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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/20/2007 8:28:43 PM

denika

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I personally find biting incredibly erotic, I tend to bite, both as a defence and as an erotic exchange. If my hands are tied and skin comes near me I will nip, my Top is very aware of this and I'm also very aware of the immediate responce to my actions.
It is a very primal act and when I get bitten it sends me quickly to a very non-verbal place (aside from the screaming that is) I have a vampire fetish so it just feeds the fantasy in the moment. After care for biting when skin is broken is extremly important since the mouth is filled with all sorts of funky bacteria.

In play, like alandra nd kyra, I'm encouraged to react naturally, biting isn't a 'dominate' responce it is just an instictual thing

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/21/2007 1:43:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: onestandingstill

Hello All,

There's a thread goin on now called
"How do people feel about Biting as a bdsm activity? "
In that thread many women who are submissive admit to biting their Dom. Mostly it's during sex.
None of them seem to be switches in other areas, but in this one it does not seem to be an issue for the Dom's or subs involved.
As that seems like such a non-submissive, and more toppy thing I'm surprised Doms not only permit but enjoy this being done to them by their subs.
To me biting would be akin to CBT, strap on play with him receiving, or tyeing him up or something..
I would not have the balls to just chomp on my Dom without expecting a big punishment behind it.
I'm very confused.
Do you consider biting part of scening, or so much related to sex you don't mind your sub biting you?
If you're a sub how can you do this to your Dom without feeling like you're indeed topping him with that behavior.
Or do you have another answer that makes sense?
suzanne

my dominant is a masochist, to an extent, as well as being a sadist. i'm not a sadist, really, but i bite Him because i love pleasing Him and it's one of the sensations He enjoys. He enjoys pain not quite as much as i do and not exactly in the same ways, but He still enjoys it - biting is one of those ways, and it's one of our ways of sexually pleasing each other (as He does it to me also). as i don't see masochism and sadism being tied to submission or dominance (it's often not), i don't see how biting or being bitten could be construed as topping Him...also, biting is something a lot of vanilla people do, but no one ever accuses them of being dominant or submissive because of it! for us, it has very little to do with the power exchange, other than it's one of my ways of pleasing and being of service to Him, and it's not really about primal play, either - it's just something He finds enjoyable. when i'm bitten, particularly hard and in certain places, it can almost immediately send me into subspace, and when done properly, it has been part of some of the most intense scenes i've experienced. because He has the power to do that to me, and knows how to, i associate biting with dominance where He is concerned, but as far as my biting Him, it's mainly just part of the many things i've done to try to find ways to enhance His pleasure.

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/21/2007 2:11:18 AM

DoctorDubious

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It's almost all been well-said before I got here.

Passion.... abandon.... primal lusts, primal behaviour ....
... that's a big part of whats hot and juicy in both BDSM and vanilla sex, eh?

But if She Who Must Obey
was to bite me hard in the throes of passion,
I'm damned sure the consequences of that lapse
would be so memorable that she'd express her abandon
in an entirely less toothsome way from that point on.

DD, an un-chomped dom
PS... but who am I to say
how another likes to be chawed on...

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/21/2007 2:37:32 AM

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I love being bitten, spanked, taken roughly !!! Lol and when i feel like i want that I instruct my boy to do so, he knows me sexually and knows if we are intimate with each other that by biting my neck he will excite me. Sometimes i like to be bitten hard especially on my nipples, but its a sexual thing not a submissive thing for me, it makes me horny. He would however never bite me without being extremely sure i wanted it and so far he has only ever done it upon command or in a loving way when he nuzzles into me.
Though if i am to bite him its completely different, I bite him because i can, i bite him to show him he is mine and i can do what i like to him, I bite him during cbt and i bite him during lovemaking. Its all down to how your biting and who your biting.

If he did just bite me out of the blue and it was quite painfull and with no motive behind it like to please me sexually then he would be in big big trouble lol

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/21/2007 4:00:33 AM

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As one who is fully and completely submissive and some have even gone so far as to describe me as a slave I do not think it's bad or wrong to bite. If given permission or in the throes of passion. I too am very oral. I warn everyone I serve in bed of this. I like to nip lick nibble and have bitten. Does that make me any less submissive? Absolutely not. I say I have a dominant streak not because I like inflicting pain. I don't but because I am the type who can be demanding. If with the right person I can curb even the demanding part. I have done so. (Is just gonna leave that one alone on this thread)

In every other capacity I fit in the submissive category. I don't like causing pain, I like serving others, I like the being tied up, I like having control taken away, and I like pleasing people. Who am I to say that someone who likes one of these things as a Dom is less Dominant?

This to me is submission. If I bite someone it's cause it's an instinct not because I want to hurt them. I would try my best to curb my instinct if I was ordered to do so. I don't wish to displease my Dom so if allowed to bite or even ordered to bite. I'd do it.

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/21/2007 4:54:08 AM

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ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

For me, it's an act of passion rather than a sadistic one.

So very true! Ditto!

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/21/2007 5:23:13 AM

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It's not a matter of what the activity is, it's more a matter of what one finds pleasurable. My sub sometimes does things to me that would look to be submissive activities on my part, but they are simply things I find enjoyable when we are sexual. It would be extremely limiting to come up with a list of "Dominant" and "submissive" activities, only to be done by the person of that orientation.

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/21/2007 11:14:48 AM

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I have been known to bite in the throes of passon. I have not, to this point, been rebuffed for it.

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RE: submissive biting her Dom is OK??? - 2/21/2007 1:08:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: michaels4evr

According to daddysprop..those like me have no real identity..for I am all..submissive, Dominant, masochistic..Sadistic..not exactly gray..but many techicolor shades of the rainbow..but I am fortunate to be happy in my own skin, no need for the approval of others..or even a community-wide accepted definition of Mme. I just am.

The term for this in the 1970s was polymorphously perverse.

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