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nephandi -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/13/2007 8:07:44 AM)

How to brake a Dom.

Step 1. Find a cliff, high building or an airplane.
Step 2. Catch a Dom and drag him or her to said tall cliff, building or airplane.
Step 3. Toss captured Dom of the cliff (Or other high place of your choice).
Step 4. Wait for sickening thud.

That boys and girls is one metod to brake a Dom. ;)



xBullx -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/13/2007 8:22:14 AM)

Hello Yasmina,

While I would agree that you are correct as to some males needing to break a woman to inflate their ego. I believe that is a questionable man, surely he lacks the confidance to own a woman to begin with. I hope not to offend you as a free woman. But you to me would be a perfect example of what I would like to break as a Domme. Not to take away impulses from you, or even to say that you are supposed to be a sub, but more so from my desire to conquer and own you. A quick glimpse at your photo had me thinking that. That had nothing to do with ego, but rather my animal lust to own you, to make you into what I would desire you to be. It may or may not be possible to break your will to dominate as it pertains to me. I would say that it is quite likely you would at least be with the energies expended. So while for some it may be ego, I would have to say in my case, as is the case with other men, it has more to do with my animal desires to own you. (winks)

Live well,

Bull

P.S. there are also those out there that it would be nice to own simply so you could gag their noisey asses.(grinz)



Aine -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/13/2007 8:36:45 AM)

Eh, I just don't like the whole "breaking" thing.  Unless it's a bad habit.



xBullx -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/13/2007 8:49:50 AM)

Hello Aine,

I was being more playful than anything. With the vast array of girls that want to be owned, it really would be futile to go around chasing the dommes.

Live well,

Bull



touchthesky -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/13/2007 9:03:54 AM)

some of these really have me rollin on the floor... u guys r great... i get a sort of mad max image from  the Dom breaking, lol



onestandingstill -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/13/2007 9:10:49 AM)

I think what this may mean is in mentoring a Dom he was broken of all his vanilla concepts and taught proper BDSM protocol.
You know, knocked the ego I'm God attitude down to I'm a new Dom just learning the new world I'm in humbly.
Another thought is..
Many Old Guard Doms did have to live as sub/slave before their official Dom training would be offered them as part of the Old Guard culture.
While I disagree this is necessary to do for a full year I think it wise of a Top in any form to submit to the receiving end of things at least one time for perspective of the other side. They could have been talking about this sort of dynamic as well.

Unfortunately you needed to ask more qualifying questions you chose not to so all we can do is assume.
suzanne



nephandi -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/13/2007 9:40:06 AM)

i dont know, that is the same as saying a streight man should have some gey sex before he deside he is streight and a gay man must try out being streight before he can get on whit his life. If a person is Dominant by nature, he or she will not benefit from playing the submissive for a while i think.



Kondolinni -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/13/2007 10:08:30 AM)

This guy sounds like the kind that does a lot of mental masturbation to me as well.

I don't know about breaking. Nobody ever "broke" me... "in", or otherwise. I also tend to support the position that walking a mile in a submissive's shoes is not really neccesary in order to be a sensitive, charismatic, successful dominant. I am not about to suck a dick to prove I am entirely heterosexual.

However, over the years of my (primarily) self-training (coming up on 7 years now) in the life, I've been to a number of events and getherings with a BDSM theme, from munches to semi-commercial dungeons clubs to swinger clubs to private parties. At many; actually, at most, a certain number of single males were always allowed to attend, even if only out of a sense of fairness.

At many of these events, a certain protocol of courtesy was used, almost as a code, to keep all interactions cival among participants. This protocol was usually so simple and intuitive that anyone attending for the first time, sparing even a brief moment to observe, could figure out and follow.

The easiest way to spot a pretender or poseur trolling for an easy piece of ass was that they invariably would not be aware of and thus not observe this simple protocol. Most of us that have even a marginal sense of seriousness about this life have seen and dealt with the; "Kneel before me wench!" types at munches and what not. They stick out like a sore thumb, and it is this very attention that gets them quietly escorted off the premises and out of everyone else's misery.

In this vein, I've seen more than one wannabe "Dom" and even a few "Dommes" clipped at the knees, not only by more seasoned, serious Dominants, but also by veteran lifestyle submissives. Knocking down an idiot who doesn't respect the life or even the scene like this is rewarding.



kate -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/13/2007 10:39:35 AM)

i for one....would prefur a Dom that was not broken....things that are broken need to be fixed...and i'm no Dr. .....can't you just see this guy going around with a baseball bat knocking the knee caps of all the other Doms he sees....breaking there legs so that they could not play, lol.........i just can't believe what some people say..... i don't think anyone should be broken.... becasue i think people should be just right the way they are....no fixing required



Kondolinni -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/13/2007 10:45:25 AM)

Huh???



LaTigresse -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/13/2007 11:07:00 AM)

I can think of a few I would like to break......[:D]



MasterFireMaam -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/13/2007 12:24:40 PM)

Perhaps he was mistyping the phrase "broken in"? That would set him up as a mentor...but...most really good mentors I know don't brag about it. Bragging is unbecoming, most of the time.

Master Fire



windchymes -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/13/2007 1:45:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

quote:

Can you really imagine any positive connotation to that?


Honestly, the visual that springs to mind is of two guys dressed up in leather, and one, um, riding the other while yelling "I broke you."



And soon starts yelling, "I just can't quit you!!!" [;)]

My opinion is, chat-room Dom?  Don't hang on every word.



mp072004 -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/13/2007 3:29:57 PM)

Fucked if I know. I tend to call seducing top-identified people into bottoming with me "turning." It's a term used by bi and lesbian women for convincing straight-identified women to go to bed with them. (And in both cases, it's really impolite if you do it wrongly, but how to do it well belongs in a different thread.) I don't see it as something to brag about, nor something to be ashamed of. I guess it's a little testament to being good at persuading people to do new or uncommon things, and so it's good to privately recognize that you have some talent at that, and doing something well is always reason to be happy, but it's not really that significant.

As best as I can surmise, training is what BDSMers like to call what happens when you teach someone something having to do with kinky sex. It seems like an inappropriate word--I think of training as a form of practice and physical improvement, as with an athlete, or repetitive and basic conditioning, as with a dog. Neither of those is appropriate for what happens when one person introduces or demonstrates her skill to another with the intent of helping the second acquire the skill. I usually call it "teaching," or "showing," and sometimes "discussing," or "advising," if the thing getting taught is more mental or emotional. It can involve talking about techniques of body language and voice--developing a "command presence"--though that usually happens in "discussion." More often, it involves learning a particular skill for play, especially when it's a technique that works better with a coach and in-person, hands-on instruction, like rope bondage, sounds, or needles.

Monica



sugarcandy -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/13/2007 5:56:43 PM)

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ORIGINAL: leathersmith

Is it possible that it was a situation where two people, usually guys, engaged in threat behavior as do say gorillas and one backed down thereby becoming "broken"? Just a thought. Can't say I am familiar with the term otherwise


Not that i would know --- but chest pounding, show off bully primate behavior was my first thought. Like it is a contest?



WhiplashSmile -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/14/2007 8:07:52 PM)

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In this vein, I've seen more than one wannabe "Dom" and even a few "Dommes" clipped at the knees, not only by more seasoned, serious Dominants, but also by veteran lifestyle submissives. Knocking down an idiot who doesn't respect the life or even the scene like this is rewarding.


I had the pleasure of clipping down a wanna be Domme a few monthes ago.  She virtually knew nothing about this lifestyle, as she proclaimed.  When she discovered that I enjoy BDSM as a DOM, that is when she tried to belittle and make me bow to her feet. It was quiet the spectacle at the bar for many onlookers that night.  As it turns it she is not well liked by many people anyways.

  



AZSweetie -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/14/2007 8:20:42 PM)

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ORIGINAL: onestandingstill

I think what this may mean is in mentoring a Dom he was broken of all his vanilla concepts and taught proper BDSM protocol.


Yeah because i've heard of a Dom breaking a sub/slave but not another Dom.



NightWindWhisper -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/14/2007 8:27:02 PM)

A dom is a term given not to oneself but given by another out of respect who perceives that person as dominant.  A true dominant does not need to feed their ego with brags--especially at the expense of another, for that is abusive.   Anyone can say "I am a dom" but if nobody believes it, then there is no dom.  This person sounds not like a dominant, but like someone with no self-confidence who must egotistically and artificially elevate themselves at another's expense.  I would be inclined to doubt such a person.



domiguy -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/14/2007 8:34:15 PM)

(Domiguy looks down at the pile of broken and mangled doms at his feet)  Pussies!....I have broken doms with just a glance....Yep... I'm a bad muther fucker!!!



LadyHugs -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/14/2007 9:10:28 PM)

Dear upsurd1, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
In the experiences through the years, there have been words used as "breaking" but, usually they had parallel experiences in the Equestrian world where its a common term which means 'training.'
 
Unfortunately, we're working with assumptions though.  If it was a person from the mid-west USA, I wouldn't be alarmed by it.  Perhaps due to the Equestrian/Ranch/Rodeo connection.  However, it would be different if the Dominant was elsewhere.  That said, the individual may not be someone fluent in English so, uses the best terms in translation.  Just some thoughts here, as many of my friends from overseas struggle with the language let alone typing it.
 
Now, there is another vein of thought, where this person was bragging that they take Dominants and make mince-meat out of them as to humiliate, torment and or have the last word as to 'believe' he has broken or break Dominants.  Some Dominants in not responding to another Dominant who is famous for such behavior; is merely walking away as it is pointless--yet, to those uninvolved may see it as the walk away Dominant as broken or have had the other Dominant break them.
 
As far as 'training' other Dominants; the term can hold a variety of meaning, from mentoring to training, such as more detailed instruction.  Even with the Academy in classes where I was a Faculty Member--the whole weekend is considered--"Training."  In this Academy, many levels of training happens, from the obvious to the subtle.
 
If I was in the position to ask questions of this Dominant; I would make more inquiries and reach deeper into something that must be experienced rather than read about.
 
The part of 'bragging' in the original post may be a matter of perception.  Again, I am dealing in assumptions as I wasn't there.  Often times pride and passion can be misunderstood as 'bragging.'
I am very proud as a mentor and educator, to have helped people.
But, most who approach me have come from word of mouth referrals, such as Master X, Mistress Z telling you/others--Go see Lady Hugs as she can teach you [insert whatever interests one has].  Or, they see me at The Crucible, see a scene and after I'm done approach and take up from there.  At times I introduce them to past students to whom add to the learning experiences.
 
Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs



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