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kate -> hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:05:19 PM)

ok, this is my first time asking something in here... but  have a pretty big question...it may not seem big to others but this is HUGE for me....a Dom that i am seeing has asked me to stop....sucking my thumb....now, i am being serious...this is a habbit that i have had since before i was born...i have even had orthidontice to stop me from doing it (nasty spikes on the roof of my mouth in grade 7 and 8) but nothing has worked....i need to know if anyone has had to so something like this before....this is not just like quitting smoking or drinking...this is something that is attached to my body...always there that i do when i'm asleep.....i do it when i'm awake and don'e even realise i'm doing it....i need some help in a bad way



Quivver -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:06:26 PM)

suck more dick........... 



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:07:18 PM)

Practice, practice, practice.  How long have you had these rules in place and have been actively working to change?  It takes about 4-6 weeks for an action to become a regular habit if worked on everyday, and much longer for it to become a natural part of your make-up.

It took years for you to develop into who you are, it won't be changed overnight.  Getting frustrated about that will only distract you from the goal and progress you are making.

It means being aware of what you are already doing- what are the times you do it most?  What are the specific tough target areas?  What specific behaviors are you REPLACING the bad ones with? 
The more you are aware of it, the more you can stop yourself to think about it first and make a better choice.  Slow it down and practice, practice, practice.



Quivver -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:07:44 PM)

ok, ok, that was way to fast.  but honestly think about it.  i was a thumb sucker, i LOVED my thumb. 
now that i'm a grown up?  well.............  just think about it.  [8D]



kate -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:07:57 PM)

Quivver.....i don't know many men who would want someone to suck there dick for 8 hours at a time.....something tells me that it would become....tender



bandit25 -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:08:15 PM)

Damn, I could have sworn that was Ron.



kate -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:09:29 PM)

well, He asked me to do it today....and i have just started...and i caught myself 4 times already :( i am just so worried about it



Sternhand4 -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:11:56 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: kate

Quivver.....i don't know many men who would want someone to suck there dick for 8 hours at a time.....something tells me that it would become....tender

Is there a list to signup on..?



LadyHugs -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:12:47 PM)

Dear kate, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
As long as you have control over your limbs and digits (fingers), you will have the habit.  That said, you will have to replace it with a new habit. 
 
One may try wearing a rubber band as a bracelet and snap it hard every time you catch yourself sucking your thumb.  Another would be put into fingerless mits.  Fingerless mits are similar to those worn by 'puppy/dawg' role players in the scene.  Perhaps painting something that tastes awful.
 
But, it needs to be said--that no matter who the expert mental health professional you go to, it requires your control, your effort and a real desire to change for your own motives--not a Dominant's and or others.
 
I would also avoid any 'role play' which has you playing infant and or child roles.
 
Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
 
 



blushingflower -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:13:56 PM)

Oh, I wish I knew!  I suck my thumb too, you're not the only one.
When do you do it the most- while you're sleeping, while you're watching tv, what? 
Things that have worked- wear mittens/gloves while you sleep, there's some nasty-tasting ointment that helps, tape your thumb to your hand/other fingers while sleeping.  Take up embroidery or knitting or crocheting or something while you're watching TV to keep your hands busy and out of your mouth.
Or you could just be cuffed whenever you're not using your hands.  But that's not quite as practical. ;)



kate -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:15:38 PM)

thanks Lady Hugs.....do you have any suggestions on a habbit to replace it with....becasue.....the only thing i can think of to keep my hand busy is smoking...and i quit that a few months ago..... :(:(



blushingflower -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:17:03 PM)

LadyHugs is absolutely right-
You really have to want to quit.  No matter what the habit, you have to want to change, but this one especially.  Someone else can take away the liquor or the pills or the drugs or whatever, but unless you're willing to cut off your thumb, you're stuck with it, 24/7.
But, if you really want to, for you, not just because you were asked to, then you can do it.



kate -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:17:24 PM)

blushing....i do it all the time...watching tv...chatting online...all the time...i have tried the taste bas stuff  *no bite* and i actually aquired a taste for it, lol



bandit25 -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:18:11 PM)

You've got mail!



MagiksSlave -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:21:50 PM)

((sneeks in in a trench coat and whispers))

Hon if you figure out how to stop sucking your thumb let me know how
 
 
Magik's slave



DiurnalVampire -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:22:07 PM)

wear rubber gloves.  The taste will make you stop VERY quickly. Preferably the ones with the powder.  It wont hurt you, but the taste is aweful and it will not be a taste you can get around and ignore eventually. I used this to keep from chewing on my fingers, I dont bite my nails I chewed my fingertips bloody and didnt even know it. I had a doctor suggest the rubber gloves, at first it was al the tie, then eventualy it was only necessary when I was at home and had to much time on my hands.  Now, thankfully, I dont do it anymore.

DV



kate -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:25:04 PM)

thanks DV, i'll try the gloves...but when i was a kid and my mom wanted me to stop she tried soap and pepper...and that taste didn't stop me, lol...but i'll give it a shot :)



LotusSong -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:25:58 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: kate

well, He asked me to do it today....and i have just started...and i caught myself 4 times already :( i am just so worried about it


Got to a pet shop and buy some "bitter apple" and slather it on. 
 
Or you can look in mirror and reflect that you are 21 YEARS OLD!  It's not cute anymore and it's affecting your relationship.



kate -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:28:22 PM)

Lotus...i'm not trying to be cute...it is a srtess thing..like bighting nails or playing with your hair....it is just a comforting thing.....but i am going to try the gloves and the something that tastes bad....it might work this time....i want to do this for Him...



kate -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 7:31:08 PM)

does anyone have any more suggestions or stories about how they did something like this?...anyone else ever asked to stop a habbit like this be a Dom?....



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