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Someone recently mentioned on here how there are many f... - 2/15/2007 5:22:14 AM   
seekstofasn8adom


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Status: offline 		With that?I don't see one personally as everyone has a right to be here.As fat ladies have as much right to use this site just as much or as little as everyonelse does.And to what some people find ugly some people find beautiful.

As beauty is always in the eye of the beholder.I personally am much more attracted to a ladies personality,im only mildly interested in looks.But i guess everyonelse is different to me on this site,as alot of people seem to go for looks first.The only trouble with that is even though that person is handsome or pretty,they might be a really nasty person.That's one thing you have to watch out for to all you guys and girls who are only interested in looks.
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RE: Someone recently mentioned on here how there are ma... - 2/15/2007 5:32:11 AM   
SusanofO


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I get tired of reading the "Fat" threads. I know it's not healthy to be fat, and my guess is that some fat people don't like the way they look - but there are many who just love BBW's, so it's all a matter of taste. Also, I used to be a smoker, and that is probably more damaging than being fat, so I don't feel I have much room to get on as far as a "high horse" toward fat people.

I also have a little sister who is fat, and she is one of the most wonderful people I know, and I love her so much. I don't even think about her weight, when I talk to her or see her - it's the person I want to engage with, not her weight. She is a great mom, and also a very professionally competent medical nurse.

- Susan

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RE: Someone recently mentioned on here how there are ma... - 2/15/2007 5:46:43 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		as a curvy and busty submissive, my problem with the many assumptions that we use BDSM to hide our overweight problems (not true with me) or that BDSM is a club exclusively for the "beautiful people".  being overweight has nothing to do with my submissiveness and vice versa.  i don't have self-esteem and/or confidence problems plus i have no problems picking up men. it seems many adore the extra cushion i have in the right places.

my thing is - don't judge lest you're judged too.  so there are many overweight / fat women here. big f-ing deal. get over yourself! we cannot be so perfect like you.  nor i do personally wish to be the "perfect" size for BDSM (whatever that may be) because i'm happy, confident and comfortable.  i'm not here please everyone - only Daddy and my special collarme friend. everyone else who's offended by my size can kiss this sub's black arse.

okay - i'm stepping off the soapbox ...time for coffee


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RE: Someone recently mentioned on here how there are ma... - 2/15/2007 5:53:46 AM   
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RE: Someone recently mentioned on here how there are ma... - 2/15/2007 5:56:39 AM   
bludemonn


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Status: offline 		Just when you thought the 'Fat' issue had gone away..low and behold ..TA DAA.... no one has a problem with overweight people but they will now!! Congrats lol.... meanwhile i think all you ladies need some herb magic in your life!  

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RE: Someone recently mentioned on here how there are ma... - 2/15/2007 6:00:08 AM   
marieToo


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Status: offline 		I think the OP is supporting people of all shapes and sizes. 

I could be misinterpreting the subsequent posts, but it appears that they are not comprehending his point.

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RE: Someone recently mentioned on here how there are ma... - 2/15/2007 6:09:17 AM   
elfie


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Status: offline 		oh for gods sake i swear i am sick to death of the fat issue especially to 1 set group. the men, oh wait,,, the overweight men the fat men. amazing how they are so hung up on looks and the skinny girl when most of them could stand to lose 20/200 pounds themselves.  so what if i am plump so what if i have junk in my trunk. i am loved by those whom i am surrounded by, but the worst is when someone you are talking to stops talking once they see your picture. as the firstpost said,, usually when you go for looks the person inside is nasty... hmm  could it be? that a nasty lil looker has issues of her own,paranoia of "getting fat" of being ugly. everyone could stop caring about looks tomorrow but deep down i know i am still beautiful and thats all that really matters. kudos to men and women alike who have learned to look past the exterior, kudos to those who learned the quality of a person is far more substantial then looks, because looks fade, hair falls out, wrinkles appear. who will still be together ? those that fell for each other without the looks being a factor.

elfie
(stepping off her soap box, yeah omg it held up my "fat" ass...>sigh<)

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RE: Someone recently mentioned on here how there are ma... - 2/15/2007 6:09:36 AM   
Stephann


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Status: offline 		Yep, I read it; she wasn't talking to the Opening Poster, but rather railing against the same people he is railing against.

Weight is a touchy topic, and as such it comes up over and over, like abortion on a political debate board.  I see valid trains of thought on both sides of the issue, so like abortion, the facts of the issues seem to of less importance than personal feelings.

I weigh about 155 - 160.  I have dated women both taller and heavier than I am.  I never had trouble finding a woman who is larger than I am attractive.   I also enjoy physical activities.  I can easily walk 15-20 miles while visiting a new city, I love hiking in the woods, and I love physical challenges of all sorts.  It will only make sense that to be compatible with a woman, she would need to meet certain minimal physical abilities; the size of her hips or stomach aren't the issue.  It's important to set minimum standards for ourselves, and those standards are completely subjective.  A requirement for me is that a women enjoy blues, cats, and "The Godfather."  This doesn't mean I think people who hate blues, cats, or Brando aren't worthy of my presence or sub-human; it just means they would probably become unhappy with me in the long run.  It also doesn't mean that a woman must meet only those three requirements.  People should be very selective when deciding on a new partner (i.e. non-casual friendships/romantic relationships/etc.)  Appearance matters to everyone; to what degree is strictly personal taste.  Indeed, superficial people are better off with other superficial people, and I welcome them to their pursuit of happiness just like anyone else.

Stephan

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RE: Someone recently mentioned on here how there are ma... - 2/15/2007 6:22:44 AM   
boytoyroy


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Status: offline 		 well I dont have a problem with heavy people in general,to each his own and chubby can be cute , what I do  find confusing is how someone can claim to be a Domme yet have absolutly zero will power in their own lives/bodies to overcome obesity! an example: on another thread ( on this site ) awhile back , a ( so -called) Domme was complaining how her friends would give her boxes of candy, even though they knew she was battling a weight issue ! excuse me but " YOU DONT NEED TO EAT THE STUFF JUST CAUSE SOMEONE GIVES IT TO YOU!" it just smacks of zero willpower, and perhaps as other emotional issues  being guised as dominance!  oh well it should be a bon fire soon!

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RE: Someone recently mentioned on here how there are ma... - 2/15/2007 6:26:22 AM   
bludemonn


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Status: offline 		No and no disrespect but the OP is bringing up the issue when it had been forgotten....not smart but hey ho....come to the CM party cruise, we dont discuss weight there, not when we have Hydro a 45 tonne Dragon...

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RE: Someone recently mentioned on here how there are ma... - 2/15/2007 6:28:41 AM   
Stephann


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Status: offline 		roy,

Just because a female dominant doesn't meet your expectations for a female dominant, does not make them any less dominant or any less female.  It's one thing to say, privately, that you prefer a woman who is slender.  It's quite another thing to publicly state that any woman must meet your standards, to be worthy of her inherent dominant traits.  I encourage you to learn some tact.

Stephan


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RE: Someone recently mentioned on here how there are ma... - 2/15/2007 6:29:23 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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RE: Someone recently mentioned on here how there are ma... - 2/15/2007 6:30:50 AM   
bludemonn


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RE: Someone recently mentioned on here how there are ma... - 2/15/2007 6:32:35 AM   
OnyxGoddess


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Status: offline 		We like what we like...why can't that be the end of it?  I don't see a helluva lotta chatter bout fat dudes (not that it matters). 

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RE: Someone recently mentioned on here how there are ma... - 2/15/2007 6:35:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		Wonder how many pages this one will end up being and how bad it will get?

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RE: Someone recently mentioned on here how there are ma... - 2/15/2007 6:41:08 AM   
CelticPrince


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quote:

ORIGINAL: marieToo

I think the OP is supporting people of all shapes and sizes.

I could be misinterpreting the subsequent posts, but it appears that they are not comprehending his point.
quote:

I could be misinterpreting the subsequent posts, but it appears that they are not comprehending his point.


Marie, you got it right, he is not being negative.

CP

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RE: Someone recently mentioned on here how there are ma... - 2/15/2007 6:41:24 AM   
MaryT


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Status: offline 		I suspect posts like that are deliberate trolling and best ignored.

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RE: Someone recently mentioned on here how there are ma... - 2/15/2007 6:43:33 AM   
sweetnurseBBW


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetSarijane

Wonder how many pages this one will end up being and how bad it will get?



Oh it will go on awhile. Fat threads, sub vs slave and Gor vs BDSM usually end up long and can get nasty. Gee! I am so looking forward to it.

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RE: Someone recently mentioned on here how there are ma... - 2/15/2007 6:44:06 AM   
CelticPrince


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some good observation, but as you see, there is misinterpretation already.

CP

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RE: Someone recently mentioned on here how there are ma... - 2/15/2007 6:48:29 AM   
findmedaddy


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ORIGINAL: OnyxGoddess

We like what we like...why can't that be the end of it?  I don't see a helluva lotta chatter bout fat dudes (not that it matters). 


It kind of does matter, though, or at least it is interesting. Not surprising, given cultural biases that beat women down for most "imperfections" and encourage men to feel pretty good about themselves regardless, but interesting.

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