LeatherBentOne -> RE: what is meant by a Dom " breaking" another Dom? (2/15/2007 7:16:39 AM)
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ORIGINAL: onestandingstill I think what this may mean is in mentoring a Dom he was broken of all his vanilla concepts and taught proper BDSM protocol. You know, knocked the ego I'm God attitude down to I'm a new Dom just learning the new world I'm in humbly. Another thought is.. Many Old Guard Doms did have to live as sub/slave before their official Dom training would be offered them as part of the Old Guard culture. While I disagree this is necessary to do for a full year I think it wise of a Top in any form to submit to the receiving end of things at least one time for perspective of the other side. They could have been talking about this sort of dynamic as well. Unfortunately you needed to ask more qualifying questions you chose not to so all we can do is assume. suzanne I must disagree here, although I value your thoughts. [;)] Training and "flipping" are two different things. When I flipped my Domme, I was being trained as a Domme by subbing to her (5 yrs r/t). When I flipped her, I took control away from her after a scene, in no uncertain terms, knowing exactly that I was taking control because it was my intent. It was verbally non-consentual during our negotiations at the beginning of the relationship but since she did nothing to indicate non-consent at that particular time and seemed to love it, I continued. Under ordinary "training" circumstances, that never happened although I had many opportunities to do so, and could have. That was the only time I did that to any Dominant, and it was a major mistake as it killed the D/s and broke up the relationship. It was like biting the hand that fed me to serve my own ego. Id never do that again and advise others against it. It was highly disrespectful and well-served neither party. LBO
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