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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 3:37:01 PM

AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247

however on the topic of biting, i still would question the dominance (and by this i mean personality wise) of a person who wished to or enjoyed being bitten sexually, just as i would question the submissiveness of one who wished to or enjoyed doing this to another. i'm confused as to how you feel i'm putting a Dominant into the role of bedroom only?.....as i've said many times, i feel that one's D/s nature is a core personality trait, so therefore would encompass all aspects of one's life.

What do you mean by you question it?

Sometimes during our primal sessions Valyraen has my blood running so hot I can barely stand it. I feel like I will explode and I have to do something. I must either scream, bite or claw something. Since he doesn't like being clawed bloody and we live in a townhouse so I can't scream, I just gnaw on his shoulder. It doesn't turn me on to do the biting, and it doesn't turn him on to be bitten but I just have to do something.

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 3:37:02 PM

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I wasn't fully following the biting thread but I'm not much into biting people, nor is my owner into being bitten (I get the rare urge to nibble, thats the extent). Biting would seem a wee bit toppy/agressive to both of us.

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 3:39:19 PM

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Well, I did say I occasionally had bitten my ex-Dominant, but it was a light (not hard) bite, and in the heat of passion (plus I am really a Switch, not always mentally and emotionally submssive, and maybe that had something to do with it).

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 3:40:01 PM

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Helplessly biting (with a hand down your throat, for example) can be very submissive. Allowing someone to bite you can be very dom.

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 3:44:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

What do you mean by you question it?

Sometimes during our primal sessions Valyraen has my blood running so hot I can barely stand it. I feel like I will explode and I have to do something. I must either scream, bite or claw something. Since he doesn't like being clawed bloody and we live in a townhouse so I can't scream, I just gnaw on his shoulder. It doesn't turn me on to do the biting, and it doesn't turn him on to be bitten but I just have to do something.

well what you've described is a bit different imo. there are times when i'm taking a harsh beating or maybe being taken in a very torturous way sexually and the pain is so bad that i feel the need to "do" something, and if i can i'll bite down on a pillow or blanket. crying out or screaming wouldn't be permitted, but that wouldn't be in my nature anyway. so the poor pillow gets it. in your case, you are using your Dominant instead of a pillow, but since as you said it's not something you or he desires, just more a reaction. tho i could question your instinct being to bite him as opposed to some inanimate object, and his acceptance of it, but eh, i don't feel like it. lol

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 3:48:34 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: daddysprop247

well what you've described is a bit different imo. there are times when i'm taking a harsh beating or maybe being taken in a very torturous way sexually and the pain is so bad that i feel the need to "do" something, and if i can i'll bite down on a pillow or blanket. crying out or screaming wouldn't be permitted, but that wouldn't be in my nature anyway. so the poor pillow gets it. in your case, you are using your Dominant instead of a pillow, but since as you said it's not something you or he desires, just more a reaction. tho i could question your instinct being to bite him as opposed to some inanimate object, and his acceptance of it, but eh, i don't feel like it. lol

Well, when I'm on my back, he's inside me and his shoulder is level at my mouth.... there really isn't all much else easy to get at. It's not exactly a state where I'm thinking. He likes it when I can't even think to talk

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 3:50:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: onestandingstill

Thanks Fukin Troll & LA for all the forums.
And thanks everyone else for your answers.
LOL I'm still sitting here with my eyes wide, my eyebrows up and this blank you've got to be kidding look on my face.
I really never considered this before today, and I'd still not consider this is something I'd do myself without being ordered to.
Even if I was ordered to do this I think I'd think my Dom was a little switchy.

I'm not saying it's wrong for anyone, or should be viewed the way I see it, but it's just not something I'd be able to do comfortably.
Little luv nibbles, maybe, biting someone, never.
suzanne

i feel this same way too, suzanne. If my partner bites, then that is his choice but i would have no desire to reciprocate. This goes along the same lines as using a strapon on my partner. Not something i could do. For me, i think it has to do with feeling like being the aggressor, even if told to do it...but i still haven't gotten it all figured out yet. i do know how i feel about it though

DG

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 3:51:59 PM

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If your dom says "it's okay to bite me or pull my hair

" and you enjoy doing those things, than do it when you feel like.
If your dom says "bite me here" you simply do it, because that is submitting! M

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 3:55:46 PM

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*rethinks his favorite saying.*

This sheds new light on "Bite My Ass!"

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 4:04:16 PM

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Only if he likes it..lol

cheers
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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 4:10:17 PM

sensualmagirl

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ORIGINAL: MasterKalif

suzanne,
Interesting topic which I have never really thought about....if my pet bit me....it would not be an issue as it shows she did it out of passion....and that turns me on, like a primal instinct sort of thing if you will....however if it is in non-sex or if it happened all the time, it would be very annoying and non-desirable...yet this "passion biting" gives the Dom a nice reason to spank the submissive as he sees fit.

*taking notes*

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 4:17:06 PM

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Master does not, i repeat, does not allow me to bite him. Yet, i am his chew toy. He loves to bite me, every where anywhere.. gentle to well absolutetly painful. Nothing like being bitten on your punani. ::shivers::

That being said, i like to bite, but not for the act of biting. I'm very oral. i LIKE having something in my mouth, it doesnt turn me on to bite.. i dunno... it just sort of satifies some wierd thing in me. Its a form of holding onto him, i think. Since i'm not allowed to bite *ever* i'm generally pretty contented with just putting my mouth and/or teeth on him. Actually i'm alot more contented to just suck on whatever body part is closest to my mouth. i'd probably have alot less occurances of wanting to bite if i was allowed more often to suck on his fingers. (or whatever random body part was nearby)

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 4:28:04 PM

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ORIGINAL: onestandingstill
I'm not saying it's wrong for anyone, or should be viewed the way I see it, but it's just not something I'd be able to do comfortably.
Little luv nibbles, maybe,

I feel the same as you. Nibbling ear lobes, gentle gnawing on fingers or whatever, but I wouldn't chomp. That probably wouldn't bother him as much as being tickled though. He really hates that.

MaryT

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 4:29:56 PM

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Devilslittlesister... every time I look at your pic I think of what a wonderful mind you have.

Aw who am I kidding, all I can think about is biting that ass.

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 4:31:16 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll
*rethinks his favorite saying.*

This sheds new light on "Bite My Ass!"

We are a backward group aren't we? This which would be insulting to the general population simply mean "I'm hot come and get it" between us, LOL. M

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 4:32:27 PM

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LMAO!!!!! God I love you M.

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 4:35:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll
LMAO!!!!! God I love you M.

Who knew I'd share deep feelings with a fuckin' Troll some day?

M

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 4:37:05 PM

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With us, anything goes during play and sex. There is nothing that is off limits; I think it, then I am supposed to do it. If he doesn't like it, then it is up to him to control it. This includes biting, kicking, punching, slapping, hair pulling... whatever crosses my mind, I will do to him.

His authority is not threatened in the least by this behavior. In fact, to not do this would be disobedience on my part. He enjoys uninhibited play and sex and he will control what he does not like.

Knight's kyra

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 4:51:27 PM

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I have to agree with Kyra..The Dominant one would control the aspects of wether to bite or not...now to me personally, I love to bite..I am a very oral woman..however if he hated it I would refrain..but if he loved it!..I would do so with joy and never think him less the Dominant than what he is..I see it not as a Top/bottom thing or even a D/s thing..it is a sexual fetish or activity..plain and simple as that....Tempting

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/15/2007 5:11:39 PM

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Biting is non-submissive if it hasn't been requested, and biting is antithetical to submission if it has been prohibited. If biting has been requested, it's not obedient, thus not submissive, to NOT bite.

(Disclaimer: it's perfectly fine to refuse requests, because you're a grown-up and responsible for your own decisions, and as far as I'm concerned, you may refuse and continue to identify as a submissive person, etc. Now, back to our regularly scheduled drivel.)

If a dominant asks his or her submissive to perform oral sex on him or her, is that "undominant?" After all, this would involve the dominant requesting a type of sensation and receiving it from the submissive. Now, there is a small contingent who will say that getting-done-to is submissive and doing-to is dominant. However, on account of reading thread after thread about whether dominant women are allowed to suck submissive cock, I'm getting the impression that receiving sensation = submissive is not a widespread idea. If a dominant may request a blowjob, and a submissive may continue to submit while complying with that request, then she or he may request a bite and the submissive may comply with that request and still be submitting, no?

Monica

P.S. Force/rough/primal/ravishment play is great fun, too, and it's kind of silly to do force play with someone who isn't struggling and fighting at all. It's often hotter if a person is resisting well, and that resistance does often involve biting and punching--which people who don't usually like being bitten and punched will often enjoy in the context of resistance.

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