and two years after less active but still eating the same. Dumb but classic.

Now you get older and it is harder to take the pounds off. I am sure most of us have tried. Some do well some don't.

I believe that it is not overweight people who visit cm because they are overweight. They come here in search of themselves and others. I find it on other sites as well and in clubs and swinger sites. Some just want a full range of clientelle others just want height and weight proportionate. I look at peoples faces first which is damn hard here. So that is my take on our situation.

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:27:50 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyone4you

Okay, I started reading this thread ready to shove a spit into touchthesky & roast him (as I found the idea of fat people eating the skinny ones quite amusing), but instead I would rather just clarify a few things for him. I am a big girl. Wearing an 18/20 (at least on bottom because big girls like me have huge GG tits), 2-3 sizes larger than the "average" woman who wears a size 14, I came into this lifestyle right after an ugly breakup (for those curious he was a big guy). I had finally come to terms with what I wanted sexually, and I have found the lifestyle to raise self-esteem in many people - large, small, hung like a horse, hung like a fire ant, short, & tall. I have become comfortable with my body, and I assure you that I am NOT hear because I can't get a date or someone to fuck me.

The short-sighted idea that every fat bitch is ugly disturbs me. As a BBW, I am beautiful, inside and out, which at this point I can say doesn't apply to some of the people who have responded to this thread thus far. I have played with some of the sexiest men I have ever met, and, yes, they were sexy by even the most stringent cultural standards. Larger men tend to "let off" when it comes to being ugly because they are overweight, as many have that sexy "teddy bear" quality. Here is a wake up call to all the people that think fat women are ugly just because they weigh more than 125 pounds: Both men & women (not all but a large majority) like thick girls. They like nice tits & a round ass they can grab onto. They think big girls are sexy.

It's easy to say that overweight people are in the lifestyle because they want to be used as a sex toy & are less likely to be in a relationship. That implies self-esteem issues. How many slender women do you know with low self-esteem? You say that there are all kinds of skinny bitches on dating sites. What does that say about skinny people? Doesn't that tell you that there are more slender people not in serious relationships? You noticed this, yet it didn't strike you the same way on here. I am curious as to why.

very well put, well, I might not have called myself a fat bitch, I prefer "curvy" actually, but, I agree with what you had to say

I'm hoping that the comments about fat women can't get a date is purely satire, because, I haven't gone without a date (or 2 or 3) since 1992....

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:28:23 PM

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Lets focus on self esteem for awhile.....seems that this is a potentially an answer to the question

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:28:46 PM

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I think its everyones right to choose dont you? If a guy simply dosent like big women then whats wrong with that? If a lady dosent like Big men whats wrong with that? There is no such thing as a template for what is sexy only what is sexy to that individual, you may think a guy is gorgeous and another may puke over him just as its everyones right to choose, its NOT however everyones right to abuse, thats just pointless, true some slender people have relationship issues, this could be due to the fact they have more choice or it could be due to thinking they are more attractive than they are (delusional), we are all guilty of judging but as far as im concerned its everyones right to choose.

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:29:37 PM

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I am an overweight female. I have had the same observation as you, touchthesky. There does seem to be quite a few overweight females here and at other sites as well. I don't know what the attraction is to this lifestyle for everyone, just for me. It has nothing to do with my weight since I loved it when I was thin too. So I really haven't an answer, but I have noticed it as well.

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:30:10 PM

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Why doesn't anyone want to answer the op's question?

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:30:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: touchthesky

does this seem that way to others? in lookin thru pix it seems like there is a signifcantly higher proportion of overweight femalesin this lifestyle, both tops and bottoms that in the general population. Any theories? i m stumped

~repost~
BDSM is populated by a 'fair share' of hedonists ... pleasure seekers who like to indulge. Eating is a pleasurable experience. Exercise usually isn't. Last time I checked, 60% of American's were overweight. Combine that with being a hedonist and finding out that it's OK to be into pleasure and there you have it, overweight women and men into BDSM.

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:30:22 PM

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bludemonn? I am out of donuts man, I am going to Dunkin Donuts to buy 12 more, can I
get you a few glazed?

Glazed will be splendid! Oh and can you get some chocolate sprinkled ones please!?

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:30:59 PM

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does this seem that way to others? in lookin thru pix it seems like there is a signifcantly higher proportion of overweight femalesin this lifestyle, both tops and bottoms that in the general population. Any theories? i m stumped

i've always wondered why there are so many shallow-minded people in this world. look past the cover and actually read the book before condeming it.

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:32:12 PM

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That wasn't the question

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:32:12 PM

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*sighs* - here we go again

and in your observation, does it matter to you what size, shape, color, age, race, gender, sexual orientation etc etc that made you stumped?

oh btw - i'm on myspace too and there are overweight people on there as well. so are you going to post a blog or forum with your observations about overweight women or people in general on there too? let me know so i can block you away from my page.

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:32:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

quote:

ORIGINAL: touchthesky

does this seem that way to others? in lookin thru pix it seems like there is a signifcantly higher proportion of overweight femalesin this lifestyle, both tops and bottoms that in the general population. Any theories? i m stumped

~repost~
BDSM is populated by a 'fair share' of hedonists ... pleasure seekers who like to indulge. Eating is a pleasurable experience. Exercise usually isn't. Last time I checked, 60% of American's were overweight. Combine that with being a hedonist and finding out that it's OK to be into pleasure and there you have it, overweight women and men into BDSM.

Celeste

Couple that with the ' I dont give a shit' attitude of some people and there you have it.

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:33:25 PM

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Yes hot1, is it low-carb?

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:33:51 PM

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I think it matters cos this thread is about the topic, I think the original message wanted to know theories on it, not to attack anyone cos they are overwieght.

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RE: Why so many overweight women in BDSM? in viewing ph... - 2/10/2007 9:34:55 PM

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Sure bludemonn, do you want a dozen? I am not sharing mine with you.

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