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LadyEllen -> Sissies - is it all about them? (2/14/2007 1:54:42 AM)

OK then - we've had a few threads now on "sissies", where yet again most of the ladies have expressed that its not something they are interested in, where the sissies have tried to defend their corner against the charge of, to shorten it as much as possible, it being all about them indulging their fetish rather than submission in the usually understood way.

I wondered though, if this is the case? So in an effort to identify an answer, I wanted to ask the sissies this;

Which of the following dominant partners would be good, assuming the other person indulged your sissiness, not necessarily in a long term relationship?

1) A natural born woman
2) A natural born man, as a man
3) A transsexual woman
4) A transsexual man
5) Another crossdresser

NB - you should select ALL that you'd consider good; I'm not looking for which one you'd find best, but which would be good.

Thanks in advance
E



skirtboy43 -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (2/14/2007 7:06:49 AM)

Lady Ellen,
For me, a sissy in training, the answeer is clear, "a natural born woman."    And I don't, for one nanosecond, look down on others who select something else.    It's just that I like women.
Skirt Boy



MsKatHouston -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (2/14/2007 8:04:33 AM)

oooh interesting question.  Look forward to reading the answers



CalliopePurple -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (2/14/2007 11:06:18 AM)

Ellen, I just thought I'd say that a friend of mine is writing a paper for her human sexuality class on the difference between fetisistic tranvestites and people with gender dysphoria.

And yeah, this should be interesting.



pantyslave101 -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (2/14/2007 11:13:25 AM)

1,2,3,4,5, i enjoy Domination and if being dressed as a whore is part of that so be it, i enjoy the humiliation of being told to serve a man. xo panty



bobipanti -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (2/18/2007 9:11:03 AM)

I would chose a natural born woman who would enjoy the company of a lesbian male.



sissyamanda4u -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (2/18/2007 9:13:15 AM)

Hi all, I'm new to these boards by the way.

I'm a sissy and I would prefer a natural born woman...but I do kinda see why us sissies aren't all that wanted.



Stephann -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (2/18/2007 10:10:00 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: CalliopePurple

Ellen, I just thought I'd say that a friend of mine is writing a paper for her human sexuality class on the difference between fetisistic tranvestites and people with gender dysphoria.

And yeah, this should be interesting.



When your friend finishes it, would they be kind enough to pass it on to me?  I'd love to read it.

I knew these concepts existed, but never knew they actually had formal names!

Stephan



CalliopePurple -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (2/18/2007 1:31:13 PM)

I'm getting a copy of it, Stephann, and I'll ask if she doesn't mind me passing it along a little more.



Vendaval -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (2/18/2007 1:45:32 PM)

CalliopePurple,
 
I second that request, would like a copy also.
 
Thank you,
 
Vendaval



GuidingLite -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (2/18/2007 3:55:00 PM)

I could see some people get offended at it, but the key thing they should know that its voluntary and consented to. It's for fun, it's not meant to change the world or convey a message to the masses. Same with most kink-related activities, in my opinion.  This is purely for personal gratification and fulfillment so lets not freakin forget the fun factor here people. I never have but I know some Dommes who really enjoy dishing out forced feminization.



IsabelleTS -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (2/18/2007 4:11:45 PM)

I get numerous requests from subbies for forced femm training. I think its silly, if being feminine is really important to you, you'll do it yourself(I speak from experience on that one ;) ).

For many 'sissies' it does seem very akin to topping from the bottom in the manner most go about it. I'm all for mutually beneficial relationships, good energy exchange is essential. But I'llbe damned if I'm going to let someones fantasy overwhelm reality, and that seems to be a continuous issue with sissy subs-they fantasize about it for so long its rarely possible for the reality to meet the fantasy.



simonesays -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (2/19/2007 2:26:45 PM)

I have had a couple of relationships with domme women who understood my crossdressing.  I don't think it's all about me, and am a very good servant.  I understand many dommes don't care for cd's and I have no problem with that.  I just look elsewhere for a domme who does like it.  simone



MistressMaamNH -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (2/19/2007 2:38:37 PM)

quote:

good energy exchange is essential.


I think therein lays the crux of the issue.   How many male subs who have the interest in being "forced" to cross dress/be feminized see this act as their submission and service.  Where is the equal exchange of energy?  A great many males who have this interest seem to think that the Domina's benefit is derived from transforming them.  For some that may be a fair and equal exchange, but for many Dominas, Myself included, there is a distinct inequality of energy exchange in the male's favor. 

I say, if it's a fantasy/fetish for you to be sissified, then have at it, in the comfort of  your own home if you cannot think of anything beyond that as a means of service. 

MMNH

P.S.
I have nothing against sissys, in fact
some of My best subs have had that as
part of their interests..but not the be
ALL end ALL of their interest in serving.



iwearpanties -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (2/20/2007 12:18:20 PM)

as a long time panty wearing male and a submisive .. i think you rite on many things here there are some who like and some who dont like .. maybe it this works better if the male never wore panties or crossdressed before and dosent like it .. as for me i ask and make sure the Dommes and Doms know its on my list as a sub male that i do wear and dose like it ....



hisannabelle -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (2/20/2007 3:01:25 PM)

not being a sissy or knowing any, i would hazard a guess that the only way in which it would work out so it isn't a case of just a fantasy being indulged is with a dominant who got off on sissifying someone as much as the submissive was into sissification. but i'm really curious to see the development of this thread, as this is something that's always intrigued me.



LotusSong -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (2/20/2007 3:22:30 PM)

If the Dresser is a submissive, it makes sense to seek a Domme.. but it seems that  the majority of CDer's that I have known.. have no interest in BDSM.
 
All they know is that this is a venue where a woman might enjoy dressing them up  but forget the BDSM element.   Sort of seems self-defeating to me. 



LotusSong -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (2/20/2007 4:25:33 PM)

I have to that these (Why Don't Mistresses Like Cross Dressers"  threads actually gave me a nightmare the other night (TRUE- not kidding here).  I dreamed that the  guy in

Silence of the Lambs (Cowboy...) was holding me hostage until I LIKED him.



MistressDiane -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (2/20/2007 4:36:35 PM)

Why do some, not all by any means, but some crossdressers go out of their way to make themselves look totally ridiculous?



BalletBob -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (2/20/2007 5:00:01 PM)

I don't get to Dress as much as I like, so maybe I am not a Full Fledged Cross Dresser, but I would still select 1) A Natural Born Woman. And if we happen to be the same size (I am short, and take a size 8 Woman's Shoe), we could share clothes, or shoes, especially if they are Mary Janes.

Sincerly, Sub BalletBob



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