LeatherBentOne
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Did it ever occur to you to think OUTSIDE yourself, that maybe it's necessary for a Dominant to "take a break" once in a while to refresh ourselves? After all, we are thinking, making decisions and exerting our control for two people and the good of the relationship if we using our power effectively. That's why we have been given consent to do what we think/feel is in the best interest of all parties ~ because you trust us and have faith in us. One of the things that stumps me as a Dominant is when we have been given that power through supposed trust and faith, does that mean that we must be "ON" all the time? We are not robots either, as some claim we expect our submissives to be. I think that to expect a Dominant to be "ON" all the time is the same as expecting a submissive to be "ON" all the time. In fact, is being "ON" all the time exclusively indigenous to BDSM? I think not. It's part of human nature, and Dominants are human, just as submissives are human.
IMO, I think that SimplyMichael hit the nail on the head. It all comes down to wants, rather than needs being met. Few seem to truly know the difference, much to the shagrin of many Dominants. Just because your Dominant isn't paying constant attention to you, when you think he/she should or when you want it to happen, doesn't have to mean your needs aren't being met, only that your wants are being denied for whatever reason your Dominant chooses to deny them. Period.
Or, maybe your Dominant just needs a breather. Personally, there is nothing that I hate more than feeling pressured by a submissive to exert my dominance at their will. After all, I'm a Dominant whether or not I exibit my control 24/7 or go on a one week hiatus. Just makes me think that some submissives have it all backwards, and NEED to put their sometimes own selfish WANTS behind them. After all, isn't that the crux of your submission? Or, are you submitting to please yourself by requiring constant attention?
Also, consider that there are times when we want to just sit back and reap the fruits of our labor, just like anyone else. Recently, I've had the pleasure to do just that. My water glass was refreshed before half-empty, my ashtray emptied and washed after 2 cigarette butts, the TV remote at my side, the lights just the way that I like them, my sub on the floor at my feet ~ all without a word, hand signal or look in her direction. As a Dominant, I've worked hard with my submissive who is only a few months into BDSM, and it was nice to just sit back, to watch all that I've strived for come into it's own. And what a feeling of pride cast in her direction. Paradoxically, her needs were met in serving my wants.
LBO
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